For the past 9 years we’ve alternated Christmas between my in-laws and my parents. One set live down the road and one set live 5 hours drive away. Three years ago we bought our own home and we’ve finally made it our beautiful home but sadly it’s too small to host everyone. My aibu is that we want Christmas just us in our own house. Both sets of parents will be really upset I know but I just want to do our own thing on our own schedule! All parents are elderly and won’t be here forever but should we put our foot down and enjoy our 8 and 9 year olds magic at home whilst we can? I know the in-laws are down the road but are quite demanding on timescales and expect us to be at their house early Christmas Day. My parents get the joy of Christmas morning as we arrive the day before but are again on their own timescale of drinks late morning/early afternoon with friends before back to do the roast which is priority. I just want a chilled day where we don’t have to be anywhere, kids can enjoy their gifts and us adults can have a drink and relax at home. Sorry, that was long but I feel so selfish
yabu - visit parents
yanbu- stay at home