Being called darling/aw bless by nursing staff

Yes, I think failing to speak to a patient respectfully and affording them dignoty and equality is a very serious issue. I need to feel confident that an hcp views me as the equal of every other stakeholder from ceo/clinical director down.

honestly, unclench

You are the one showing disrespect for the poor staff having to deal with you, not the other way round. I am sure they call Ma'am if you demand it. They're trying to be helpful and put you at ease, but they are in no way inferior to you, you are the one who should show them respect and curtesy instead of insisting they know their place.

Talk about taking things so seriously.

It's precisely because they may be dealing with parts of our bodies that shpuldn't ordinarily be shared, that they should have sufficient respect for the patient to use their name rather than crossing a boundary onto over familiarity. I have a name and I expect hcps to use it. I also don't expect hcps to assume they may use my first name when they address doctors with the respect and courtesy of their titles. It's a respect, dignity and equality issue within a professional relationship. HCP's are not chums.

I love it. Would much rather have a 'darling' nurse than a clinical cold fish.

I think its a class thing.

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I see what you did there

again, personal preference is fine.

Judging the professionalism of nursing staff because they use the word "darling"? Frankly of all the thing we should be bothered about the work of a nurse, her use of the word "darling" should be the very least of our problem

It's such a commonly used word in this context, it has no innuendo, no insinuation, nothing at all.

They're dealing with part of our bodies and bodily functions that no-one really should be dealing with apart from their owner 😂, so if they show a little bit of care, good for them.

They're not your banker or your kids headteacher.

They've always been there. We didn't have to hear from them before.
I think its a class thing.

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To be fair when i was in hospital one nurse in particular was an eye rolling, sarcastic, caustic bag of a woman. I’d rather have been called darling.

I’m from and live in the north. Absolutely normal and not patronising between people of all ages in most settings. I even liked it when used by elderly clients -always with affection. But I’d have hated it between professionals in the office. Hardly ever happened there.

I agree it’s unprofessional and a bit patronising especially the ‘love’ ‘darling’ ‘dear’ etc,
but in slight defence of the use of ‘Aww bless’; I did once work in a care home (only for about a year as it wasn’t for me) but i sometimes found myself saying ‘oh bless you’ because a few of the old residents loved to corner you into hearing the same repeated long monalogue, which was solely about their extensive medical issues (in great graphic detail!) and I’d already heard it 4/5 times but I wanted to listen as it was obviously important to them and they wanted to just rant and have me listen. So I used it to show empathy and that I was listening and I didn’t know what else to say. I don’t think they cared what I said they just wanted to talk to someone. It seemed to be the reaction they wanted in those circumstances but I wouldn’t usually/normally say it.

Also agree that its unprofessional

Im from newcastle and find it incredibly annoying when someone calls me darling.

what an odd thing to be annoyed about. Unprofessional in that context? No, you are being ridiculous.

Fair enough to find it annoying, but chill.

It's a lazy stereotype. I live in the North. I would never do it, and I don't know anyone who would.
We don't all have whippet and flat caps, either!

Agree, OP. It's unprofessional and patronising. Let's face it, if a doctor did the same then everyone would be horrified, so why should nurses get away with it?
I wouldn't mind being called by my first name (as long as they have checked with me first. Some people prefer Mr/Mrs Whatever).

Actually sometimes referring to a patient by their bay and bed number makes sense in the context of a lot of conversations about our patients.

I wasn’t talking about my immediate colleagues - of course I can remember their names, but I often attend meetings with people who I’ve never met before.

Nurses referring to people as bed numbers is appalling. I volunteer at a cat rescue centre where we can have up to 40 cats in residence at any one time. We never refer to individual cats by their pen number, always by their name. If we can manage to do that with cats, nurses ought to be able to make the same effort with humans.

Yes, but you work with your colleagues for more than a few days. Turnover in hospitals can be daily. I've recently been in hospital and I would much rather the staff remembered to monitor me and give me the right treatment rather than faffing about with my name. I was on a 6 bed unit and amongst the staff they referred to us as the bed number!

See I've never heard the " aw bless". I think if I did I'd come back with " did you actually register what I was saying to you? "

They may call doctors 'my lovely', but do they respond to 'Have you done obs on bed 4?' with 'Aw, bless'?

Agree. Husband has been in hospital a great deal over the past couple of years. Many of the nurses did indeed call the doctors my lovely. Didn’t seem to cause any offence.