AIBU for being mad at my little sister for telling three hoodies where she's from when they asked her "You from around here?"?

while i agree that she shouldn’t have volunteered that information, if they wanted to harm her, they could just have followed her anyway and find out where she lives that way.

Saying that these incidents are just intergang conflicts is comfortable and makes it easier to understand in that they would then be logical outcomes by mutually bad actors, and therefore deserved - but they are anything but that

I'm not saying the people who get hurt are always in a gang unfortunately that applies to the ops friend and I hope he is ok but I do think it is predominantly related to being in a gang.

I don't for one minute believe there is this supposedly wide spread issue of people assaulting strangers in the way the OP describes.

Her sister of course shouldn't be filming and engaging in discussions with these people if they are known to cause trouble but unfortunately she is an adult so the OP can only advise her not force her to follow this sensible advice.

I don’t think you can say they are famous for this sort of thin, I’ve never heard of it. And what would have happened had she refused to answer? Surely that would have been more likely to escalate if the man had had bad intent.

I think you sound quite paranoid. Where I the uk do you live?

I’m sorry to hear about your friend but this is not reflective of the whole of the UK.

I think you need to have a word with your sister about how conspicuously recording these videos in public is placing her in a vulnerable position.

This whole thing is just bizarre

It’s not a usual thing in the UK at all. My DH has been a police officer for 19 years across Essex, Suffolk and the midlands and when I mentioned it to him he said it would only happen in areas where there is an ongoing turf war which crop up and fade away. They’d only target people they thought were in a rival gang. OP might have this in her area but it’s NOT usual.

i have 2 DC and nothing like this has ever happened to them in our town or where they are both living up north. I also don’t see random lads hanging around talking to strangers.

Also at 23 I wouldn’t chat to randoms. I was in a professional job and mixed with adults. The sister is acting like a young teenager.

It may look crazy from the outside looking in but these things happen. These are just young people living their lives that by accident of birth or socio-economic circumstance live in areas of disfunction. One misstep can result in tragedy.

Saying that these incidents are just intergang conflicts is comfortable and makes it easier to understand in that they would then be logical outcomes by mutually bad actors, and therefore deserved - but they are anything but that.

@concernedbigsis I dunno what to suggest. But your sister shouldn't tell people where you live.

Also, the track suit is identifying her as a possible member of that section of society.

I know she has a circulation condition so needs to be warm but perhaps she should think about swapping out the track suit, and wearing other warn clothing.

There are loads of options flattering for different body types that would elevate her from the hoodie gaze while allowing her to still look on-trend.

I'm not trying to judge, I've genuinely never heard of this almost epidemic scale level of hoodied baseball cap wearing thugs assaulting random strangers for incorrectly answering a question. I'm curious which part of the UK the OP resides in where this is so prevelent. I do however know several people who you wouldn't have suspected were in a gang who have sadly suffering a beating from a rival gang.

Don't do that. This woman lives in an environment very different to you. Don't judge her, belittle her, insult her friend, and minimise his being attacked.

It seems incredibly unlikely that gangs of hoodied youths are randomly attacking people simply because they aren't saying where they are from in broad daylight.

I would wonder if your friend was actually part of a rival gang and that is what led to his assault.

But she clearly makes new 'friends' easily...

Hang on did she post this video on her vlog and has now told the whole Internet where she lives or just these 3 thugs?

Does this happen to women as well as men?

Did she say which street or just the town?

This doesn't really make sense. As you said yourself, the risk is immediate, so nothing to do with you as you weren't there.

If they wanted to know who lived on your street, they would just go to there.

Checking which gang you belong to.

although this sounds like 3 lads trying to chat up your sister

You're not wrong to be worried this happened, it sounds intentionally threatening.

I don't think it's your sister's fault, I think you're being unsupportive - she was likely intimidated and mindful that the 'wrong' answer could cause trouble.