To want my child to have cosmetic surgery?

Because I think if you swoop in and change something that is not medically necessary it sends a message that she is not good enough as she is naturally and you are taking away her right to choose how she wants to look. If one of your children had an unusually large nose would you feel that this should be changed also? Is it important that they are "conventional" looking?

I would wait and see whether this is something you're daughter asks for herself when she's older.

But you think they are ugly? Why? What sort of social conditioning made you feel that way?

I literally said above I would never tell anyone directly .

It’s a hard one. One of mine has elf ears, similar to the photo you posted but with pointy upper section, they look pretty much exactly like the elves in the Lord of the Rings movies. They have never had anything but compliments and have only been a positive talking point. In fact if they ever do a really bouffant curly hair style people express disappointment as ears don’t stick through. Apparently, it’s also been the most used wanna be pick up line they hear ‘has anyone ever told you, you look like a beautiful elf’, ‘yes, a million times, all throughout my life’🤣. I believe they would be devastated to think I would have thought to ‘fix’ them when they were a child, and honestly it never crossed my mind, I always thought they looked super cute.

OMG i didnt even notice hahah. I was like why is this poster sending me this GIF

It's a tiny amount of kids at school though - that's the whole population, not 1-2% of school children, 1-2% of absolutely everyone.

If you can take a target off your kids' back, you should.

There used to be a "suck it up it will make you tougher" approach to bullying - but in reality regular bullying just makes children miserable, can affect them for life, cause mental health melt downs and suicidal ideation and can make them hard like a sheet of glass - fragile but not tough at all.

Bullying as a child can have life long consequences, when your brain is still forming is the worst possible time to have to tolerate bullying.

Obviously, it would be great if we could get rid of bullying, but as that won't happen OP should focus on her child's needs.

The older you are before you experience serious bullying the better you will be able to cope with it without lifelong consequences.

OP should be guided by her child in this.

It's a tough one, but if she does do it, she is not doing the wrong thing for her child.

Same.

My mum now has huge ears, because as you get older, they keep on growing.
I have silly little ears and hope they catch up soon.

My DP has big ears. Huge and stick out. I don't think they are ugly at all. I really like them.
Would you tell a little girl that her similar ears are ugly?

I like them on people. So there.

1-2% is a hell of a lot of people when you think about it on a population level.

And I suspect most of us were bullied or at least teased for some physical feature at some point, and you can’t necessarily predict what it will be. I’m boss-eyed and was never bullied for it!

(this is not to say op shouldn’t get her dds ears pinned, but I don’t think having sticky out ears has to be a life sentence)

Because they are ! Are you blind ? Don’t you know something pretty and something ugly ? Big ears ate ugly ! Would I ever mention this to anyone with huge ears ? Absolutely not . But people are not blind , this girl clearly is aware of her ears c the same way I was aware I was shifter than most of my classmates ( As an example ) .

Anyway, OP, please talk to your daughter. Only her opinion and yours counts at all in this scenario (and her dad's of course if he is in the picture). She should be your main guide, only you can decide if she is at risk of being harmed by bullying because of her ears.

Why are you calling them ugly ears?

I have never in my life been bullied or bullied anyone else or pick on anyone . I just really think certain things can be easily altered . It’s not a massive surgery either . Every single child or adult I meet with ugly ears feel extremely bad about it so why not avoid it ?

But your dd has mentioned them OP. I’d be having a conversation along the lines of ‘I heard your many mentions of your ears at the bridal party events, how to you feel about them’ .. then more detail and talking. Work out from there was she would like to do. I paid for my dd to get her boobs done aged 18 - best thing I ever did for her. She was totally flat. Kids are cruel nowadays, sm makes things so much worse.

I was disappointed when I realised the OP meant her child's ears stick out & not proper elf ears 😅 my DD has stahls, me and her absolutely love her ears I'm so jealous of them 😅

My DDs friend had ears like that exact shape you’ve posted and they were super prominent when the girls were young. But now they’re 14 she has grew into them! And they honestly are no longer noticeable, she’s a beautiful girl.

It may be worth waiting until your DD is a teenager to see as the same could happen her?

My niece had hers done. She asked her Mum to make an appointment with the Dr when she was about 10 or 11. She led the discussion and she got the op on the NHS. Her ears did stick right out.
Imdont see why it’s different to getting overbites sorted out at the dentist. One of my kids knocked their front teeth out when they were three and her adult teeth grew back with a big overbite. It didn’t cross my mind not to get her braces.
Having ears done is very simply and easy. Why would t you do it?

If you are using a small percentage as not normal then yes, I will concede on that point.
But not normal does not mean bad, and something that needs fixing. Why do the 1-2% need to change? Do we all need identical sitting ears?

I had mine pinned and it didn't work and one of my ears is slightly damaged from it. I regret it. I wouldn't do it to one of my children. You do tend to grow into your ears as an adult anyway.

Nope. As only 1-2% of people are born with naturally prominent ears, they will never be normal. Unless everyone only has kids with people who have prominent ears, I guess. But since only 1-2% of people have prominent ears they'd be doing a lot of heavy lifting for the population.

And kids meanwhile throughout the entire world will still be bullying people who do not appear "normal".

But luckily for the OP, she can fix this particular issue right away and take that particular target off her daughter's back. Like all good parents would.

Why not fix world hunger while we're at it? I know, I will wave my sparkly wand and tomorrow all misogyny will have vanished from the universe. Hooray! All sorted.

We all wish we could fix all the bad in the world. We can't.

Again, the reality is that prominent ears are not normal and bullying is. OP will do what is best for her child, based on reality, not daydreams and wishes.

And that's that.

And prominent ears are not seen as normal because everyone and their dog is getting them pinned back and creating the "normal".

If you leave them be, then it will be seen as normal and your shitty little bullying kids will stop picking on their peers for having them.

My parents got my ear pinned when I was a toddler so I had no idea what was going on.

What about if you put some money aside and as a teen if she wants to do it then maybe let her make that call. Also kids wear hats, caps, hairbands, earphones and style their hair all different ways.

The grownups that were saying ‘elf ears’ - they must have been supermodels with amazing, symmetrical features and perfect figures, right? Somehow I doubt it and I would have let them know too.