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To get 2 kittens?

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Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:47

So I’ve been divorced a year and finally came round to the idea of getting a cat, I think he will be a good companion for the kids and I as we have just moved into our own house. I picked him up a few days ago and he has been great, however my mum has really falllen out with me as she thinks he will ruin the house? I on the other hand had to stop myself from getting his brother so that they can be together?

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PlatinumBrunette · 05/10/2025 16:05

Get two! It's the law 😆

Seriously. I've had two sibling kittens for the past couple of months, and they are SO much easier than the single kitten I had previously.

Of course they'll wreck the house. But the singleton did far more damage than two. Which is odd.
But I guess it depends on what 'wreck' means to you?

Overratedd · 05/10/2025 16:03

Bless them

To get 2 kittens?
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Southshore18 · 05/10/2025 15:53

you are a grows ass women with kids and a house. You can do the hell what you want. Congrats on the kitten and yes, absolutely get the brother. They will keep each other company too! They need lot of attention and having a playmate is fab for them!

AnotherEmma · 05/10/2025 15:52

PlutarchHeavensbee · 04/10/2025 11:55

Don’t get another kitten thinking that they will be company for each other. Kittens are very affectionate when got as a pair - I took two brothers from the same litter 9 years ago - but as soon as they got to about 9 months - total disinterest and in fact they occasionally scrap and hiss at each other if they’re both wanting the same sleeping spot. Cats are solitary animals when they reach maturity and one cat will be absolutely fine on its own.

This.
I followed advice to get two kittens together but should have just got one.
As soon as they become adults they stopped playing and cuddling up with each other.
They tolerated each other at best, but eventually competed for territory, both of them showed signs of stress at various points (weeing in the house, overgrooming, etc).
One of them died a few months ago, I was (and still am) heartbroken but the other cat is loads happier.

Boomer55 · 05/10/2025 15:49

If you get her brother, make sure you get him neutered. As adults, they have no idea of being related. 😳

Katflapkit · 05/10/2025 15:41

Overratedd · 05/10/2025 14:52

I went to pick him up yesterday, they are literally hilarious together

Missed the bloody update. Whoo Hoo. Kitten central at your place. Best wishes to all of you

GoodQueenBess · 05/10/2025 15:23

@Katflapkit (and others), read the OP's updates.

Katflapkit · 05/10/2025 15:21

I am very much into interiors and aesthetics but I think if you buy into kids and pets/cats you have to be a bit flexible with white glove mentality. I brought home twins to 4 one year kittens. It was a bit wild. No regrets and no injuries. Right now I have 2 teenagers and my late mum's cat. Get the other kitten - you know you want to.

LadyHexham · 05/10/2025 15:06

As long as you toilet train it so it doesn't crap in my garden, do what you want.

AgnesX · 05/10/2025 14:59

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:50

I know! She sent me a message last night saying she thought I had more sense! I actually love him and he has settled in really well.

what are cats like together? Is it worth getting them both?

Definitely get two. A sibling relationship is really good for both cats and owners.

You'll get a dual zoomie session though 😊

FuzzyWolf · 05/10/2025 14:58

Kittens can be quite destructive but they are lovely and much happier with another kitten to play with. I’d get his brother as well.

Zempy · 05/10/2025 14:56

Oh how lovely. You need to pay the tax now! Photos!

Overratedd · 05/10/2025 14:52

Daphnedot · 05/10/2025 13:39

Have you decided yet OP. ?

I went to pick him up yesterday, they are literally hilarious together

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Daphnedot · 05/10/2025 13:39

Have you decided yet OP. ?

Crazycatladywithnocats · 04/10/2025 16:05

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:54

And they won’t wreck the house?

Get them some play equipment to keep them amused. Your love for them will outstrip worries you may have about your house. A cat is not big enough or strong enough to “wreck the house” .

GaspingGekko · 04/10/2025 15:56

PlutarchHeavensbee · 04/10/2025 11:55

Don’t get another kitten thinking that they will be company for each other. Kittens are very affectionate when got as a pair - I took two brothers from the same litter 9 years ago - but as soon as they got to about 9 months - total disinterest and in fact they occasionally scrap and hiss at each other if they’re both wanting the same sleeping spot. Cats are solitary animals when they reach maturity and one cat will be absolutely fine on its own.

I agree with this. We got a sibling rescue pair and they hated each other.
In fact one had huge stress issues, licking until he had bald patches, never at home. We tried everything. It was only when his sibling died that his stress vanished amd he started to spend time relaxing in and around the home.

Mumofoneandone · 04/10/2025 15:51

We've kept a pair of kittens from a recent litter - they are great fun together and are together when they want to be and separate at other times. We also have their mum and another older cat and it's fine. Little bit of hissing at times but enough space for them all to go and be alone should they need to!
Definitely go back and get the other kitten!!

Catsbreakfast · 04/10/2025 15:20

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:54

And they won’t wreck the house?

Less likely than with a single. Cats can display destructive behaviour if bored, so having a playmate will take care of this. My two are different ages but they love each other and play nicely

cava14una · 04/10/2025 15:12

GoodQueenBess · 04/10/2025 14:08

DCat brings me presents. Dead rats.

One of mine brought live rabbits!!!!🙀
Two kittens are a great idea mine loved each other

WiddlinDiddlin · 04/10/2025 15:11

I mean, so what if they do add to the normal wear and tear of your home/decor?

So do you simply by living in it.

Homes are for living in - we use stuff, it gets worn, eventually we repair or replace it. If we did nothing that might cause damage, then we'd never sit on the sofa, never walk on the floor, never cook or eat...

All to have a house that looks pristine? Well if thats what floats your boat, you do you... I prefer a scruffy house with animals (not that it isn't possible to have a nice house and animals... I just care care more about the animals than the house personally!).

MoominMai · 04/10/2025 15:04

PlutarchHeavensbee · 04/10/2025 11:55

Don’t get another kitten thinking that they will be company for each other. Kittens are very affectionate when got as a pair - I took two brothers from the same litter 9 years ago - but as soon as they got to about 9 months - total disinterest and in fact they occasionally scrap and hiss at each other if they’re both wanting the same sleeping spot. Cats are solitary animals when they reach maturity and one cat will be absolutely fine on its own.

I think it’s just luck of the draw though. Some will remain bonded as they mature. Some won’t I guess. I’d imagine in the majority of cases of they grew up together especially, they’re more likely to be remain friends. Sometimes the size of the house matters also, if it’s already quite tight with very few rooms just for one cat then perhaps a second isn’t a good idea especially as I think 3 litter trays would be needed as well - one for each and ideally a spare.

Zempy · 04/10/2025 14:20

Definitely get the brother.

Your mother sounds like a total fun sucker.

NotSmallButFunSize · 04/10/2025 14:15

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:54

And they won’t wreck the house?

A single kitten would be more likely to wreck the house than one - they will play together rather than scratch and destroy stuff

KTheGrey · 04/10/2025 14:13

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:51

I can’t see how he will wreck the house? He also uses the litter tray really well. I think dogs are worse, they poo all over etc I don’t understand.

They scratch / sharpen claws on furniture. You
can fix this by getting them a good scratching post.

They quite often vomit, and if you have an upchucker there’s not much to be done except buy some Dr Beckmann’s carpet cleaner and wake up five minutes earlier in case there’s been a Night Time Incident.

Mine are semi feral so they don’t really understand grooming and can get so greasy they leave marks in clean washing.

If you have cats who shed a lot you’ll need a furminator and to brush quite a lot.

😃

Swiftie1878 · 04/10/2025 14:11

Overratedd · 04/10/2025 11:50

I know! She sent me a message last night saying she thought I had more sense! I actually love him and he has settled in really well.

what are cats like together? Is it worth getting them both?

We’ve always had two - a brother and a sister (twice now!). It really helps them, and it’s no more bother than having one.

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