Colleague sent me message by mistake

That's terrible.

Really? Well then you’re lucky I guess. Or I’m unlucky. I was born in 1985. And the example I just gave happened to me in the Uk in 2007.

I thought here you were talking about 1972.

Don't make nothing of it? That means she should make something of it.

You sound very unprofessional in regards to work and you also haven't read the OPs posts or you'd see she's in a relationship.

I think the reality for many as it that most of us have worked in places where sexual harassment is completely normalised and often is lashed out at the person that complains. I was “fired” once after complaining that the security guard had smacked my bottom and I turned back to him saying that was completely unacceptable behaviour and if he did it again I would complain. I said it loudly and embarrassed him in front of others so he took it up to the senior manager (a woman) to say I had disrespected him and entered the security area (which he had told me to do as he was sitting at the desk looking at cameras) to show him my bag. She took his side. And suddenly my 40 hour contact became a 0 hour contract. Let’s not pretend it doesn’t happen. It still does. For many women it is a normal thing sadly.

Take it as a compliment. He liked you in leggings and found you hot. Guys do this and chat to other guys about it. if you like him then you can flirt with him next time. If you are not interested, then leave it as if it never happened. Don't make nothing of it. Certainly dont tell HR

At least he was complimenting you. I could take offence at your comment as I regularly wear leggings and I'm a size 16. I'll choose not to as I have my big girl pants on 😀 and can't be bothered with all this preciousness. Women regularly pass comment on the way men look.

to me, these type of leggings give literal baboon….that can’t be sexy. Unless you like fucking apes I guess

Scrunch bum leggings are absolutely hideous. No jealousy here. My self- confidence is built on more than whether or not I have a "cracking arse"

It's not a compliment. Far from it. And I'm in my 60s

It wasn't a compliment.

Having read the OP's subsequent posts I would wonder why was she wearing clothes which are completely inappropriate in a work place and actually serve no purpose other to objectify her.

Hear hear 👏

You're supposed to 'report to the police for sexual harassment ' now.

Which one's? The fun police? 🚨

I’d take it as a compliment. But then I’m in my 50s and from the era when we didn’t get worked up about these things 🙄

Ok, maybe I’ve been living under a rock. I’ve just had to google scrunch leggings. What the F???
Why on earth are you wearing something like that to work op? Really inappropriate.

Ah come on op - is this some kind of weird stealth boast? 😂

I was just about to ask if they were scrunch bum leggings.

Any woman wearing those knows very well what they're doing, so he wasn't wrong. You got just what you wanted.

Jeeze. I'm amazed that someone would wear those to work, even on a casual day.

Yeah same. It’s a compliment. I even wonder if it’s an accidental on purpose message. It could be a way to try and test the waters with you so if you respond positively, great. If you respond negatively, there’s plausible deniability. Mostly likely, a juvenile knob. I’d just be flattered ! 😂

I would have no idea what was meant by this comment but would possibly guess it was a complement. Unprofessional though

Nailed it!

They are for arseless women to give the illusion they have a bum.

If she truly had the backside she claims to have, she wouldn’t need to accentuate it with a bum scrunch. Total attention seeking 😂

Also the assumption that size 16’s don’t wear leggings is wild. What do they wear then out of curiosity?

Curvier ladies would probably rock a pair of leggings better than an ironing board arse like yourself who needs bum scrunch to look like she even has a bum 😂

"Of course not. My point was that they are hardly the most flattering item of clothing for the larger lady."

Sorry OP, I'll get rid of any leggings I have right now....

God forbid a larger lady would want to wear a piece of staple clothing!

You've mentioned "sexual feelings" several times. I have nonsexual feelings whatsoever. What it looks like is an equivalent of the emperor's new clothes.....he wanders around naked thinking he's being admired but people are just amused

Are scrunch leggings the ones where the scrunched bit is designed to look like a bum hole? If so, there may be a generational difference at play in terms of the opinions you’re getting on appropriateness. I’m young and fit enough to still look good in leggings but I remember when I first saw women a few years younger wearing these at the gym, my internal response was ‘what the actual fuck?’ And this is coming from someone who doesn’t normally bat an eyelid at fashion changes. It’s nothing to do with tightness, but just the sheer oddity of leggings that deliberately replicate an intimate body part on the outside. All I can think when I see them is what next? Vulva leggings? The women I see in them with nice figures look nice enough, but that’s definitely in spite of the bum hole part not because of it! 😂 I think that lots of people see them aa pretty absurd clothing, which is likely driving some of the response on here.

Having said that, my view is that if casual wear is ok in the office then these should be as acceptable as casual office wear, even though I personally dislike them. Certainly nobody should be texting about what you’re wearing, especially in a sexualised way. I suppose it’s a bit like in the 1960s when mini skirts were new and viewed by some as genuinely outrageous - likely people gossiped. But you don’t have to brush this under the carpet if you don’t want to and male colleagues should not be making you feel
uncomfortable. Yes, it was arguably a private conversation but there is clear workplace guidance on sexual harassment and you always have to treat your colleagues as colleagues first. Inappropriate conversations aren’t ok just because they’re outside the office. Also, once committed to text there’s always a risk it will be seen or passed on, which is absolutely on him.

ah yes, the ones they market as making your arse look more prominent, usually with an advert showing men staring.

so you were attention seeking at work, just like you are in this post 🤣

This made me chuckle. I can assure you no jealousy here.