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Sarah & Dean MAFS UK **No Spoilers**

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 20:46

Just catching up when they’re at the first commitment ceremony and I feel sorry for Sarah with the way the ‘experts’ went on at her for being disrespectful etc…

I felt sorry for her during this episode as they made her feel so small for saying Dean gives her the ick with all the singing and performing but she was telling her fellow contestants. They said she was disrespectful but I think she’s just being honest as she doesn’t fancy him.

Anyone that’s seen it feel they weren’t fair on Sarah?

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Coffeetime25 · 06/10/2025 10:00

CandleMug · 06/10/2025 09:53

I disagree with you in the Sarah/Dean stuff but if I agree with you here, Leigh is coming accross like a spoilt brat.

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what was the guys name last year that got hung drawn and quartered for calling his partner fat
yet it perfectly fine for a women to fat shame as man
dont buy the double standards

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CandleMug · 06/10/2025 09:59

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 06/10/2025 09:51

she doesn’t deserve that level of hate. She was clumsy and direct. Which is what the show wants.

Dean however is manipulating the situation for his own ends. Sarah looks haunted. She’s being gaslit by the experts. It’s horrible to watch.

When you look at how Steven has behaved any hasn’t had any sort of the level of hate or much telling off from the experts.

That’s how I’m viewing it, that’s she’s been singled out and shamed for her ‘behaviour’, yet as a viewer (imo) she hasn’t said or done anything worse than the next person. She’s been honest and is getting chastised for it now.

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CandleMug · 06/10/2025 09:53

Coffeetime25 · 06/10/2025 09:49

leigh is a spoilt brat I think all the women on this are possibly air head island rejects

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I disagree with you in the Sarah/Dean stuff but if I agree with you here, Leigh is coming accross like a spoilt brat.

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Pinkfluffypencilcase · 06/10/2025 09:51

she doesn’t deserve that level of hate. She was clumsy and direct. Which is what the show wants.

Dean however is manipulating the situation for his own ends. Sarah looks haunted. She’s being gaslit by the experts. It’s horrible to watch.

When you look at how Steven has behaved any hasn’t had any sort of the level of hate or much telling off from the experts.

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CandleMug · 06/10/2025 09:51

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 06/10/2025 09:45

Sarah is waiting for Maeve and Joe's relationship to show cracks so she can make a move on him.

In terms of Dean when he said he lost weight and it made him a bad person that's a big red flag to me as it sounds like he'd rather be able to say 'girls don't like me because I'm fat' rather than face up to what he can do to change which I suspect is nothing to do with his weight. He's almost trying to pity her into having sex with him which is such an ick.

Yes and she’s not the first to have friend zoned him, it seems to be a pattern for him, so he could keep doing what he’s doing and nothing will change or take responsibility and take heed of the feedback (and stop with the rapping etc)

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Coffeetime25 · 06/10/2025 09:49

MrsMAFs · 06/10/2025 07:22

I think looks wise they're on a par but finding someone attractive isn't just about looks and let's face it, Dean when he starts with his redcoat stuff is annoying.

I think Sarah (or Sarah's) edit let's her down when she repeatedly says she only finds people with tattoos attractive. It's a strange stupid statement. I think finding tattoos attractive is one thing but only finding people with tattoos attractive seems a bit dim and shallow.

I feel sorry for all being pushed into intimacy with people they don't want to be and can't see anything to be gained from that. Although Leah and Leigh there's quite clearly something there I think Leigh is just a slow burner and getting her head around a different 'type'.

leigh is a spoilt brat I think all the women on this are possibly air head island rejects

Coffeetime25 · 06/10/2025 09:46

sarah is downright horrible if he called Sarah a care-bear and said she needed to loose weight and get some tattoos to be physically attractive would you be sticking up for dean
she is immature spoilt and cruel and deserves all the criticism she gets

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 06/10/2025 09:45

Sarah is waiting for Maeve and Joe's relationship to show cracks so she can make a move on him.

In terms of Dean when he said he lost weight and it made him a bad person that's a big red flag to me as it sounds like he'd rather be able to say 'girls don't like me because I'm fat' rather than face up to what he can do to change which I suspect is nothing to do with his weight. He's almost trying to pity her into having sex with him which is such an ick.

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CandleMug · 06/10/2025 09:39

HugelyExpensiveCrystalDuck · 06/10/2025 09:10

I’m only up to the first dinner party but I agree with you @CandleMugthat they are being really down on her, the iperts.. I think k Dean is awful so I understand where Sarah is coming from. She thinks he’s awful too. She seems really shocked and confused at the dinner party that everyone else is getting on so well.

I think she’s truly ridiculous that going on about tattoos all of the time, like really ludicrous.

The ixpersts don’t seem bothered about paul telling his wife he has entered the experiment but doesn’t want to find a wife or Divarni for lying his face off or Ruth Anne for saying her husband was too short.

Like I say, I’m not up to speed yet and I started watching it without having seen or read anything about it at all and I was surprised at how unliked Sarah was and how much people are championing Dean.

Nailed it! Absolutely agree with all of this!

I also think she’s OTT going on about tattoos etc… and what Ruth Ann said about Divarni being too short. In some ways that’s worse as there is nothing that can be done about that, ever.

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HugelyExpensiveCrystalDuck · 06/10/2025 09:10

I’m only up to the first dinner party but I agree with you @CandleMugthat they are being really down on her, the iperts.. I think k Dean is awful so I understand where Sarah is coming from. She thinks he’s awful too. She seems really shocked and confused at the dinner party that everyone else is getting on so well.

I think she’s truly ridiculous that going on about tattoos all of the time, like really ludicrous.

The ixpersts don’t seem bothered about paul telling his wife he has entered the experiment but doesn’t want to find a wife or Divarni for lying his face off or Ruth Anne for saying her husband was too short.

Like I say, I’m not up to speed yet and I started watching it without having seen or read anything about it at all and I was surprised at how unliked Sarah was and how much people are championing Dean.

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CandleMug · 06/10/2025 07:39

Coconutter24 · 06/10/2025 06:49

She 100% does think she’s more attractive than him. You can’t force attraction no and you could tell at the intimacy workshop she was forcing and faking that because of the reaction she got from the experts.

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As other posters have pointed out, she shouldn’t feel forced to be in situations she’s not comfortable in just to keep the peace.

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MrsMAFs · 06/10/2025 07:22

I think looks wise they're on a par but finding someone attractive isn't just about looks and let's face it, Dean when he starts with his redcoat stuff is annoying.

I think Sarah (or Sarah's) edit let's her down when she repeatedly says she only finds people with tattoos attractive. It's a strange stupid statement. I think finding tattoos attractive is one thing but only finding people with tattoos attractive seems a bit dim and shallow.

I feel sorry for all being pushed into intimacy with people they don't want to be and can't see anything to be gained from that. Although Leah and Leigh there's quite clearly something there I think Leigh is just a slow burner and getting her head around a different 'type'.

Frankblackwife · 06/10/2025 07:04

He's actually quite cute in the face, but he is extremely annoying, Sarah solidarity

Coconutter24 · 06/10/2025 06:49

CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:34

I don’t think she thinks she’s far better than him, but you can’t force attraction. He’s clearly a nice guy but plenty of women don’t want a nice guy.

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She 100% does think she’s more attractive than him. You can’t force attraction no and you could tell at the intimacy workshop she was forcing and faking that because of the reaction she got from the experts.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 06/10/2025 01:49

soverymuchdone · 06/10/2025 01:47

I'm finding it very uncomfortable this series watching Sarah, Grace, and Leigh being pressured into intimacy with people they clearly aren't attracted to, and getting unsympathetic edits due to their reluctance to consummate the 'marriage'. It's not fair on them and it's not fair on their partners.

Agree.

And it’s a dangerous message to send about consent and boundaries.

soverymuchdone · 06/10/2025 01:47

I'm finding it very uncomfortable this series watching Sarah, Grace, and Leigh being pressured into intimacy with people they clearly aren't attracted to, and getting unsympathetic edits due to their reluctance to consummate the 'marriage'. It's not fair on them and it's not fair on their partners.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 06/10/2025 01:25

#team Sarah

Shes been thrown under a bus
dean is milking this for all he’s worth

Making them do the intimacy thing this early when she doesn’t fancy him - wrong on all levels

SabrinaThwaite · 05/10/2025 23:17

Nearly50omg · 05/10/2025 21:38

She was nasty, mean and horrible to her husband! Why the hell would you feel sorry for her?? Unless it’s because she has a face like a bag of spanner’s?😂

‘Face like a bag of spanners’.

That’s nasty, mean and horrible.

Well done you.

Nearly50omg · 05/10/2025 23:12

CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:32

Should she keep quiet and not be honest?

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There’s a HUGE difference between being honest and being nasty and mean about someone! She wasn’t pulled up about her behavior by the experts for nothing! The other wives and husbands faces said it all too

TheSixthBestOption · 05/10/2025 23:07

If you can't tell the difference between the two ways of speaking to someone that I mentioned above then not sure there's any point engaging in this thread any more.

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:59

TheSixthBestOption · 05/10/2025 22:43

I would say something like "I dont feel a spark yet and Im not sure if the attraction will grow". Not call him a care bear, make fun of him to everyone you speak to, roll your eyes at him and make rude faces when he talks. Its perfectly possible to be honest without being rude, mean and disrespectful. Imagine if it was the other way around and he said that he wasn't attracted to her as she has a big stomach and he's never dated anyone who isn't "in shape"? Its not a difficult concept to understand how mean and rude she was.

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But they constantly say be honest, open up to your partner etc etc and she did and his weight was mentioned but apparently that’s off the cards and makes you shallow to say you’re not attracted to someone who is over weight. It seems hypocritical to say ‘be honest’ but then scold someone for being just that.

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TheSixthBestOption · 05/10/2025 22:43

CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:35

So when others ask ‘How’s it’s going’, what would be appropriate to say when you’re not attracted to your OH at all? How would you word it?

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I would say something like "I dont feel a spark yet and Im not sure if the attraction will grow". Not call him a care bear, make fun of him to everyone you speak to, roll your eyes at him and make rude faces when he talks. Its perfectly possible to be honest without being rude, mean and disrespectful. Imagine if it was the other way around and he said that he wasn't attracted to her as she has a big stomach and he's never dated anyone who isn't "in shape"? Its not a difficult concept to understand how mean and rude she was.

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:40

MrsMAFs · 05/10/2025 22:38

I do think Sarah was rude and unkind but really felt for her in the intimacy challenge.

I’m not that far on yet 🫣😂

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CandleMug · 05/10/2025 22:39

CoastalCalm · 05/10/2025 22:10

Couldn’t disagree more , the way she went round the first dinner partner and brought him done to everyone she spoke to was vile , it’s fair enough to say she’s not attracted to him initially but she took it way past that point

I think that’s because people keep prying and asking the whys and how’s. So you’d have to be really honest and explain why

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MrsMAFs · 05/10/2025 22:38

I do think Sarah was rude and unkind but really felt for her in the intimacy challenge.