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Sobbing with the pain, sore throat?

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Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:16

I have 0 experience with sore throats or ears but just need some advice

I’ve had some sort of virus for the last week. I’m mostly over it now but have a horrendous sore throat. It has been a 6/10 painwise for the last few days and then over the last 24 hours has genuinely shot up to around a 100/10. I’m not exaggerating when I say I’ve never felt this level of pain before in my entire life. I’m basically climbing the wall with it. Cocodamol/strong nurofen (ibuprofen 400mg) was keeping the pain manageable but over the last few hours it’s become horrendous and nothing is touching it. I’ve genuinely never been in this level of pain before. I’ve looked in my throat- my tonsils are not swollen, no white spots, no quinsy. So it’s just viral. Does that mean there’s no point contacting nhs24 since antibiotics etc won’t help anyway? I really don’t have it in me to go through the whole contacting and waiting for a call back and to go along to an appointment and then for them to say it’s viral just give it more time

the worst part is I still have a bit of a cough (I’m asthmatic so the virus to my chest) and I keep needing to cough but everytime I cough it’s absolutely horrific. I’ve been sobbing all afternoon with it. And I can sort of feel the pain through both ears now too

has anyone ever had this before and got any advice? The closest I’ve ever had to this was a massive deep dental access which was excruciating but this is far far worse

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Sirzy · 05/10/2025 18:50

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:39

Yeah I think I’m going to. I could just cry at the thought of no doubt waiting 10 hours for a call back and having to speak over the phone because it’s so bloody painful, and the online option doesn’t cover Scotland 😭

Is there someone with you who could talk for you on the phone if you give the initial permission? Then you can write responses?

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 05/10/2025 18:50

You really need to go to an actual proper doctor, not a bunch of online random. Gargle with some soluble aspirin in the mean time, bit for goodness sake, go to a real doctor in the morning.

Devilsmommy · 05/10/2025 18:49

Sirzy · 05/10/2025 18:20

Can you get hold of a difflam spray or similar? I have had a lot of issues with sore throats since having glandular fever as a teen and as horrible as they are the sprays do help numb it.

Second this. I had constant sore throats as a teen because of smoking and those sprays were the only thing that numbed it

speakingofart · 05/10/2025 18:49

Please go and get yourself checked - when this happened to me it was a quinsey and if I’d waited another few hours it would have been emergency surgery

GoodGollyMissDolly · 05/10/2025 18:48

Ah I am so sympathetic as a chronic tonsillitis sufferer, throat pain is horrific! It sounds like you need to be seen. In the meantime, have a hot steamy shower and try and keep your throat warm and moist, and if you have hot water bottles then lie your throat/ cheek/ ear on a warm one and sandwich your head with another warm water bottle on the other side - warmth was the only thing that would ever bring any relief x

ThatLilacTiger · 05/10/2025 18:47

The worst sore throat I ever had was when I had flu. I crawled to the doctors and begged them to help with the pain. He swabbed my throat and said it was weird I didn't even flinch but I was just outside my own body with the pain of it. It was influenza A. They couldn't do anything but at least I felt vindicated. I ended up coughing up blood from how irritated my throat was. Shit times.

berrypop · 05/10/2025 18:45

I had Hib Disease a few years ago which started with a horrendous sore throat and developed into a cough. It needed antibiotics. I would contact 111 this evening or GP in the morning.

ScupperedbytheSea · 05/10/2025 18:41

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:38

Yeah I can do that. It doesn’t seem to make it hurt any more or less x

That's something at least, I was worried about meningitis. Keep an eye on that though x

NorthSouthEast · 05/10/2025 18:41

The being unable to speak or swallow makes it sound like quinsey. Please do go and see someone medical asap. Can someone call 111 for you? I had quinsey and found it so hard to speak that I couldn’t really explain to 111 what was wrong and it was only when I saw a doctor at the hospital that I got sorted out. I had the abcess drained and was then admitted for a night to have IV antibiotics. I felt so so awful and went from that to being completely better within 24 hours. But if it bursts it’s bad news so please go and get checked out at A&E or a walk in centre. If 111 can refer you so you get seen quicker that would be useful n

mynameiscalypso · 05/10/2025 18:41

I think you need to be seen, especially if it means you’re having difficulty swallowing. I had something similar this year and ended up in A&E, partly because I was dehydrated which was causing issues with my heart rate and blood pressure. I ended up off work for a month recovering.

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:39

APintOfWine2025 · 05/10/2025 18:36

Please contact 111 who at the least will be able to offer an out of hours doctor. The last thing you want is to panic about the pain and struggle to breathe, setting off your asthma.

Yeah I think I’m going to. I could just cry at the thought of no doubt waiting 10 hours for a call back and having to speak over the phone because it’s so bloody painful, and the online option doesn’t cover Scotland 😭

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Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:38

ScupperedbytheSea · 05/10/2025 18:35

Honestly, the level of pain you're describing sounds like you need to get some medical advice.

Can you dip your chin to touch top of your chest?

Yeah I can do that. It doesn’t seem to make it hurt any more or less x

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Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:37

ExtraOnions · 05/10/2025 18:36

Tonsillitis is really painful, I’ve had it properly, as an Adult, once .. and yep in tears.
Throat Numbing spray (tastes vile but is marvellous), the anaesthetist Strepsils, ice lollies etc .. it does pass.

None of them are working 😭

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ExtraOnions · 05/10/2025 18:36

Tonsillitis is really painful, I’ve had it properly, as an Adult, once .. and yep in tears.
Throat Numbing spray (tastes vile but is marvellous), the anaesthetist Strepsils, ice lollies etc .. it does pass.

APintOfWine2025 · 05/10/2025 18:36

Please contact 111 who at the least will be able to offer an out of hours doctor. The last thing you want is to panic about the pain and struggle to breathe, setting off your asthma.

ScupperedbytheSea · 05/10/2025 18:35

Honestly, the level of pain you're describing sounds like you need to get some medical advice.

Can you dip your chin to touch top of your chest?

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:34

Laffydaffy · 05/10/2025 18:29

Your level of pain needs to be looked at. Also, your asthma could become a problem, especially if it hurts to cough. If nothing else, anxiety and pain can make it worse. Please call the doctor or go to emergency.

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Yeah I’m sort of worried about that- I’m on a MART regime and it hurts my throat SO much to actually inhale and draw in from the inhaler, and then when I have to cough it’s like ripping the skin out my throat

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Nevilla · 05/10/2025 18:32

I gargle with salt water for the regular tonsillitis I get. It makes it go down quite quick. I think years ago whennit was really bad I could stagger painkillers, so something every two hours instead of four. Parecetamol and Ibuprofen but do check as I'm not sure of the doseage. I used to write diwn exactly what i'd taken to make sure i was within guidelines.

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:31

Bambamhoohoo · 05/10/2025 18:28

I don’t think this sounds in any way normal

do you have a temperature?

when you say10/10 pain what’s your previous experience of that? How is it compared to childbirth, pneumonia, broken bones etc?!

My temperature was around 37ish but I’ve been taking regular cocodamil and paracetamol so not sure if that affects it? X

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olderandnonthewiser · 05/10/2025 18:31

You need to be seen.

Cerialkiller · 05/10/2025 18:31

Just because you can't see anything doesn't mean it's not severe enough to see a doctor. A sudden increase or very severe pain is a hall mark of bacterial infection. If could be peri tonsillitis (I've had this and would honestly rather go through labour again!) or any number of things. Go to the doctor.

Stagger doses of painkillers. Save a dose of cocodamol for bed time as it's a cough suppressant. Alternate hot drinks and iced water, take an antihistamine in case the cough is an immune reaction, take a decongestant in case it's something causing the irritation. Double check you aren't overdosing anything, they put paracetamol in lots of things now. I try to buy just the single ingredients eg decongestant now to avoid this. Ibuphrophen is anti inflammatory so will help swelling and pain. I alternative this with codine/cocodamol.

Bambamhoohoo · 05/10/2025 18:31

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:30

I’ve never had any of them but I had a really nasty large deep abcess under my tooth which at the time was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced pain wise and I was one step of smashing it out my face myself. At the time that was probably the worst thing I’ve ever felt but this easily tops it

I think you need to call 111- this pain isn’t part and parcel of a virus. I think you must get it checked x

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 05/10/2025 18:31

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:27

Is it possible to have that if my tonsils look normal? I googled it and looked at the pics and I don’t have any white spots like in the pics x

Yes, you need a doctor to look right down your throat.

Bambamhoohoo · 05/10/2025 18:30

And if Cocodamol/strong nurofen was only just keeping the pain controlled, a numbing spray or ice cream isn’t going to touch the sides 😭

Strawberrysauce3 · 05/10/2025 18:30

Bambamhoohoo · 05/10/2025 18:28

I don’t think this sounds in any way normal

do you have a temperature?

when you say10/10 pain what’s your previous experience of that? How is it compared to childbirth, pneumonia, broken bones etc?!

I’ve never had any of them but I had a really nasty large deep abcess under my tooth which at the time was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced pain wise and I was one step of smashing it out my face myself. At the time that was probably the worst thing I’ve ever felt but this easily tops it

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