Colleague sent me message by mistake

Really?? Yeesh. Worrying.

@BrokenWingsCantFly As I said, we can control our actions but not our thoughts. Their comment was disgusting, just as disgusting as the OP fat-shaming.

You may have not give your outfit much thought but it sounds like you’ve got a few of your colleagues hot and bothered by your outfit choice

Could have been a woman, it’s pervy definitely but if you’re objectifying yourself by wearing something that is designed to be accentuate your arse (literally their purpose)then don’t be surprised when people comment. They weren’t saying she deserved anything, they said she knew what she was doing. We should really all agree on that, just not it should have been commented on in a work environment, just like scrunch leggings shouldn’t be worn in a work environment.

Drop him a message saying you are glad he noticed your leggings!!That will shut him up. Crass comment but dont report it.

Scrunch leggings are those leggings that go into the buttocks right? Where do you work that you can dress so inappropriately? A gym?

The OP just tried to publicly shame all of her female colleagues making out they could wear scrunch leggings, so is hardly whiter than white.

Scrunch leggings are vulgar and certainly not for the workplace. Their whole purpose is to make the bum look shapely and stand out, leavimg nothing to the imagination, so if the guy thought she knew what she was doing is in trying to draw attention to her arse and figure. Yes she did.

I bet many of the female colleges also commented to others in the same way. Attention seeker gets attention, just as she expected. The guy was just stupid enough to give her the satisfaction by sending the message to her by mistake. He quickly deleted when realised the error. Could just have easily have come from a female college in this instance

Normal leggings she may have had a point as they are not designed with the sole purpose of showing off the arse

I highly doubt this is genuine. On the off chance that it is…..Whilst dress codes in the work place have significantly relaxed in the last few years, particularly since Covid, I do not think that “scrunch bum” leggings and a tight t shirt are appropriate work place attire. Unless you work in a gym? I also fail to see the relevance of the dress size of your female colleagues.
That said, he was a pig to comment on it, but I would do or say nothing,

Just think it's amusing that op automatically assumes the comments about her! They could have been discussing some on social media or tv!

Are you high? It's completely sexist and inappropriate and doesn't matter whether positive or otherwise you don't email colleagues about another colleagues body especially with sexual overtones (she was hot, making him hot) and especially not the absolutely outrageous she knows what she was doing like the OP was inviting comments and objectification of her body because of her trouser choice. I would go to HR immediately it has total victim blaming she was asking for it vibes and is abhorrent

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Maybe you were sweating so much you had sweat patches on your groin and backside and were a bit pongy.

This has got to be a wind up.

Also, average size 16 so wouldnt have leggings in their wardrobe... WTF

All this does, OP, is reinforce the fact that you did indeed know exactly what you were doing and that your intentions were to garner attention for your arse...

Meaning they wouldn't look good in them . So how come it's wrong for others to think you do?

After reading all of OP's updates, I suspect the colleague wasn't being complimentary, I suspect it's an in-joke they all have about her. She thinks she's queen bee, and they enjoy laughing about her behind her back.

That’s an insult to women who do actually suffer abuse. You should be ashamed of yourself

It seems like you dressed to get attention because "look at me ,look at me" the other women are size 16 and over so probably don't have tight legging and tops like I do.I think you've come on here to get attention about getting attention. Your colleague was right, and they've sussed you out.

Elevate like my arse cheeks should be in those leggings.

You were wrong to wear those leggings with a short top at work. They're very attention seeking and I can't work out why people wear tgem and insist we look at their arse.

but he was a dick head to message what he did.

I definitely wouldn't be reporting it. You don't 100% know it was about you. Imagine if you reported it and it turned out to be about someone else. You'd come across as very up yourself.

I didn't say it about anyone. I said that might be the reason for the message. The out shining the other women is basically what the OP said about leggings and her female Colleagues, not me. Maybe read the thread before you make those accusations and my post correctly. Thanks.

Urgh no, you don’t discuss your physical reaction and attach a mindset to someone based on what they are wearing ..that is abusive…it’s not reacting to discomfort by say sending “I think we should ask for clothing standards to be restated” …it was a pervy comment about a colleague

This is not real

You said this :
”Good one OP. You knew what you were doing and he’s just pointed that out.”

in which you say you can tell someone’s thoughts and wishes from their clothes ..this is straight from an abuser mindset