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Child ran away from DS

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:11

I was walking DS up to school this morning. He’s 4 and started reception in September. He has asd and adhd. He loves to run so he usually runs off a little bit ahead of me. There was a child from his class just in front of him and when she saw him she jumped and hid behind her dad.

I felt a bit upset by this as I’d hate if he scared anybody. He’s been doing really well in school and I’ve not had any complaints from the teacher.

I noticed the dad gave me a dirty look as I walked past which was uncomfortable.

Any other parents with children with asd who have been in situations like this and if so, how to handle them. Just ignore? It’s hard not to feel judged

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LoveWine123 · 02/10/2025 09:35

This really is a non-issue, I wouldn’t overthink it. He could have scared her, she could also have additional needs, it just doesn’t matter. This is nothing in the grand scheme of things, just let it go.

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:32

Thanks everyone. You’ve made me realise there could be a handful of reasons as to why she reacted to him running towards her. The teacher has never said anything to me about him being nasty to the other children so I’m more than likely over thinking (as usual!)

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AnneLovesGilbert · 02/10/2025 09:29

Maybe the dad had had a difficult morning as she didn’t want to go to school and she was finally calm but caught off guard by someone running past her. Impossible to know. Maybe the kids don’t get on and she’s told her dad. Could be nothing to do with your son. I’d try not to worry.

Goldbar · 02/10/2025 09:28

Another one for overthinking things. A lot of children find some aspects of school difficult. This girl might find some children, including your DS, overwhelming. That's not his fault or responsibility if he's behaving nicely in the classroom and playground.

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:22

Yeah I do tend to over think things to be fair

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WishIcouldstay · 02/10/2025 09:21

Maybe check with the teacher to see how he’s getting on in class?
Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it. Maybe it’s a them problem not a you problem iyswim.

QuickPeachPoet · 02/10/2025 09:21

You're massively overthinking this. They are 4 - he is hardly a grown man intimidating a woman. This kid may have a very sheltered life and is easily startled by more active (boisterous) boys.

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:21

@Darragon Could be this I guess! It was just with the dad’s dirty look. Hopefully it’s this rather than her actually being scared of him

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Darragon · 02/10/2025 09:20

Was she just playing around? DD3 has done this once or twice at nursery drop off and it’s just her pretending to be scared of someone who is actually her friend.

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:19

I have no idea why she was scared. He was just running up to the school gates and as soon as she saw him she kind of jumped and quickly hid behind her dad

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Orangedreams · 02/10/2025 09:18

WishIcouldstay · 02/10/2025 09:14

Was she scared of him running? Was he being noisy or boisterous or something? Sorry, I don’t quite understand why she was scared and the dad’s dirty look etc.

I don’t know, he wasn’t being noisy or boisterous he was just running. I just got the impression that he scared her especially as she hid behind her dad. It could have been from him running and maybe he took her by surprise I guess but with the dads dirty look I presumed maybe he scares people in class. I know that’s awful to say but having him been judged in the past it’s hard not to think these things😞

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ComfortFoodCafe · 02/10/2025 09:18

Why was she scared?

WishIcouldstay · 02/10/2025 09:14

Was she scared of him running? Was he being noisy or boisterous or something? Sorry, I don’t quite understand why she was scared and the dad’s dirty look etc.