To worry about my child being born around Xmas

My DM was born on Xmas Day and I was born on New Year's Day.

Worst part is the cheapskates who give "combined" Xmas and birthday presents and not having a celebration on your actual b'day 'cos everybody's doing other things.

Consequently, neither of us ever had a "birthday party" as such.

It sounds like all you lovely mums have it happily sorted out. Having a summer birthday sounds a lovely idea.
And in reality OP....what are you going to do about you baby arriving around Christmas ?

I have a Christmas Eve DC.
It’s fine, we make it special.
DC is a teen, and usually goes out with friends to celebrate on the last day of term, instead of actual birthday. But most people would celebrate the nearest weekend rather than their actual birthday, whenever in the year it was.

And their actual birthday is always celebratory - we are very often with family, which is lovely. There’s always a birthday cake and a family meal out - we can take advantage of festive party menus.

We have never had any joint Christmas and birthday presents - everyone always makes sure they are separate and wrapped in different paper.
We started a tradition of a brightly wrapped extra birthday present and card beside their stocking from Father Christmas, and that is now one of the most cherished birthday traditions, and has meant all the other children in the extended family have grown up to consider a Christmas birthday the height of good fortune!

One very slight issue is that where I work, Christmas Eve is a popular annual leave request, so I sometimes have to work until mid afternoon, though DH’s workplace is closed on Christmas Eve, so he is always around. But then, I’m often at work on other DC’s birthday, and they are usually at school, so it’s not much different.

I have a NYD baby and a Boxing day baby.

Its only an issue for other people!

Kids are not bothered, dont feel hard done by, it is what it is.

Only a big deal if you make it one.

You’re asking how bad it is, what about how good it is? Why home in on all the negatives about this? You have to embrace it from day one! It’s so exciting!
There is nothing to be gained from worrying about this when you know that you can’t control it!

Sibling's birthday is Christmas Day. It was always more fun if anything when growing up

I have two friends with this. One of them has had summer parties ever year since she was a kid and her birthday is close family. The other didnt do that but says she loves it because it’s a magical event in the “in between” days and always felt magical and special in the twinkly lights.
I know people with summer Birthdays who hate them.
You make it special for them and make the traditions work.

Mines the first few days of January. As a kid never had parties as such but it always felt so close to Christmas. As I became a teenager I always asked if the Christmas stuff could be taken down beforehand. That way it felt a separation. To be fair it's more a PITA as an adult.

I think it’s fine, the family just has to start flexing their traditions so that any child born at that time does feel special for their day.

The party far from the birthday could happen to an August born too.

My brother is 2nd Jan which isn’t a great day, as people are really done with celebrating. An actual festive day would be preferable I think!

It’s a bit late to be worrying about it now!

In my experience (having a Christmas day baby) the ward was very quiet because no elective c-sections were scheduled, which was a bonus. Also they were having a Christmas pizza party for the midwives so we had any amazing number of staff when there was a bit of an emergency! Baby was delivered by Bob who still had his Santa hat on, at which point I briefly let go of my grip on reality 😁

Not much you can do about it now OP.

My daughters birthday is the 30th of December......she's always been given the option of having smaller presents of her actual birthday and big gifts / a party half way through the year. She always opted for all her gifts on her actual birthday so we just have a meal out or takeaway. She's never had a party because of the risk of people not turning up at that time of year. 😬 But would have friends and all of our family out for a meal instead.

My birthday is Christmas Day.
parents never threw a party because they didn’t have the money, but I did get double the amount of presents.

We opened our Christmas presents in the morning altogether and then my birthday presents in the afternoon. I loved and love being a Christmas Day baby. It feels so special & exciting. Christmas was always a big thing in our household.

Not having a party didn’t bother me, but not having a cake did! My DH makes up for that now and even as an adult I still get double the presents from everyone. The difference I would say is now I’m an adult, it’s a quick ‘Happy Birthday’ in the morning and then it’s like it was never my birthday. 🤣 doesn’t bother me
though as I have children to share my birthday/Christmas with.
One of Whom was born on NYD. So also has a special birthday. They get a party every year. Obviously not on the day, but imagine when they’re of age to go out partying NYE into their birthday. The excitement will be through the roof 😄

Just focus on having a healthy, well cared for baby.

We are a December birthday house.
DD was born on NYE and she absolutely loves it. She loves that every one is celebrating and there's fireworks etc. We have a tradition of all going to a panto on her birthday.
DS and I both have a birthday during the week before Christmas. We basically have two weeks of presents and cake and celebration. It's a really special time of year for our household and I wouldn't change it. You'll always find ways of making it special whenever it falls.

MIL was born on Xmas Eve. She doesn't love it to be honest. Her birthday gets swamped by Xmas.

Recently (in her eighties) she's started having a birthday celebration in June.

As others have said there's nothing you can do it about it.

My DD’s birthday is the 21st. It can be a bit of a pain in the neck sometimes- but when she was little she always had her party on midsummer day (her birthday being midwinter) and a family treat on her actual birthday. I do remember her very first Christmas- we brought her home on Christmas Eve and she and I set up camp on the sofa and DP and my mum brought presents and delicious food all day. It was lovely. Apart from my first post birth poo-which happened during the Queen’s Speech. I could just hear it from the downstairs loo. I don’t think I ever felt the same about the Queen again!

So don’t worry, honestly. It’s not a big deal-even if it feels like one now.

My son is born very close to xmas and it's fine! he loves it! i used to take the tree down for his birthday so it was all about his birthday but he asked me to leave it up a few years ago so we do! he loves always being off school for his bday and we have his party in early Jan. He has one friend sleep over on his actual birthday and we go the cinema or bowling etc on that day. The only negative is the house gets overwhelmed with presents - although less as he's got older

It's a bit of a daft thing to worry about really. There are downsides to lots of birthday times - mine seemed a great time of year when I was little but I hated it as a teen because it was in exam season.
I actually sat two A level papers on my 18th birthday.

My nephew was born on Xmas Eve and it always meant a lovely family party when everyone was around & off work. He had a sort of half birthday thing when he was little but has been fine with when his birthday is as he has got older.

DH (who is a twin) has a birthday near Christmas. He and his twin said it got a bit tedious when they were kids and people would say, 'heres's a gift, it's a combined gift for you both...and it covers both birthday and Christmas " - and they'd assume it would be something substantial, but if fact it was just people being really tight.

My brother has a birthday on Christmas day, was never an issue though, and my mother also gave him gifts on 25th June to make up for it.

No point worrying. Make a big fuss of their birthday each year, hold a party a week or two before or after and ensure they have a family tea party or similar as well on their actual birthday with a fuss, cake, presents - all the works.

Or do as PP suggests and do a half birthday party in the summer, but provided you adequately recognise it and it’s not overshadowed by Christmas on the day, your child will be fine.

I’m on the 28th of December and I LOVE IT! Almost everyone of family/friends is off during that period, I get Christmas gifts and then soon after, birthday gifts.

My birthday is v close to Christmas. It is what it is. You can’t control it or change it so why would you worry about it?

The degree to which its an issue depends on how you as a family manage it.

Its at worst an inconvenience not a disaster though. You are overthinking something which you have no control over. Its not worth the grief.

The biggest challenge is birthday parties, as a child no one is available in the run up to Christmas so we always end up booking things very early December. In terms of presents, we’ve found people actually make more of an effort to make sure my son has separate birthday and Christmas presents, so that’s never been an issue. We also make sure to have a family day out that doesn’t have a Christmas theme, so we’ve done things like the zoo, or a football match. The hard bit is trying to think of different presents to buy at the same time of year, but we’ve always managed. My daughter’s birthday is mid January too, that’s easier as we get Christmas out of the way then see what she got for Christmas and buy her anything she didn’t get. As a pre-teen we haven’t struggled with children been available for a party late January, it’s actually nice to have something to look forward to post Christmas. The other challenge we’ve had with both children is that it’s the time of year for seasonal germs. We once had to rearrange a party as we all had covid, and another where half the children couldn’t come as there was an outbreak of norovirus at school (we made the best of it and opened up the invite to siblings of those who were unaffected, so it was still a good party), but that’s just another joy of the time of year!