To worry about my child being born around Xmas

My birthday is 28 December. Im now in my 40s and always hated having a Christmas birthday. My parents always made sure my birthday was separate to Christmas. Got separate presents.

As a person with a birthday a few days after Christmas I would say generally it is fine, you very much accept the situation you have been given in life. I always had birthday parties as a kid with the usual bouncy castle (indoor), presents and cake and plently of kids attended, I certainly didn't feel like I missed out. I found it more frustrating as a teenager when friends inevitably were doing other things around your birthday and Grannies drifted into PJs that "would do for birthday and Christmas". This was in contrast to my summer baby siblings who always got something nice for their birthday. I say that as that is a time when you don't have a lot of money or agency and look forward to Christmas and birthday gifts.

To be honest it is harder as an adult, especially around big birthdays as it is harder to organise events and you can feel a bit forgotten about in that inbetween time between Christmas and New Year. It never feels like a separate event, but rather part of the general Christmas festivities.

That said I have never had to work or go to school on my birthday. I work in a job where we are always off at Christmas so that is a nice little bonus.

It depends on your priorities though. I know someone who deliberately avoided july/august babies as they were so concerned about it and ended up with two Christmas babies which they say is great.

PS, my mum's is xmas day not great as she does cook the xmas dinner and can't really do much, everything's closed. I don't think that's a brill birthday!

My bday is 23rd Dec, it does make me a bit sad when people wrap birthday present in xmas paper, or forget as it's a busy time. I have a twin so actually sometimes one gift covered four bases. We had a party in June, it was our mum organising it but all the kids were on board and we had a good party! It helps if you like christmas lights/ songs/ tree, so I get a Christmassy birthday. Enjoy your xmassy birth :-)

It’s the best - a whole month of people in the holiday spirit- it feels like they’re celebrating YOU 😄

seriously, don’t over think. I honestly don’t know any negatives, except maybe it’s a bit hectic but you could always celebrate earlier/ later, it really doesn’t matter!

Ds (15) was born on 13/12. It's never even occurred to me to be remotely concerned about anything other than how expensive December is. He's never actually mentioned it either. Maybe I should ask him!

My birthday is the 22nd December so although I do celebrate then,I
have a special half birthday celebration on 22nd June!
Works for me!

My birthday is new year's day and I have loved it all my life. Never had to go to school or work on my birthday. Always celebrated NYE with friends and then meal on new year's day with family and close friends. Admittedly when I was younger only the chinese was open on NYD but there's much more choice nowadays. Not sure how much fun it would be if it wasn't a "special" day.

why worry about something you have no ability to change ?

you could avoid sex in Feb/March next time?

You Are Not Being Unreasonable. I was born 23rd Dec….I had 0 birthday parties growing up at 7 my parents tried to throw a party on my birthday the whole class was invited not a single kid came. Even now no-one ever celebrates my birthday no matter what I plan/organise everyone drops out on the day. Everyone is too busy with their Christmas….they have no wish to celebrate someones birthday. Boyfriends complaining how “expensive” I made Christmas because now they “had to buy me double presents”. And if I did get anything for my birthday it would be wrapped in xmas paper… I have and had lots of friends and lots of family but everyone gets wrapped up in their own special Christmas. So yeah, sorry but as someone who has a “Christmas Birthday” it’s genuinely horrendous. I don’t tell anyone now. I don’t plan anything or try to celebrate. I get a text from siblings and my parents and thats it. So stay off the trampoline, keep your legs locked closed and don’t eat curry until at least New Year.

I am a NYE baby! Absolutely loved it when i was younger because there was always a party to go to or someone up for going out. Now days i don’t love it as much. Its hard to book anything decent to do, i don’t really enjoy nye and presents are usually crap that people were gifted for xmas or got in the sales!

Both my sons were Christmas babies (23rd and 26th December) and they love it. They were never at school on their birthdays and their uni friends were always at home to go out celebrating. They've always enjoyed their Christmas birthdays because it's a full week of celebrations. Don't overthink things is what I'd say, they might enjoy it! It is an expensive time of year for us, but we have all year to save.

My dd is Xmas Eve, she hates it so far but… we’ve tried to explain now she’s getting older that as a grown up teen everyone goes out Xmas Eve ans she will have a blast. She does tend to get forgotten by classmates as she’s never at school but we always did her birthday parties first weekend in December. We don’t do joint presents ever it’s the one thing she insists on. It’s her birthday right up to 6pm then we start to get Christmassy.

Ds is between Christmas and New Year. Sometimes people double up on presents but they double the value so it's the same difference. In fact I think he does better out of it because people who normally wouldn't remember a random birthday will remember his because there is lots of visiting and meeting up that week, so for example friends of mine might bring a little gift for him but wouldn't be seeing our other kids around that time.

He is an outdoor kid and resented that he couldn't do outdoor activities for his birthday. That's the same for anyone born October to April so he's not alone there.

Is it your first? It’s very unusual for a first to come early or on dates. Statistically you are most likely to have an early January baby. Which, I won’t lie to you, is shit. Everybody is poor and partied out, and grumpy. But it is what it is!

I just can't believe how priveleged this woman is. Instead of praying to have a happy healthy baby whenever God plans it, this is what is the stressor in her life. Talk about being disassociated from 99% of the world.

If your kid is past 13, and is making a scene about his or her birthday falling on Christmas, then you need to teach your kid to quit being a freaking brat and be thankful that they even have the resources to have a birthday in the first place, when millions of children don't. This post is so stupid and just shows you how disconnected people are with reality.

My sister has a Christmas Eve birthday and didn’t like it as a child. Our grandmother then donated her own June birthday to her to celebrate then. So she had two, like the Queen. 🤣

I'm between the two and it's not a big deal - I've never known any different. My parents were very strict about forbidden Christmas wrapping to be used on birthday presents, and never got me a joint present for Christmas and birthday, which probably helps. It also means you're old in your school year which is an advantage!

I have a Christmas baby (born in between Christmas and New year). They love their birthday, and have never felt like they have missed out. I was ott about it to be honest, there were no gifts wrapped in Christmas paper, or joint presents. Nor "your birthday at christmas" type cards. I used to take all the decs down but they asked when they were younger if the tree could stay up as they liked it. They haven't had any issues with people coming out to celebrate their birthday (we had a great turn out for their 18th) and their friends are happy to go out as it's still within that festive period. Never felt the need for a summer party. I don't do it for my other children who have birthdays close (a month or so)to the festive period.

a family member says the same. Absolutely no one in the family remembers Christmas Day as their birthday first. It’s always an AND. Also absolutely no kids are around the week after or two to have a party so they always celebrate a month before or a month after. She hated it being lumped together with Christmas.

And now she gets to cook Christmas dinner as well on her birthday. It is what it is though, what can you do

This is so funny, my sister’s birthday is a couple of day’s earlier and we always made sure the decorations were up beforehand to make it really festive before her birthday. Wonder if your niece actually minds either way.

A Gdd was born on 6th Jan, the day the decorations are supposed to come down, so it’s nice to have a different event to celebrate and brighten up the dreary beginning of January.