To want my child to have cosmetic surgery?

Bullying is normal but it should not be.
Why not change that instead of saying kids should be told by their parents that they are deformed and abnormal and need fixing.
Like I said in PP, my DP has massive sticky out ears. I love them. They are part of him. I would never say they are ugly or abnormal and why would I? So why tell your own small child that their ears are ugly and need fixing? I do not get it.

Agree, it's been around for decades and was just called ear pinning. Really standard procedure. I am sorry about the teasing you had to endure, truly. I was teased and bullied as a kid for other things, it leaves its mark.

sorry but I just thinking you are deliberately being obtuse as I said. no point me arguing my point back anymore

Why are you arguing with points nobody made or even implied?

Is it because you don't actually have any good points to make and are trying to derail? I think that's it tbh.

Or is it that you just don't grasp the simple realities of this discussion?

Or do you actually think that if you keep frantically waving a magic wand, reality will ripple around you and change?

So, as stated - prominent ears are not normal. Bullying is.

We all wish reality wasn't real at various times. But it is.

We make our decisions based on facts and material realities, not wishes and daydreams.

I’d do it OP.
I have a huge nose with a hump and I’ve got teased about it as long as I can remember- I hated it when I was a child and got a fair few very nasty comments growing up.
I would have loved it if it was something that could have been easily sorted! I don’t see any drawbacks.
Ears being pinned back wasn’t labelled plastic surgery when we were kids it was a common procedure that lots of people had.

And some people do not need glasses at all. A decent optician would make glasses that fit. They had to do that for me in the end.

I'm not sure why some people are pretending that the OP doesn't love her child just as she is. She clearly just understands that reality doesn't care how you feel and that she cannot control the vicious behaviour of others.

Bullying in childhood is linked to poor mental health outcomes, suicidal ideation and all sorts of bad stuff.

If you can take a target off your kids' back, it's a good idea to do so. How I wish all the issues for kids could be so easily solved.

You're a great mum OP, do the right thing for your child - ignore the people on this thread trying to bully you.

My dd couldn't wear glasses.

personally, my son, would I fix his autism with a surgery? No, but that's because it's on the mild end and presents in the way you described. Would I if it was severe? Hell yes.

Neither are sticky out ears. They are just an aesthetic difference.

He was bullied for being enthusiastic about his special interest. Would that be something you would fix in your own kid?

ginger hair is not a deformity

Ok, so something that only affects 1-2% should be seen as ugly and something to be fixed? Like ginger hair?
And some reasons kids are bullied is not something that is fixed.

Again, teach your kids to be accepting of all difference even sticky out ears. They are not ugly or abnormal. Just not common, and that is fine.
Think about the message you are sending out to those kids that are ok with their ears. That they must get them fixed because they are ugly and most people have "good" ears.

Well @XenoBitch also brought up autism and said there is no surgery for that. I am pretty sure parents of autistic children (one of my dc is autistic fyi) would do a simple surgery to correct it. So, yeah, no points really

NHS will do if these apply. All 3 for A. So mainly the child wants it rather then parents

• Criteria A (for children under 18) requires all of:

1. Aged >5 and <18 years.
2. The child is experiencing substantial psychological distress because of prominent ears, which surgery will resolve.
3. The child (not just the parents) desires the surgery. Referrals should not be made if the child is indifferent or opposed.

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• Criteria B is: if ear prominence interferes with wearing hearing aids in children under 18.

private is between £2.5/3.5k

I'm generally very against cosmetic surgery - but I think I would do it. Kids (and some adults) can be so incredibly mean and to be on the receiving end of this can be extraordinarily damaging to confidence and mental health. I would solve the "problem" before it becomes one.

Yep. Your job is to do the right thing for your child, not to pretend you can fix all the world's problems and force them to suffer while you try.

Wave a magic wand, be with your child at all times throughout every single moment of their lives, make sure the magical kingdom you inhabit is bully free.

Or, stop being deliberately stupid.

You can manage the latter, but you absolutely definitively cannot manage the former.

Ok and like I said, good luck with that! My child is not going to be the guinea pig while all of you try and teach your kids not to bully mine. Thanks but no thanks! She's got stuff to be getting on with, without her deformed ears (easily corrected) getting in the way

Nope. Normal means standard, average or typical. Prominent ears from the least noticeable to the most only affect 1-2 % of the UK population. https: // patient.info/doctor/history-examination/prominent-ears - so, no, they are not normal.

But bullying actually is completely normal in that it is absolutely typical, has always happened and is very standard and expected.

What you mean is that ears in all their shapes and forms are acceptable and within social norms, which is perfectly true.

You also mean that bullying should not be accepted, which is also true.

But no, sticking out ears are not normal, they are atypical, they absolutely 100 percent do draw attention and will amost certainly mean the child gets teased and/or bullied.

Reality is just reality. There's nothing wrong in any way at all with accepting reality and making our decisions based on that.

You do not seem to see the harm in getting surgery to appease bullies.

Teach your kids to not bully their peers. It is simple as that/

I had this done as a child and I’m very grateful to my parents

nah people just do it privately

Yes but that's not an easy fix!!! Whereas this is! I feel you are being deliberately obtuse here

Hopefully because we teach our kids that their ears don't need fixing to appease bullies.