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Colleague sent me message by mistake

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Islandhopper10 · 03/10/2025 17:15

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

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Catpiece · 03/10/2025 17:21

Take it as a compliment.

WalkingtheWire · 03/10/2025 17:20

Whether the comment was a compliment or being derogatory, your male colleague is discussing your appearance with another (male?) colleague.

Thats not acceptable and personally I’d be approaching either him, his manager or HR.

Catsknowbest · 03/10/2025 17:19

For sure I would say something.

Canonlythinkofthisone · 03/10/2025 17:18

JustPickleRick · 03/10/2025 17:18

I haven't read that as a bitchy comment, i've read it as she looked good in them 😅 am I wrong?

Thats how I read it. Admiring the OP, albeit inappropriate for Teams in the workplace!

CreteBound · 03/10/2025 17:18

Sounds more like a Pervy comment…assume you look great in leggings OP. But ewwww yuck, he’s a gross man.

Notdanishsusan · 03/10/2025 17:18

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment

I think it’s a man saying her ass looked good.

good user name btw 😉

AlanJohnsonsBeemer · 03/10/2025 17:18

JustPickleRick · 03/10/2025 17:18

I haven't read that as a bitchy comment, i've read it as she looked good in them 😅 am I wrong?

This is what I read, sleazy but not bitchy

HelloGreen · 03/10/2025 17:18

I’d report it and ask that IT look at their message logs.

MissMoneyFairy · 03/10/2025 17:18

I'd ask what did he mean by his comment about your leggings

gorlomi · 03/10/2025 17:18

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment

It's a compliment about her looking hot in the leggings.

it's a turn of phrase. Not sexist what so ever

JustPickleRick · 03/10/2025 17:18

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment

I haven't read that as a bitchy comment, i've read it as she looked good in them 😅 am I wrong?

SunnySideDeepDown · 03/10/2025 17:17

I’ve genuinely no idea what he would have meant by that, is it a (sexist) compliment?

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment