AIBU to want to kill a colleague?

Snugglemonkey · 2025-10-02T13:26:44+00:00

I was asked by a colleague,on Monday, for a time to have a call and quick discussion. I emailed my availability. I got a reply on Tuesday, asking for a time I said I was on another call. I gave my availability for the whole week. There is a time difference which sometimes causes von, so I was very clear that all times were his time. Wednesday, I get "Now works for me, are you free?". No I was not, it was a time I had blocked out to be on another call. This happened twice. This morning it happened again. Each time I replied specifying when I am free, when I am not free. Tomorrow I am generally free most of the day, just have calls 9-11 and 1-2. He has asked to be slotted in at 10. Fuck this man. It is melting my head.

Namechange822 · 05/10/2025 04:18

Is he for some reason purposely trying to look collaborative but not meet you?

For example, might he think that if you meet he will have to revise his chapter (could he perhaps know from earlier notes that it significantly overlaps yours?). But that if he does this irritating dance he can “show evidence” that he tried to meet to the editor and they’ll make you rewrite yours?

GreenWheat · 05/10/2025 04:02

Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 20:15

They are behind. He is EST and that is 5 hours behind GMT.

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Yes exactly,and I am saying anyone in the US who works with Europeans would surely be aware of that. My response was to the poster that said he might have got it the wrong way round. If he has, then what a buffoon!

Shitmonger · 04/10/2025 20:37

Oh if he lives in the US that’s easy.

A) Get on plane
B) Arrive in States
C) Buy gun
D) Shoot colleague
E) Dispose of colleague’s body in nearest Large Body of Water (v common in eastern US)
F) Enjoy local sights
G) Dispose of gun (Alternatively, smuggle gun back to Britain in case of Troublesome Neighbours)
H) Write bestselling novel titled “Murder Vacation”

Simple.

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Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 20:20

Ty everyone. I'm glad I am not the only one who finds murder appropriate 🤣🤣🤣

I have sent one email stating my availability this week and have said that perhaps if our schedules just don't align, the editor can sort out any overlap.

It just irks me because one or both of us may need to do rewriting that is totally unnecessary if we had a simple conversation now! If it is me, I will look at the anthrax option 🤣

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Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 20:15

GreenWheat · 04/10/2025 16:50

Surely only an utter doughnut doesn't realise that the USA is behind Europe, especially if he's working with people in Europe?

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They are behind. He is EST and that is 5 hours behind GMT.

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GreenWheat · 04/10/2025 16:50

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 04/10/2025 11:01

He's probably got the time difference the wrong way round.
But I agree he's annoying.

Surely only an utter doughnut doesn't realise that the USA is behind Europe, especially if he's working with people in Europe?

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 04/10/2025 11:01

He's probably got the time difference the wrong way round.
But I agree he's annoying.

Namechangedforthis25 · 04/10/2025 10:59

Just be really firm:

as mentioned I am only free during these times - please choose one of those times and not any other.

PhoenixReincarnated · 04/10/2025 10:55

If he's like this with other people then I'm only surprised that he's not already dead 🤔🙄

Swiftie1878 · 04/10/2025 10:47

Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 10:43

It feels like aa power play. Though then I questioned whether that is fair of me.

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I wouldn’t say it’s a power play, I’d say it’s just a typical ‘can’t read a f*ing e-mail’ ineptitude.
Take him out of the meeting organisation responsibility. Arrange the meeting at a time that suits you and send him the invite.
Job done.

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Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 10:43

FamilyPhoto · 03/10/2025 16:27

Its a power play isn't it.
Moron - him, not you @Snugglemonkey .
I once had a male tosser colleague tell me Id have to cancel leave to have a non urgent meeting with him. Told him no fing chance. ( I was taking my 7 yr old for an MRI)

It feels like aa power play. Though then I questioned whether that is fair of me.

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Snugglemonkey · 04/10/2025 10:42

Pices · 03/10/2025 15:26

@BrightSpark10 My understanding is that they aren’t in the same outlook system as they’re both consultants. This would be fairly straightforward to check each others availability if they both had a company email/outlook. Either that or the OP is as annoying as he is!

You are right. We are not on any shared system. We do not work for a company, we are both self employed and merely contributing to the same project.

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Snugglemonkey · 03/10/2025 20:35

IchiNiSanShiGo · 03/10/2025 10:17

Really hope you’re contributing to some sort of crime anthology, and this becomes the plot of your story - 2 crime authors who’ve never met, 1 driven to murder by the other’s inability to comprehend a simple fucking email 😂

🤣🤣🤣

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FamilyPhoto · 03/10/2025 16:27

Its a power play isn't it.
Moron - him, not you @Snugglemonkey .
I once had a male tosser colleague tell me Id have to cancel leave to have a non urgent meeting with him. Told him no fing chance. ( I was taking my 7 yr old for an MRI)

JoshLymanSwagger · 03/10/2025 16:22

@Snugglemonkey Tell him you're available between 8am and noon every day (our time) make the prick get up early.
assuming he reads he bloody email

C152 · 03/10/2025 15:57

I'd just keep forwarding the original email that had my availability for the whole week on it. Don't give him a second thought after that.

Pices · 03/10/2025 15:26

@BrightSpark10 My understanding is that they aren’t in the same outlook system as they’re both consultants. This would be fairly straightforward to check each others availability if they both had a company email/outlook. Either that or the OP is as annoying as he is!

PurpleAxe · 03/10/2025 13:15

You are not allowed to kill people because they are annoying. I have checked.

99bottlesofkombucha · 03/10/2025 13:07

Ddakji · 03/10/2025 10:27

This is why no one should be expected to bring their whole self to work. Half my colleagues would be dead by lunchtime, and the other half by the following morning.

You’re really assuming you’d be top of the food chain here if everyone brought their whole selves to work aren’t you 😂😂 your liberated colleagues might not stand still waiting to be mown down!

BrightSpark10 · 03/10/2025 13:02

Woompund · 03/10/2025 10:09

This doesn't help if OP doesn't know his availability- there is zero chance the guy will check his calendar and if not available respond proposing a new time that OP is available. In any case he should send the invite, he has OP's availability and she doesn't have his.

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You can check someone’s availability in Outlook even if their calendar is “blocked” and you can’t see the details. When sending an invite, go to the top and select Scheduling Assistant. This will display each person’s availability hour by hour, if time is booked, it will appear greyed out, and if it’s free, it will show as blank.

I didn’t say that OP must send an invite, it works both ways, one of them can send the invite and book proper time

BuckChuckets · 03/10/2025 12:08

I wouldn't be sending him your availability again or suggesting times. Fuck him! I'd now reply every time with the same sentence each time - something like please refer to my previous email sharing my availability. I'm fuming for you.

Pices · 03/10/2025 11:46

Just send a bloody invite. If it doesn’t work for him he can suggest another time in the invite.

Ddakji · 03/10/2025 10:27

This is why no one should be expected to bring their whole self to work. Half my colleagues would be dead by lunchtime, and the other half by the following morning.

GreenWheat · 03/10/2025 10:21

Send him a Teams/Zoom invite for a time that suits you, being really clear about what time that is for you and for him. Then leave it. Extra points if you arrange it for the week of 27th October, when he'll only be four hours behind instead of five, and his head explodes! 😁

IchiNiSanShiGo · 03/10/2025 10:17

Really hope you’re contributing to some sort of crime anthology, and this becomes the plot of your story - 2 crime authors who’ve never met, 1 driven to murder by the other’s inability to comprehend a simple fucking email 😂