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Colleague getting more opportunities than me

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BlueDressontheLine · 06/10/2025 09:09

Im on 80% contract. He is full time. Worked at the same place for same amount of time. Ive found out he is getting a say on changes in the team, knows things I don't know and is on the interview panel for a new starter. I have not been offered any opportunities like this. Same grade. Aibu to tackle this with my manager?

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BlueDressontheLine · 06/10/2025 09:19

Overthebow · 06/10/2025 09:16

Have you asked for opportunities or discussed development with your manager? Some people are very good at asking for what they want and things don’t just fall into your lap usually.

As both senior members of staff we must be kept on board with what's going on to run the team effectively.

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BlueDressontheLine · 06/10/2025 09:18

Bobiverse · 06/10/2025 09:12

Is he maybe just better at the job? Sometimes people are just better, so they get groomed for promotion. Do you have performance reviews? How do those go and what are your targets and goals, and how are those being met/managed? If he isn’t any better than you or you think he is being favoured for another reason then think carefully about how to address that’s

If you want more opportunities then definitely speak to your manager, but keep it precessional and start being more assertive about having targets and what you want from the role.

No im better at the job. Excellent reviews all the way through.

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Overthebow · 06/10/2025 09:16

Have you asked for opportunities or discussed development with your manager? Some people are very good at asking for what they want and things don’t just fall into your lap usually.

Bobiverse · 06/10/2025 09:12

Is he maybe just better at the job? Sometimes people are just better, so they get groomed for promotion. Do you have performance reviews? How do those go and what are your targets and goals, and how are those being met/managed? If he isn’t any better than you or you think he is being favoured for another reason then think carefully about how to address that’s

If you want more opportunities then definitely speak to your manager, but keep it precessional and start being more assertive about having targets and what you want from the role.