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Ex demanding I bring him DD.

27 replies

VenusJupiter · 03/10/2025 20:22

He is controlling and I left him end of July. He has gone to a solicitor to seek access . I'm guessing he claimed legal aid by saying I'm the abuser.. I went no contact when I left and only replied to him when he said he was coming over to collect DD. I replied detailing why we won't be seeing him because he is abusive.

Anyway... tonight he has called nonstop via WhatsApp and has demanded I bring him DD. I will not.

I have had to go for legal advice. It's truly awful. He really is the worst. I have a marker on my address and was seeing WA from the time I was living with him. He is a grade A narcissist with everything he has said and done.

I guess he is having a melt down because he feels out of control, but this is something you can't reason with . He wants it all his way and blames you for everything that you have to end up apologising. Everything is on his terms.
I guess if he starts coming to my door again it's harassment.
Do you know if non harassment orders require attending court and being a witness. Have enough on with the solicitor and I just want to enjoy my 6 month old x

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CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 03/10/2025 20:35

Block his number for tonight, until you can speak to your solicitor. If he turns up at the door, do NOT speak to him, just phone the police.

fruitbrewhaha · 03/10/2025 20:26

I think you need legal advice and how to navigate this. He will be able to see his child but how that happens needs to be agreed in court.

Are you breastfeeding? Is there anyone you trust to help with access? Have you informed the police of any abusive behaviour?