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To feel bitter towards people especially men since losing 8 stone.

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SharpBrickMaker · 05/10/2025 09:58

I lost 8 stone and now im a size 10. I feel so much better, not to mention my back doesn't hurt anymore. Which was a major issue for me before.

I have male neighbours that now say hi to me. Who before didn't even know I existed..They seem quite offended when I dont want to chat. When im trying to cross the road more cars mainly men now stop to let me pass. Men now chat to me outside.
Delivery drivers who have been here before now are very talkative and helpful.

I love wearing dresses just now and feel very sexy in them. I've caught quite a few men stare at me and it makes me mad. I don't wear what I wear for them. I do it for me.

My husband has always found me attractive. He still can't keep his hands off me like before, He quite enjoys picking me up now I think. He has never based my worth on my weight or my attractiveness on it. Because of that I actually feel my love for him has grown.

That's the only reason I haven't turned full blown man hater just now I think

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 05/10/2025 10:03

What are you cross about, exactly? People (particularly men) reacting to you differently now that you’re more conventionally attractive?

Thing is, it would be lovely if we lived in a world where everyone was afforded basic courtesy. However, the sad reality is that people are nicer and respond better to more attractive people. I believe there have been studies on this. I can imagine that it’s a bit of a shock when the world starts engaging with you so differently, though.

Burningbud1981 · 05/10/2025 10:03

The only man’s actions and opinions that should count are your husbands and he sounds like a prince. Stop being bitter enjoy your weight loss and your life