To want my child to have cosmetic surgery?

But does the child even want this procedure? It's her body after all.

I'm sure she's beautiful just the way she is. I think elfin ears are cute. Who says ears shouldn't be seen, anyway??

They aren't normal.

If you'd be willing to sell your house and all belongings to help your daughter not have to deal with bullying why not change Schools? Or sell everything and rent and put her in a private School? Or keep her home and hire tutors?

And yeah, it's been a super common operation for many decades now.

Ignore the idiots who think you should make an example of your child for the principle of the thing so she can live with a life long sadness that you could easily have prevented - they will have forgotten you exist as soon as they go off to scold and harass another stranger.

You know your child and you love your child.

Do what's best for her. If you believe that is a simple procedure that will stop her hating her ears and give the bullies one less target is the right thing to do - you know what to do.

What if the toddler's ears continue to grow and change shape over time though?

Yep. Another thing is that because so many people subject their kids to literal operations to change their ears children aren't used to seeing kids with forward facing ears so when they do they stand out even more.

Has she got her ears pierced?

Has anyone ever commented about her ears at school and would she tell you?

I would definitely get them done before year 6 / secondary school otherwise she will likely be bullied. Kids can be really unkind and if she has already made this comment they are obviously bothering her.

I think you also need a heart to heart with her about her feelings. Some kids can deal with unkind comments - for example my friend has kids with ginger hair and she has always called them ‘ginge’ so when kids were calling them this at school they didn’t bat an eyelid as they grew up with mom saying it so it was as normal as ‘darling’!
But some kids will struggle and unkind comments will sadly eat away at them.

If she were my dd I’d do it.

Her "elf ears" sound magical, she doesnt sound bothered at all

I had my ears pinned back at 15 in the 1960s. My daughter had hers done at 16. My nephew when he was a toddler. All on the NHS. My granddaughter had hers done last year but our local NHS trust would not fund this (although some do). The operation cost around £4,000 and was done in Leeds Nuffield. Many plastic surgeons don’t operate on juveniles. In all our cases it has been 100% worth it.

It's 100 percent the right thing to do, ignore the usual suspects who like to become offended for invented reasons.

It's NOT about you not thinking she's beautiful it is that you know for a 100 percent certainty that she is going to hate the way they look. She may already be being teased (in fact I'd lay odds that someone has said something to her). Elf ears might be her way of trying to make something nice out of something she hates.

She won't thank you for listening to the woo mongers who pretend that such things don't matter. If you can get a simple procedure done for your daughter to save her from a lifetime of trying to hide her ears (and that is what's in store for her) definitely do it.

People on here saying this lady is saying her kid is ugly or needs fixing need to get a grip on reality. You’ve totally missed the point. She’s doing it so her little girl doesn’t have to face bullshit comments from nasty little brats later down the line, and as a mother to two girls, one of which is currently being destroyed at secondary school for thinking she might be gay - there are A LOT of them around. If I could take away even an ounce of what she’s going through by giving her a small (or even large) op that she won’t even remember by god I would remortgage my whole damn house and sell everything I own to get it done. Get off your stupid high horses, this woman’s an incredible mum.

@Buddy91 are you drunk? No shade, I'm tipsy

You did what you thought was right mum, she’s going the where bandages for a week or so. Get them done if he’s that set on it

I think PP just lives in the real world and realises her daughter would have to too. It’s nice to imagine that looks don’t matter, but they do.

You would tell your little girl that part of her body was ugly and needing fixing?
You sound part of the problem. Did you pick on kids in school for having big ears?

I wish my parents had mine done.
I should do it really but haven’t yet…
if you have the opportunity I would get it done.

Interesting about the birth defect thing. We went private as assumed it would not be possible on NHS, although when she was born we had to take her to Great Ormond Street as they were very deformed! But the thing that pushed us into it was when she needed glasses and her ears wouldn't let her keep a pair on! So yes, I guess it is a birth defect.

It’s the few things I would “ fix “ for my children if they had ugly ears , specially girls

I agree, I’d get them fixed and then it won’t risk ever becoming an issue. I wouldn’t hesitate to remove a significant birthmark from a young child for the same reason.

If she really wants it 18 go privet. My big old mole used to catch it on the table at school . I'm now 32 don't link like him but she's part of me now.y derotoligitu does rages moles pins back but will change there face

If it’s something like that I was alway would t smile because my teeth are so bad!! I’m so greatful my mum can’t have here’s done and the first time they won’t touch them . Just be there to hold her hand and if she wants to back out she can

I dislike that once person has mentioned something that I think sounds like it bothers you and you now think it’s ok to make that choice and that the NHS will pay for it.

I have elf ears. I have lived with my ears. I didn’t love them as a child but I don’t even think about my ears as an adult. I’m more worried about my wrinkles lol

Teach her to love herself is surely the answer

Ihad this done age 11...my dad wasnt really for it but my mum pushed him...best decision! I am so happy she advocated it for me.

I had ear pinning surgery on the NHS as a child. Absolutely zero regrets. I don't remember it being a big deal. I was 11 when I had it done 👍