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Sarah & Dean MAFS UK **No Spoilers**

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 20:46

Just catching up when they’re at the first commitment ceremony and I feel sorry for Sarah with the way the ‘experts’ went on at her for being disrespectful etc…

I felt sorry for her during this episode as they made her feel so small for saying Dean gives her the ick with all the singing and performing but she was telling her fellow contestants. They said she was disrespectful but I think she’s just being honest as she doesn’t fancy him.

Anyone that’s seen it feel they weren’t fair on Sarah?

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:35

TheSixthBestOption · 05/10/2025 22:32

There is a big difference between being "honest" and being mean, judgmental and disrespectful. She was the latter.

So when others ask ‘How’s it’s going’, what would be appropriate to say when you’re not attracted to your OH at all? How would you word it?

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:34

Coconutter24 · 05/10/2025 22:03

She’s spoke awful about him, she’s plain nasty the way she talks about him (to anyone that will listen) and the looks she’s constantly given the camera. It’s one thing to not fancy someone or find them irritating, I myself would find the wrapping cringe but I wouldn’t speak down on him. She thinks she’s far better than him and she’s really not.

I don’t think she thinks she’s far better than him, but you can’t force attraction. He’s clearly a nice guy but plenty of women don’t want a nice guy.

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TheSixthBestOption · 05/10/2025 22:32

There is a big difference between being "honest" and being mean, judgmental and disrespectful. She was the latter.

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:32

Nearly50omg · 05/10/2025 21:38

She was nasty, mean and horrible to her husband! Why the hell would you feel sorry for her?? Unless it’s because she has a face like a bag of spanner’s?😂

Should she keep quiet and not be honest?

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:30

KeenGreen · 05/10/2025 21:32

This^

She mocked him and called him a care bear! This was disrespectful!

It wasn’t her just saying, I haven’t got a physical spark yet.

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I didn’t see it like that at all. It was all in context when she was asked by her fellow contestants. She said she didn’t find him attractive physically and you can’t help that and she did say to him she’s not attracted to him and he knows why.

Should she not tell him why and be honest? I think that’s disingenuous as they’d had the conversation as he asked her directly about his weight and whether she’d been with someone larger and she said no.

She acknowledged he’s a lovely guy as a friend and I think that’s where the care bear comment came in as she was saying he’s lovely, caring etc and like a big cuddly bear. Perhaps it was a bit patronising to say about your DH but I disagree it was in malice.

She doesn’t find him attractive physically and she shouldn’t be shamed for saying why imo

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CoastalCalm · 05/10/2025 22:10

Couldn’t disagree more , the way she went round the first dinner partner and brought him done to everyone she spoke to was vile , it’s fair enough to say she’s not attracted to him initially but she took it way past that point

Sunfloweranddaisy · 05/10/2025 22:09

I agreed with her that the signing and rapping would have given me the ick but then she was just plain rude by going on about his weight and calling him a care bear to anyone who would listen.
Also saying he needs to get tattoos and loose weight, she was being disrespectful.

He isn’t her type which is fine but there is ways of saying it.

Her behaviour needed pulling up which they did.

She should have put leave but she is only there for the limelight and unfortunately for her she isn’t getting the limelight for the right reasons.

QuirkyHorse · 05/10/2025 22:08

I had a bad feeling about her and her face pulling from the hen party.
She's not a nice person.

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 05/10/2025 22:04

Ironically I think they are quite well matched in the looks department.

Coconutter24 · 05/10/2025 22:03

She’s spoke awful about him, she’s plain nasty the way she talks about him (to anyone that will listen) and the looks she’s constantly given the camera. It’s one thing to not fancy someone or find them irritating, I myself would find the wrapping cringe but I wouldn’t speak down on him. She thinks she’s far better than him and she’s really not.

Nearly50omg · 05/10/2025 21:38

She was nasty, mean and horrible to her husband! Why the hell would you feel sorry for her?? Unless it’s because she has a face like a bag of spanner’s?😂

KeenGreen · 05/10/2025 21:32

DoYouReally · 05/10/2025 20:59

There's a difference between not being attracted to someone and slagging them off to anyone who will listen.

This^

She mocked him and called him a care bear! This was disrespectful!

It wasn’t her just saying, I haven’t got a physical spark yet.

TickyandTacky · 05/10/2025 21:02

She was rude and unkind. No man would get away with speaking about a woman like that and we should hold ourselves to the same standards.

DoYouReally · 05/10/2025 20:59

There's a difference between not being attracted to someone and slagging them off to anyone who will listen.