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“We need to stop importing people who hate us”

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OneAmusedShark · 03/10/2025 21:13

Overheard an older couple of Caribbean couple talking about the Manchester attack on the train earlier and one of
them used this phrase.

Someone else (who was getting off at the time) shouted at them “You can’t say that! It’s hate speech!”

I didn’t get involved.

Was it hate speech?

OP posts:
Bananadramaa · 05/10/2025 15:23

SquirrelosaurusSoShiny · 05/10/2025 15:02

This. I'm disgusted at some of the views and behaviours we have pandered to, in terror of being accused of racism. The Rotherham rapists a prime example. I see so many leftist luvvies weeping for 'poor, brave, vulnerable 6ft transwomen' but not a word of support for the actual biological women of Afghanistan who are living in a medieval hell. Shame on the bastards who have turned their backs on women all over the world because it's more important to virtue signal than do good.

Where do you see this? How do you know the lefties luuvies as you call them are not also supportive of Afghan women? Did they say this to you? Did they say “I am supportive of trans women, but don’t care about it Afghan women”???

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 15:21

SquirrelosaurusSoShiny · 05/10/2025 15:02

This. I'm disgusted at some of the views and behaviours we have pandered to, in terror of being accused of racism. The Rotherham rapists a prime example. I see so many leftist luvvies weeping for 'poor, brave, vulnerable 6ft transwomen' but not a word of support for the actual biological women of Afghanistan who are living in a medieval hell. Shame on the bastards who have turned their backs on women all over the world because it's more important to virtue signal than do good.

You've got quite a lot squeezed into that one. Racism, Rotherham, trans, virtue signalling, leftists - Bravo!

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 15:17

JamieCannister · 05/10/2025 14:54

I think that as a country we need to be clear what our values are, and do our best to deport anyone who we can who does not share our values.

Our values - classical liberalism (ie, do what you like, unless it harms others), politeness, rule of law, capitalism (but with a safety net for the unlucky), tolerance (but not of intolerant people), freedom of speech, don't marry close family (just because the royals do it doesn't mean it's British)

So, go and tell @Crowde that although she makes you feel good, you are going to have to vet her dad, uncles and brothers to make sure they are alright because at a helicopter level they are up for the chop.

Are the women ok?

SpiritAdder · 05/10/2025 15:05

Has anyone thought that perhaps these migrants came first with hope of better life and acceptance, but then the reality of the xenophobic hostility they experienced after emigrating to the UK caused a few to feel hatred?

canchewcashew · 05/10/2025 15:03

Not sure how to vote. It's not hate speech, though. It's nothing more or less than common sense.

SquirrelosaurusSoShiny · 05/10/2025 15:02

Crowde · 03/10/2025 22:51

I think we need to be honest about a difficult reality…many parts of the world hold values and societal norms that are fundamentally incompatible with those of the UK. I would love to believe that every human being is inherently good, but that simply isn’t true. In far too many societies, practices like child marriage and the routine abuse of women are not just tolerated but normalised. These views are upheld, not by fringe extremists, but by ordinary people.

It is not acceptable for those attitudes to be imported here. We have fought too hard and come too far in terms of women’s rights to allow misogynistic norms to take root in our society. Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country.

I say this as a British Sikh woman. I am not islamaphobic nor am I seeking approval by appeasing anyone (as I am often accused of when I share my views online).

And quite frankly, I am tired of the middle class tendency to posture and virtue signal under the guise of compassion. This superficial moralism may make some people feel enlightened, but it does nothing to protect women.

Edited

This. I'm disgusted at some of the views and behaviours we have pandered to, in terror of being accused of racism. The Rotherham rapists a prime example. I see so many leftist luvvies weeping for 'poor, brave, vulnerable 6ft transwomen' but not a word of support for the actual biological women of Afghanistan who are living in a medieval hell. Shame on the bastards who have turned their backs on women all over the world because it's more important to virtue signal than do good.

SpiritAdder · 05/10/2025 14:59

Crowde · 03/10/2025 22:51

I think we need to be honest about a difficult reality…many parts of the world hold values and societal norms that are fundamentally incompatible with those of the UK. I would love to believe that every human being is inherently good, but that simply isn’t true. In far too many societies, practices like child marriage and the routine abuse of women are not just tolerated but normalised. These views are upheld, not by fringe extremists, but by ordinary people.

It is not acceptable for those attitudes to be imported here. We have fought too hard and come too far in terms of women’s rights to allow misogynistic norms to take root in our society. Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country.

I say this as a British Sikh woman. I am not islamaphobic nor am I seeking approval by appeasing anyone (as I am often accused of when I share my views online).

And quite frankly, I am tired of the middle class tendency to posture and virtue signal under the guise of compassion. This superficial moralism may make some people feel enlightened, but it does nothing to protect women.

Edited

You could start a petition to keep those gun culture, forced birth, child marriage, wife & child beating Americans in the USA where they belong?

JamieCannister · 05/10/2025 14:54

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 14:48

I understand those regions very well, actually. How do you suggest an immigration system can work based on @Crowde stated positions? What of what she says is usable to form policy? How does it differ to current immigration policy?How much of it is simply jolly nice to hear for flag wavers?

I think that as a country we need to be clear what our values are, and do our best to deport anyone who we can who does not share our values.

Our values - classical liberalism (ie, do what you like, unless it harms others), politeness, rule of law, capitalism (but with a safety net for the unlucky), tolerance (but not of intolerant people), freedom of speech, don't marry close family (just because the royals do it doesn't mean it's British)

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 14:48

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 13:43

No. You are misunderstanding regionalism in countries like India and Pakistan. They are huge, huge countries with massive class and ethnic differences. Anyone from Pakistan would be able to tell you where the people with the most problematic attitudes and beliefs are likely from. Same in India. There is a massive cultural difference between people brought up in rural villages in the middle of India and the educated middle classes who live in the cities. She is saying that if people move to a different country then they cannot be expected to keep belief systems from their village in India and expect it to be tolerated here, because certain parts of that that belief system shouldn't even be tolerated in India, never mind here.

I understand those regions very well, actually. How do you suggest an immigration system can work based on @Crowde stated positions? What of what she says is usable to form policy? How does it differ to current immigration policy?How much of it is simply jolly nice to hear for flag wavers?

Ddakji · 05/10/2025 14:10

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 13:43

No. You are misunderstanding regionalism in countries like India and Pakistan. They are huge, huge countries with massive class and ethnic differences. Anyone from Pakistan would be able to tell you where the people with the most problematic attitudes and beliefs are likely from. Same in India. There is a massive cultural difference between people brought up in rural villages in the middle of India and the educated middle classes who live in the cities. She is saying that if people move to a different country then they cannot be expected to keep belief systems from their village in India and expect it to be tolerated here, because certain parts of that that belief system shouldn't even be tolerated in India, never mind here.

Genuine question - how many (or perhaps how likely is it) people from rural villages in either Pakistan or India, who hold these views, end up emigrating to the UK? It seems to me that you’ve got to have been able to save up a fair amount of money, as well as being pretty go-getting, to make such a move.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 05/10/2025 14:05

No, because it's the truth. But also yes, because the truth is often noticed as part of pattern recognition, and we all know the act of merely noticing things is considered a form of hate these days.

Is it hate speech? No. Is it legally hate speech? Probably, yes.

RingoJuice · 05/10/2025 13:52

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 13:43

No. You are misunderstanding regionalism in countries like India and Pakistan. They are huge, huge countries with massive class and ethnic differences. Anyone from Pakistan would be able to tell you where the people with the most problematic attitudes and beliefs are likely from. Same in India. There is a massive cultural difference between people brought up in rural villages in the middle of India and the educated middle classes who live in the cities. She is saying that if people move to a different country then they cannot be expected to keep belief systems from their village in India and expect it to be tolerated here, because certain parts of that that belief system shouldn't even be tolerated in India, never mind here.

This is why Pakistanis don’t have a particularly bad reputation in the states—they are mostly doctors or other professionals. (It’s illegals from South and Central America that have a bad reputation in the states)

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 13:43

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 12:14

She believes that men socialised in countries where women are subjugated shouldn't be here:
"Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country."

She confirmed that gender inequality is pronounced in South Asia and specifically India:
"I personally wouldn’t want to see people immigrating en masse from the central strip of India which is a region that remains deeply patriarchal and where women are often treated appallingly. That isn’t an attack on Indians, it’s a recognition of the reality that some areas are still socially regressive and resistant to change."

And she is explicit, stating:
"If someone, Muslim, Hindu, Sikh or otherwise, holds backward, misogynistic views, they have no place coming to the UK."

She is British Indian.
"I say this as a British Sikh woman"

Therefore her family - grandfathers, father, uncles, male cousins, and brothers (if first generation naturalised Britons) should not be here, in her opinion.

Clear enough?

No. You are misunderstanding regionalism in countries like India and Pakistan. They are huge, huge countries with massive class and ethnic differences. Anyone from Pakistan would be able to tell you where the people with the most problematic attitudes and beliefs are likely from. Same in India. There is a massive cultural difference between people brought up in rural villages in the middle of India and the educated middle classes who live in the cities. She is saying that if people move to a different country then they cannot be expected to keep belief systems from their village in India and expect it to be tolerated here, because certain parts of that that belief system shouldn't even be tolerated in India, never mind here.

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 13:35

User37482 · 05/10/2025 13:21

Also I don’t want anyone hiding behind my skirts here, I’m not going to defend people who look vaguely similar to me incase I get targeted. Wrong is wrong. If you think forced marriage, FGM, child marriage, control over your wife, antisemitism is fine then thats on you. I’m not responsible for your dire beliefs and I don’t want to be force teamed with people I despise because we share a skin colour.

This. Im not sure who people think asylum seekers from the Middle East are mostly trying to escape from, or who they think is trying to kill them. Its mostly Jihadists trying to kill Kurds/ other Muslim sects/non Muslims/Gay people that they have had to escape from. Not 'Western Imperialists'. How do they think these people feel to have them turn up next door to them after they thought they had escaped them?

User37482 · 05/10/2025 13:21

Also I don’t want anyone hiding behind my skirts here, I’m not going to defend people who look vaguely similar to me incase I get targeted. Wrong is wrong. If you think forced marriage, FGM, child marriage, control over your wife, antisemitism is fine then thats on you. I’m not responsible for your dire beliefs and I don’t want to be force teamed with people I despise because we share a skin colour.

User37482 · 05/10/2025 13:12

Crowde · 03/10/2025 22:51

I think we need to be honest about a difficult reality…many parts of the world hold values and societal norms that are fundamentally incompatible with those of the UK. I would love to believe that every human being is inherently good, but that simply isn’t true. In far too many societies, practices like child marriage and the routine abuse of women are not just tolerated but normalised. These views are upheld, not by fringe extremists, but by ordinary people.

It is not acceptable for those attitudes to be imported here. We have fought too hard and come too far in terms of women’s rights to allow misogynistic norms to take root in our society. Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country.

I say this as a British Sikh woman. I am not islamaphobic nor am I seeking approval by appeasing anyone (as I am often accused of when I share my views online).

And quite frankly, I am tired of the middle class tendency to posture and virtue signal under the guise of compassion. This superficial moralism may make some people feel enlightened, but it does nothing to protect women.

Edited

Another Sikh here and I agree. Jihads dad clearly routinely posted stuff that indicated some alarming views. The manchester bombers parents were asylum seekers, dad was a known islamist yet was given asylum in the UK. We have hamas members living in the uk in council housing for godsake. It’s ridiculous that we don’t see these things as a bar to becoming resident in the UK.

If someone supports any kind of terrorism or intolerance towards others or extreme views on women and gay people, I don’t care if they are Muslim, Sikh, Christian etc etc I don’t want to have to share space with them.

OneAmberFinch · 05/10/2025 12:59

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 12:31

I'm not sure what your point is and I am not convinced that you are either

You're saying that because PP is of Indian Sikh origin, and is critical of mass migration from the misogynistic conservative "central strip of India", she is somehow hypocritical.

I'm really generalising and as I said I don't know her personal circumstances, but Sikhs a) don't tend to be from that region and b) culturally aren't really similar to people from that region, which is why I thought it was odd that you're talking about all Indians (including her family) when she's talking about that specific region.

I have close fellow-immigrant friends who are Muslim, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish etc... who are extremely well-integrated and in good jobs and fitting in well into Britain... what do they have in common? They all come from a) relatively liberal countries to start with and b) were raised with at least some exposure to western values e.g. being middle class Indians who went on holiday to the US or who went to international schools etc. I agree with PP you can't grow up in a mountain village run by warlords and suddenly expect to flourish in 21st century UK, and it's bizarre that we think people can.

KTheGrey · 05/10/2025 12:59

LidlAmaretto · 05/10/2025 11:58

I think we should all ( including and maybe especially The Monarch) should be swearing allegiance to the country. Instead of 'inviting' everyone to swear allegiance to him during his coronation KC should have sworn allegiance to us.

I kind of love that. I think the thinking behind swearing to the monarchy is that the two things are the same - like commutative sums? But yes, it’s just making it explicit that our values include peace and tolerance and stability and respect for the laws of the country we live in and we are universally sworn to those things.

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 12:31

OneAmberFinch · 05/10/2025 12:25

Not clear at all. Her critique is about specific regions and cultures ("the central strip of India" was her example), not countries. India is famously a country with very extreme class and cultural differences within its borders.

I don't know about her specific circumstances but with her specifically being Sikh I think it's hard to draw the conclusion you're drawing.

I'm not sure what your point is and I am not convinced that you are either

Marylou2 · 05/10/2025 12:30

Hate speech?? What the heck? They're absolutely right.

KTheGrey · 05/10/2025 12:30

Gall10 · 05/10/2025 11:51

Well I certainly wouldn’t be fighting to preserve Charlie boy and his bunch of inbreds!

I think the phrase you are looking for is ‘I don’t know’. But it’s a real question - what is a country and what about it is so real and so important we would fight for it?

JHound · 05/10/2025 12:28

Did the other passengers clap?

Timeforabitofpeace · 05/10/2025 12:27

Stirring up trouble, OP. I wonder which party that could be?

OneAmberFinch · 05/10/2025 12:25

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 12:14

She believes that men socialised in countries where women are subjugated shouldn't be here:
"Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country."

She confirmed that gender inequality is pronounced in South Asia and specifically India:
"I personally wouldn’t want to see people immigrating en masse from the central strip of India which is a region that remains deeply patriarchal and where women are often treated appallingly. That isn’t an attack on Indians, it’s a recognition of the reality that some areas are still socially regressive and resistant to change."

And she is explicit, stating:
"If someone, Muslim, Hindu, Sikh or otherwise, holds backward, misogynistic views, they have no place coming to the UK."

She is British Indian.
"I say this as a British Sikh woman"

Therefore her family - grandfathers, father, uncles, male cousins, and brothers (if first generation naturalised Britons) should not be here, in her opinion.

Clear enough?

Not clear at all. Her critique is about specific regions and cultures ("the central strip of India" was her example), not countries. India is famously a country with very extreme class and cultural differences within its borders.

I don't know about her specific circumstances but with her specifically being Sikh I think it's hard to draw the conclusion you're drawing.

FrauPaige · 05/10/2025 12:14

OneAmberFinch · 05/10/2025 11:44

How do you get that from what she said?

She believes that men socialised in countries where women are subjugated shouldn't be here:
"Men who have been socialised in environments where violence and subjugation of women are everyday realities should not be given free rein to bring those mindsets into this country."

She confirmed that gender inequality is pronounced in South Asia and specifically India:
"I personally wouldn’t want to see people immigrating en masse from the central strip of India which is a region that remains deeply patriarchal and where women are often treated appallingly. That isn’t an attack on Indians, it’s a recognition of the reality that some areas are still socially regressive and resistant to change."

And she is explicit, stating:
"If someone, Muslim, Hindu, Sikh or otherwise, holds backward, misogynistic views, they have no place coming to the UK."

She is British Indian.
"I say this as a British Sikh woman"

Therefore her family - grandfathers, father, uncles, male cousins, and brothers (if first generation naturalised Britons) should not be here, in her opinion.

Clear enough?