Colleague sent me message by mistake

I agree. I was firmly of the view the comment should be reported but OP is as unpleasant as the person who made it.

Wearing scrunch bum leggings implies that the OP WAS in fact trying to draw ATTENTION to her bum, that's the only point to these leggings. Jobs a goodun I guess hey OP?

God forbid anyone of “gasp” size 16 would think about putting a pair of leggings on.
I was totally convinced your shoulder report the misogynist to HR at the start of the thread but it turns out you hold similar putrid views about women you feel are less attractive than yourself .

To be honest Op, you sound like you have a really high opinion of yourself and you have an inflated ego.

Maybe you wanted the deleted message to be about you as you like the attention?

Just leave it - these things happen. Ask yourself the question “have I ever commented on a man’s looks, body, clothes in a positive way to a fellow female colleague “? If the answer is yes - just let it go

It probably didn’t happen to be fair. Op just wanted to brag that she has a nice arse. Most people know not to write things like that on a workplace messaging platform.

So you take the op’s word for it when she says that she so much hotter than the fat ladies she works with, and can wear scrunch leggings because she has an arse to die for.

But you don’t accept that there are women who say that they also feel that they are beautiful women, but don’t feel the need to parade around in such cheap looking clothing and she needs to consider her environment?

I called scrunch leggings trashy, because that’s what they are. Most people I’ve seen in them, must be buying them from cheap websites, because not only are they horrible in design, but they are all bobbly or nasty fabric.

I’ve never been into Mango, Next or Shore and seen them selling scrunch leggings, even when I’ve been into LuLuLemon or Fabletics they don’t sell those leggings. So they are more likely to have come from Amazon or Shein.

The op could I’m sure look beautiful in plenty of other things, as could the ladies she works with, who are not exempt from looking good because of their size, and 16 isn’t even very big if you ask me, certainly not deserving of fat shaming. But those scrunch leggings - glorifying the anus is not the look for anyone, unless you’re a porn obsessed anal fanatic (in my opinion of course) and the message they send is unprofessional and sleazy at best.

The op asked, she got opinions.

Yes, I can. Teams messaging at work is for work matters. I've never seen or sent anything inappropriate.

It's clear the OP is up her own arse when it comes to her arse 😂

-I don’t need my work colleagues to point out I have a nice arse. I know I do. An ex once said if he could choose how he’d leave this earth then he’d spend an afternoon buried underneath it..

So it's fair comment on the part of your colleagues -like he said - you knew what you were doing when you wore those leggings. You wanted attention on your arse and you got it. So you've come back here for more attention on your arse.

This sounds more sexist (and way more derogatory) than the original comment OP was concerned about!

Wow, pages of women telling the OP she didn’t look good in the leggings and leggings are trashy and not suitable workwear. Then tripping over themselves to explain that it’s not jealousy and they too are attractive but too classy to wear leggings. Classic MN.

OP you are young and fit and looked good in your outfit. Your male colleagues appreciated it and messages each other to say so. It’s a non issue really.

Thank you. I can't understand posters who say it's a compliment. Perhaps they're happy to objectified as part of a meat market.

I don’t think you should do anything except reflect on whether that was suitable workwear.

If you want sonething to happen between you tell him, if not I'd keep my mouth firmly shut.

Seriously ?

So you were deliberately trying to flatter your ass by wearing clothes that look spray painted on then seem annoyed that someone noticed that you were deliberately trying to flatter your ass by wearing clothes that look spray painted on?
Ok then
He could obviously just see through you as evidenced by his comment

There's always one

Oh she knew what she was doing - he was absolutely right :)

And I'm afraid that people, women and men will definitely comment to one another when someone puts on a deliberate display.

It wasn't actually that bad a message, a bit unprofessional but she obviously wasn't meant to see it.

OP should take the hint, or shut up and enjoy the attention she wanted.

Absolutely. This made me chuckle, so true.

You obviously did know what you were doing wearing scrunch leggings. The only point of them is to show off a nice arse.
The bigger point is, we may all think it but it's not appropriate to say out loud/write to a colleague.

That is not exactly how sexual harassment is policed, and management should not automatically take the word of the majority. A majority could claim something was "banter" but it could still be harassment.

This is entirely dependent on her role at work and is a separate, dress code, issue which should be dealt with by her managers, not commented on by colleagues, texting like naughty schoolboys.

It's not at all "pervy" for anyone to notice the shape of another person and find it attractive. That's what we are all biologically programmed to do.

The law is very clear, though, about what constitutes sexual harassment at work. And it includes making sexualised comments about other people's appearance.

So it's very simple to know what to do if you if you find a colleague hot. Keep it to yourself.

I agree too. But I wouldn't be so stupid as to send a message to anyone about it. We all judge what people are wearing favourably or otherwise but usually keep that to ourselves.

Yes, if the rest of the office says that there was a discussion about dress code, and a single voice says that it was sleazy leering, then the majority will win the day.