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Wise or protective women role models in literature, films and television.

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RainbowsAndPuddings · 05/10/2025 00:28

A friend of mine is having therapy. One of the tasks she's been set is to come up with names of one wise figure and one protective figure. These can be real life people, or from literature, television or films.

She and I have been discussing this and have found that it's really hard to think of women who fit this category, especially in books, television and film. And she can't think of any man who she could identify with who would fit these roles.

Are we being unreasonable to think there aren't many women portrayed in this manner? We thought we'd ask Mumsnet for suggestions.

OP posts:
showyourquality · 05/10/2025 03:28

Flibbertyfloo · 05/10/2025 00:44

Granny Weatherwax from the Terry Pratchett books.

This was my first thought.

Thelessdeceived · 05/10/2025 03:22

Miss Temple in ‘Jane Eyre’
Margaret Schlegel in ‘Howards End’
Elinor Dashwood in ‘Sense and Sensibility’

TheSandgroper · 05/10/2025 02:33

Deborrah Lee Furniss in Shame for protective.

Crazybooklady · 05/10/2025 00:55

Merritt Wever & Toni Collette in Unbelievable

AngeloMysterioso · 05/10/2025 00:52

In real life JK Rowling

in literature take your pic from most of the female characters in Harry Potter, most notably McGonagall, Molly, Tonks

Bluebay · 05/10/2025 00:46

Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Polgara the sorceress from the Belgariad series

Flibbertyfloo · 05/10/2025 00:44

Granny Weatherwax from the Terry Pratchett books.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 05/10/2025 00:42

The mum in little women?

FKAT · 05/10/2025 00:42

Ripley in the Alien series
Judi Dench's M in Bond
Shuri (??) in Black Panther
Viola Davis in Widows
Jo in Little Women
Charlize Theron in Mad Max Fury Road

I don't watch much telly but Jane Tennyson in Prime Suspect or Miss Marple are wise.

Greggsit · 05/10/2025 00:37

For protective I immediately thought of the hundreds of women in TV police or crime dramas. Think of the women in Law and Order SVU,for instance. Or the Chief in Fire Country

You could also use many of them for wise. Anyone in a senior, mentoring role. Like Bailey (spelling?) in Grey's Anatomy.

Honestly, I think there's plenty of examples.