Colleague sent me message by mistake

Male colleague should understand that his comment was out of order, and some businesses would regard it as sexual harassment, and misuse under IT policies.

Op needs to understand that scrunch bum leggings , no matter how good she is lucky enough to look in them, are very 2024.

You were dressed for the evening ‘social’. Didn’t you choose clothes that you looked good in?
But yes, by today’s twisted standards, a man commenting on it is a firing offence. What a world we have built!

I think you should say something about who are you talking about and what do you think they were doing?
But if it was me I would probably try and forget it and then never wear leggings again as I am someone who always avoids conflict!

I posted early on in this thread and hadn't seen the OP's updates, which apparently aren't great.

Why did she dress with her butt crack showing then. She self proclaims she has an amazing arse and she was showing it off. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just silly and too intent on trying to say the 'right thing'. If she wants to show her bottom to the world then fine, but let's just call a spade a spade and recognise it for exactly what it is.

People should understand that employers don't need to prove it. Not to a level of "beyond reasonable doubt".

Employers will police sexual harassment matters on "a balance of probabilities".

He might say he wasn't talking about her prove it.

But then OP came back on here to say how her BF and ex love her ass, repeated their sexualised comments about hers, and then also commented on how her choice of clothing would look awful on her (larger) colleagues.

So she is happy to wear those clothes and show off her asset. She admits she knew what she was doing. She boasts about “compliments” she has received from other men. She is also happy to make comments about the bodies of her female colleagues.

So don’t you think her OP was a little disingenuous?

His message wasn't appropriate (and I'd feel really uncomfortable working alongside him from now on), but neither is wearing leggings riding up your batty to work unless it's a gym. The faux-naiveté of some people that women should be able to wear whatever to wherever and whoever disagrees is jealous or a misogynist is really tired.

Woops forgot to say I don't agree with a colleague sending messages about another colleagues appearance. That is not OK. Personally either I'd ignore it, or if we had that kind of relationship make him know you saw the message just to watch him be embarrassed and squirm. Then laugh it off.

Scrunch bum leggings are not appropriate attire for the workplace.

I like wearing thick black leggings (non scrunch) for comfort but only at home or if I'm outdoors hiking in an area where not too many people are. I don't want my colleagues or friends seeing my arse crack so know it's not OK to wear them without skirts or long tops. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm wearing black leggings today but I have a meeting later with a new person. First thing this morning I was like "got to style this outfit with a skirt so I don't turn up at a new client's house with my arse out". It's just basic decency imo.

I see women in them regularly and there’s nothing quite so ick inducing - particularly the flesh coloured ones.

They are hardly the most flattering item of clothing for the slimmer lady

Well in a work situation you absolutely can, and if you are the employer, should control this.

Colleague shouldn't have said it and "scrunch bum" leggings aren't office wear.

And to demonstrate that she is an self obsessed arse.

😆

I’d probably call him out on it.

“what was the deleted comment about leggings?”
I don’t think I’d report him.

You can’t control people making comments like this however inappropriate.

Death by bottom is a bit much

Goodness, it's almost like everything about the OP's posts are to create the maximum reaction of outrage in both directions...

Interesting, OP, that you recall that you were the only person wearing leggings. I guess you spent quite some time noting what the sea of 'larger lady' colleagues were wearing at this 'forward thinking, ran by strong women' PR firm?

This is particularly funny, because in my experience with PR firms (I haven't worked at one but have worked with several), staff tends to be pretty well turned out.

I also suspect that the OP has previously made bitchy comments on her colleagues clothes choices. I can almost hear her saying ‘I wouldn’t have chosen those leggings if my arse was as big as hers!’.

We do judge people by their appearance, I’m judging the OP to be an attention seeking arse-hole. Quite literally.

So OP isn’t happy with an unprofessional comment about her clothing/appearance and then makes an unprofessional comment herself regarding whether she thinks her colleagues are slim enough to wear a certain outfit.

Pot calling kettle.

So the founder is size 16 or not size 16? Based on your previous post suggesting all your colleagues are the wrong size to wear scrunch leggings.
everyone says they look like a big sphincter from behind so that’s probably what he meant.

You're not a very good person.

The leggings are trashy and not suitable work wear. Have you actually googled ‘Scrunch Leggings’?

I’m now convinced that the guy was just as likely to be mocking her for wearing inappropriate clothes to work/attention seeking vs being sleazy.

OP has a disgustingly inflated sense of ego - she clearly thinks her arse is beautiful annd heaven sent, and nobody else can compare. And a disgusting view of women too - why the hell can’t women over 16 wear leggings?!

They’re just not appropriate for work whatever your size..

Was with you till this and now you can fuck off. I wore leggings at size 16, is there a reason I shouldn't?