Colleague sent me message by mistake

Then don't look 👍 clothes are clothes. She got dressed. Your sexual feelings aren't anyone else's problem

What bothers me more about the message is the "she knew what she was doing..." part, like OP was just wearing those leggings to make herself attractive to colleagues?

Not appropriate attire for any kind of meeting in any kind of business on the planet. Wears clothes to get attention then complains about the attention. No one wants to see your arse regardless of how lovely it apparently is !

Scrunch bum leggings are literally designed to show off your arse so his comment was correct - you knew this when you bought them and chose to wear them. You can't really feign offense at someone noticing your bum in trousers designed to show off your bum.

It was still a pervy unnecessary comment for your colleague to make though.

My take home is.... You shouldn't really be wearing them in the office, but also your colleagues should not be making any sort if sexual comments towards you in the office either.

I’m crying laughing at some of these posts - thank you, OP, for this gem of a thread on a Friday night!

Scrunch leggings are the below-the-waist equivalent of wandering around the office wearing a Wonderbra, OP! They are designed purely to be sexually provocative, and I’m afraid that I, too, think you knew exactly what you were doing…

With respect to my colleagues, and I love most of the ladies dearly. But the average size is probably 16, so I don’t think leggings feature too prominently in their wardrobe!

This. Isn’t. The. Clever. Comment. You. Thought. It. Was.

Oh yeah I DEFINITELY said that, and you are so within your rights to say anyone who doesn't think accidentally messaging something NOT INTENDED TO HARASS AT ALL (because it was meant for someone else) is a crime, are horny and stupid teenagers who just need you to help them understand the adult world 🥹

No, you're not ever meant to have opinions about your work colleague's appearance. I really don't know which part of this you're finding so difficult. Do you need me to draw you a diagram with crayons or something? Don't. Make. Comments. On. Work. Colleagues. Bodies. That's it.

Speaking of keeping opinions to themselves….

Is no one to have an opinion on anything any more? You seem mighty opinionated. Is it just the physical aspects of another that someone shouldn’t have an opinion about? What about the non physical aspects of a person? Can we have opinions about those? Can we have an opinion, say, on a person’s intentions or perceived intentions? On their choices? On their values? Or should we refrain from comment on another full stop?

Of course not. My point was that they are hardly the most flattering item of clothing for the larger lady.

I think we are all meant to sit in silence and not have a single thought about anyone or anything. Ever.

Now just waiting for the ‘this wasn’t the clever comment you thought it was’ line.

I think we are all meant to sit in silence and not have a single thought about anyone or anything. Ever.

Now just waiting for the ‘this wasn’t the clever comment you thought it was’ line.

It's a compliment about her looking hot in the leggings.

it's a turn of phrase. Not sexist what so ever

I'm reading this with great interest. Last year on an inset day we had primary colleagues join us at my secondary school. One colleague was in beige, scrunch-bum leggings with a tight top. EVERYONE was uncomfortable, including my male friends who said it was difficult to know where to look, as she was presenting at one point - in close proximity to many groups, bending over desks to answer questions etc.

She had been nowhere near a gym on the way either, as she had a full face of make-up & discussed at one point rushing out the door to get to us as she'd mis-timed her journey.

Honestly, folk still talk about it on occasion, as in 'Remember that teacher...' No-one's judging- she did indeed have a fabulous backside- but it was so inappropriate.

We have many young, beautiful PE teachers of both sexes, who wear sports clothing, some of which is tight fitting, but it's worn with a longer top/ sweatshirt- we work with teenagers FGS, it needs to be carefully considered.

It's the "she knows what she's doing" bit that pretty much sums up misogyny. It was a common phrase amongst drooling middle aged, pot bellied blokes back in the 70's when I was a teenager in my first job. They'd say "you know just what you're doing", so putting the onous on me for existing (and presumably being nothing more than a slag) rather than them being gross and married fucking perverts.

Speaking of keeping opinions to themselves….

Is no one to have an opinion on anything any more? You seem mighty opinionated. Is it just the physical aspects of another that someone shouldn’t have an opinion about? What about the non physical aspects of a person? Can we have opinions about those? Can we have an opinion, say, on a person’s intentions or perceived intentions? On their choices? On their values? Or should we refrain from comment on another full stop?