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To not want seamonkeys in my living room?

81 replies

Fluppys · 04/10/2025 19:06

DH had seamonkeys as a teen.
Recently he got a little set and grew them. Great.
But then his autism kicked in and they became his new fixation and now we have 4 of the small plastic tank sets and two 20 litre tanks in my living room complete with lights, air pumps etc.

Its not like having fish, you can't even see them!

They eat algae so the tanks look filthy and to top it off they are placed on my late grandmothers sidetable as there is genuinely no where else for them to go in here!

Im worried about the side table getting damaged and that is where I usually put my halloween bits and my nativity/decorations at Christmas.

Theres no other room they could go bar out bedroom and i think that would be even worse.

Obviously I can't ask him to pour them away but, omg, i hate them!!

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Fluppys · 04/10/2025 19:20

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 04/10/2025 19:18

Did you not protest at any point?

Not as hard as I should have evidently. I didn't mind the mini ones so much as they can be moved but when he came home with the 2 tanks I should have said no but he was really excited :(

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Fluppys · 04/10/2025 19:18

JennyForeigner · 04/10/2025 19:11

Tbh if you are successfully hatching them you are already a goddess amongst SEN mums. Our autistic, ocean life obsessed, son has tried with every kit known to man. Never got past just about visible.

Edited

I am not hatching them, he is. And hes my husband not my son 🤣

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BuffetTheDietSlayer · 04/10/2025 19:18

Did you not protest at any point?

ShodAndShadySenators · 04/10/2025 19:17

I would hate that. Sounds so messy and cluttered (and leaves no space for seasonal stuff).

The little tanks I could just about tolerate. But 20 litre tanks just for brine shrimp, aka fish food?! Nah.

Not that matters as you won't be able to veto his hobby. It would make me want to leave though. No advice but loads of sympathy...

MrsLizzieDarcy · 04/10/2025 19:16

He may be autistic OP but it's both of your home and you've got a right to say "enough, this is too much". He could add even more if you're not a bit more vocal about it...

JennyForeigner · 04/10/2025 19:11

Tbh if you are successfully hatching them you are already a goddess amongst SEN mums. Our autistic, ocean life obsessed, son has tried with every kit known to man. Never got past just about visible.