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To be disappointed that my mom's husband donated things I would have loved

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Kate8889 · 06/10/2025 07:26

My mom husband (I was 23 when they met so don't see him as a father figure) recently donated a big box of video games, consoles etc, I saw it in a box in the garage. I have always wanted to have a video game system but have never been able to afford one.

I asked my mom if I could possibly have some of the items and she said no, these were specifically going for donation to be dropped off at a local store.

I asked if I could possibly buy with a discount, also told no, that there are things that remind him of a past relationship and he doesn't want to see them when he visits my house.

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Kate8889 · 06/10/2025 07:31

Standingtree · 06/10/2025 07:30

Sounds a bit unfair to be honest as you could tidy things away when he comes to your place.
How often does he come to your place anyway.
Do the pair of them do other things to be unkind to you or is it just this.
Perhaps you do have to just except it because they are his things after all.

2-3 times a year maybe

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Kate8889 · 06/10/2025 07:30

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/10/2025 07:28

Not sure what you want people to say here, it was his property and he wanted it gone, fair enough.

I always offer things to family that I think they may like before getting rid, I thought this was common courtesy. It would take me a very long time to save up for these items. He wouldn't tell me where he was donating to.

I moved out because he told me I could no longer listen to my podcast while washing as the floor as it made me go a bit slower.

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Standingtree · 06/10/2025 07:30

Sounds a bit unfair to be honest as you could tidy things away when he comes to your place.
How often does he come to your place anyway.
Do the pair of them do other things to be unkind to you or is it just this.
Perhaps you do have to just except it because they are his things after all.

Jk987 · 06/10/2025 07:29

I think that’s mean of him.

AhWeNoss · 06/10/2025 07:29

You can feel disappointed but it’s his stuff at the end of the day.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/10/2025 07:28

Not sure what you want people to say here, it was his property and he wanted it gone, fair enough.

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