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Anyone’s child have a squint?

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Advicefor · 05/10/2025 14:59

I’m really struggling with what to do and I feel let down by NHS and Private. I don’t know what I should be doing to be honest. Please can someone advice:

At age 3 DS developed a squint (might have been earlier but this is when it became noticeable). Basically his right eye in particular would just move by itself and go outwards. He got glasses and was assessed by hospital for 2 years. At age 5 he was allowed to go opticians so I took him there as I felt the hospital was doing very little. They just kept monitoring him and not really helping. I did research on eye exercises but the doctor shut it down and said no I shouldn’t do anything like that. The opticians as well just kept monitoring not helping, we went private healthcare which again doesn’t feel like they are doing anything. It was covered by my husbands medical insurance but Aviva is now telling us they don’t pay for just monitoring so next time we go it will have to be paid by us and if there is to be any treatment etc. they will pay but not for monitoring.

I just feel lost as I have no idea what I should be doing. My GP is rubbish.

Has anyone’s child had a squint and did it go away by itself or was medical intervention needed?

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Advicefor · 05/10/2025 15:55

Thank you so much everyone. I just feel really overwhelmed by it all. Yes he does wear glasses. He’s short sighted but apart from this no one really tells me anything. He’s getting bullied in school too which is really upsetting to hear as the boys have been copying him! He tells me they all try to squint but just cross their eyes.

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Deadringer · 05/10/2025 15:39

There are different types of squints so treatments vary. My dd has a different type of squint in each eye, her father has Dwyane's syndrome but she doesn't. Glasses keep hers straight, she had patches for ages but they didn't improve it one jot. The important thing is that it is being monitored.

Careeradviceplease1234 · 05/10/2025 15:31

Hi Op,

I had a squint from 6 months old, inward turning eye. I wore glasses from then and although I'm hazy on the details I know I had eye patches to help strengthen the weak eye. I couldn't tell you for how long. In my memory it feels like it was for a long time but I'd say in reality it was maybe a few months when I was around 3 or 4.

I then wore glasses every day all the time until I was about 14, when I was then allowed to not wear them for a few hours at a time and by 18 I didn't need them anymore as the eye had strengthened. I was slightly short sighted too but the glasses were primarily for the squint.

I went to the optician once year, a hospital appointment once a year and an appointment with an opthalmic surgeon once a year.

The only time my eye would ever turn now is if I'm very tired or sick and it is very slight. Only my mum or dad would be able to notice it.

I can't remember specifics but I will say that I did wear my glasses all day ever day for the first 14 years of my life. My parents were strict when I was very small and so it was a normal thing for me.

For reference I am 30 born in 1994. So that was the treatment 29.5 years ago. At a time surgery was discussed but for a reason I don't know they didn't go down that route.

Sorry if this is a bit long and not useful. I tried to include the details I know but obviously my mum would tell more I'm sure. I would really push for a proper treatment plan which isn't useful advice because it sounds like your already trying to do that. I am very grateful to my parents for being so insistent on the patches and glasses and it being as corrected as it can be.

mummymissessunshine · 05/10/2025 15:26

Does he have glasses?

next time you see the eye team, ask for someone to explain what the condition is, the longer term expected outcome and treatment options. And for them to confirm where in that plan you currently are.

I have a squint. Diagnosed at age 3. Yes I did the exercises that used to be prescribed. I still have it now when I’m tired.

I wore glasses every day from the age of 3 until I had cataract surgery.

and yes when I’m tired I may squint!!!!

NewDogOwner · 05/10/2025 15:21

We had a little squint and it fixed itself. The muscles get stronger over time. Don't panic. This could happen for yours too.

CMOTDibbler · 05/10/2025 15:13

I have a squint like your sons - I can control it, but my left eye will wander off. Its different to a 'lazy' eye which they do patching for, and from what I understand in my 40 years of having it, surgery for unstable squints (rather than the sort where the eye isn't straight all the time) is less successful - I did have two sets of surgery as a teenager plus did lots of the exercises and still had it. As I wear glasses, I just have prisms in the lenses which make it easier for my eyes to work together and the vast majority of the time you would never know and it doesn't affect me.

Hollowvoice · 05/10/2025 15:10

I would expect patching and/or glasses.
If the glasses are keeping it under control then there may not be a need for anything more right now, hence the monitoring

Itbeginswith · 05/10/2025 15:07

My son has a squint. We were told that as it’s corrected by glasses then surgery isn’t appropriate and be no longer needs any follow up. This has been with two different NHS trusts.

FeministThrowingAPrincessParty · 05/10/2025 15:04

Did the hospital team recommend patching the good eye? My understanding is that it won’t straighten the eye but will strengthen the vision in it. My son does patching for another eye condition www.mkuh.nhs.uk/patient-information-leaflet/occlusion-treatment-eye-patching

Advicefor · 05/10/2025 15:00

My son is 7 now

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