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Islandhopper10 · 2025-10-03T16:15:05+00:00

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress. I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it. It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji. Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it. Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

Notjustabrunette · 03/10/2025 18:24

So there’s a mum that wears scrunch legging on the school run. Every one, even children comment on them. There are some clothes which feel inappropriate as as you can see a clear outline of bum crack and vagina. If a man was wearing tight trousers, where you can see the outline of a penis, there would also be comments. Your colleagues should not be discussing your clothing, but also there’s clothing that in general does get commented on.

Redlocks30 · 03/10/2025 18:23

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me.

So nobody else you work with thought it was appropriate to wear 'scrunch bum' leggings and a tight t-shirt in to the office? Interesting.

CameForAVacationStayedForTheRevolution · 03/10/2025 18:23

OneWittyLemonCat · 03/10/2025 18:14

only if you want him to think you’re illiterate

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😂😂😂

I sometimes wear leggings to work but even I’d draw the line at scrunch bum leggings. Sure, people shouldn’t make comments but yeah……I’d kind of be reflecting how appropriate they were for work….maybe the after work social was a 5k run???

Woompund · 03/10/2025 18:23

Islandhopper10 · 03/10/2025 18:01

I can assure you I was suitably covered thanks and nothing was on show 😂

I best make my other female colleagues aware that if they dare wear leggings or don’t have something baggy covering their mid region then they should expect to be treated like a piece of meat!

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Mate! Scrunch leggings are not 'suitably covered' in a work environment!!

LadeOde · 03/10/2025 18:21

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment

Didn't read that as 'bitchy', read that as @OP is hot in leggings. Either way, very unprofessional.

Hankunamatata · 03/10/2025 18:20

Id pretend you hadn't saw it

Scrunch bum leggings are not even casual workweek

Woompund · 03/10/2025 18:20

OhNoNotSusan · 03/10/2025 17:16

what a bitchy comment

It's not bitchy it's pervy

ChocolateCinderToffee · 03/10/2025 18:20

I’ll be honest, I’d ignore it. On my scale of 1-9 for blokey comments it’s about a 2. The most I’d do we be to say ‘watch who you’re messaging in future Darren’ and leave it at that.

Linenpickle · 03/10/2025 18:19

I think he was being leas than positive. Maybe he felt you were too casual.

Miyagi99 · 03/10/2025 18:19

VikaOlson · 03/10/2025 18:03

"Looking for sculpting leggings that'll enhance your curves and turn heads? If so, Fabletics' scrunch bum leggings are your ultimate wardrobe essential! These butt-lifting leggings are designed to sculpt, lift, and contour your figure, giving you that coveted bubble bum effect."

I mean, you'd be a bit disappointed if no one noticed!

😂

NellieElephantine · 03/10/2025 18:19

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 03/10/2025 18:10

First I’ve ever heard of “scrunch” leggings. Google shows me such images that I must assume the OP works in a gym, as I can’t imagine those being “bog standard” office wear. But then it’s decades since I worked in an office, so what do I know?

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I'd not heard either and google shows these.. although not sure if will make it through any censors here!

NSA2103 · 03/10/2025 18:18

My advice is: ignore and move on.

florenceandthemac · 03/10/2025 18:18

Miyagi99 · 03/10/2025 18:10

It’s not standard wear for the gym either.

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It is at my gym tbf

VikaOlson · 03/10/2025 18:18

FarmGirl78 · 03/10/2025 18:16

Yes of course we (nearly) all find others attractive, and I've certainly commented on it. But I've never commented on it implying they were dressing a certain way for their day at work with the sole objective of turning on the other sex. You can't see that's sleazy? Sleazy that he thinks OP dresses for his pressure.

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What if they were wearing something that was specifically designed to accentuate their booty and give them a bubble butt appearance?

Moonnstars · 03/10/2025 18:18

Sorry but you have absolutely no idea whether it was you he was referring to. You said you had been been messaging back and forth, maybe he was also messaging a friend too outside of work who has no idea who you are. It actually sounds quite big headed you think they would be discussing you (and maybe you were hoping they were). Who's to say they hadn't been to the gym or out somewhere and commenting on some poor women from there.

Miyagi99 · 03/10/2025 18:17

Islandhopper10 · 03/10/2025 18:01

I can assure you I was suitably covered thanks and nothing was on show 😂

I best make my other female colleagues aware that if they dare wear leggings or don’t have something baggy covering their mid region then they should expect to be treated like a piece of meat!

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A few different issues here, there’s objectifying women which was obviously wrong but we know it happens, can report or not depending how you feel about it, there’s wearing leggings to a work thing which would be inappropriate anyway in my place, just because it’s way too casual, then there’s wearing scrunch leggings which were only created to accentuate your arse.

FarmGirl78 · 03/10/2025 18:16

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 03/10/2025 17:22

Has no-one on here ever looked at a bloke and said to a friend “OMG he’s hot/lush/<insert term of choice>”? Not ever?

Honestly the way in which people get worked up about these things,

The fact that we now have messaging etc means that what you say can potentially be seen by the person you’ve said it about, but anyone who says they’ve never made a comment about someone they’ve found attractive is lying.

Yes of course we (nearly) all find others attractive, and I've certainly commented on it. But I've never commented on it implying they were dressing a certain way for their day at work with the sole objective of turning on the other sex. You can't see that's sleazy? Sleazy that he thinks OP dresses for his pressure.

Cotton55 · 03/10/2025 18:14

Balloonhearts · 03/10/2025 17:28

Do the bend and snap. Then you'll know 🤣

🤣

SoftPillow · 03/10/2025 18:14

Is this a reverse?

You wore scrunch leggings and tight T-shirt to a work event, and are complaining that someone has commented on what you wore?

OneWittyLemonCat · 03/10/2025 18:14

chailatte8 · 03/10/2025 18:04

I would message back saying “I seen that”

only if you want him to think you’re illiterate

Growlybear83 · 03/10/2025 18:11

Catpiece · 03/10/2025 17:21

Take it as a compliment.

I agree. I can’t believe that people are seriously suggesting the OP should report this to HR 🤣🤣🤣

SteakBakesAndHotTakes · 03/10/2025 18:11

Bigearringsbigsmile · 03/10/2025 17:59

Where on earth do you work that scrunch fit leggings and a tight t shirt are appropriate??????

😲😲😲😲

Must be a wind up...

Miyagi99 · 03/10/2025 18:10

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 03/10/2025 18:10

First I’ve ever heard of “scrunch” leggings. Google shows me such images that I must assume the OP works in a gym, as I can’t imagine those being “bog standard” office wear. But then it’s decades since I worked in an office, so what do I know?

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It’s not standard wear for the gym either.

Miyagi99 · 03/10/2025 18:10

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 03/10/2025 18:10

First I’ve ever heard of “scrunch” leggings. Google shows me such images that I must assume the OP works in a gym, as I can’t imagine those being “bog standard” office wear. But then it’s decades since I worked in an office, so what do I know?

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It’s not standard wear for the gym either.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 03/10/2025 18:10

VikaOlson · 03/10/2025 17:55

Scrunch leggings are the up the arse ones, aren't they?

I probably wouldn't have worn them to work!

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First I’ve ever heard of “scrunch” leggings. Google shows me such images that I must assume the OP works in a gym, as I can’t imagine those being “bog standard” office wear. But then it’s decades since I worked in an office, so what do I know?