To want my child to have cosmetic surgery?

Not the same as mine was a birthmark but it was on my face. I was tremendously self conscious of it when I was a child but never ever mentioned it. Until one day my mum asked me if she could take me to the doctors to discuss taking it off. I cried with joy. I was 11, just started senior school and boys were saying it looked like I had shit on my face 😥. I had never mentioned it to my mum. I am so so thankful that she bought it up with me because I never would have with her.

I had it taken off when I was 12 and it’s the best thing I ever did x

Coming from someone who has protruding ears whose parents didn’t get them pinned because ‘they saw nothing wrong’ please please get it done. I didn’t personally start to notice them until year 7 and I would spend hours researching hairstyles on how to hide them (never worked because they’d just poke out anyway!). Also, I know 3 people who had them pinned back on the NHS after their parents took them to the GP just an fyi. They’ve really affected me all my life in a very negative way, I second what a pp said about not making it into a big thing but I really wish my parents done it for me

There was a child I was at school with had protruding ears no one ever said anything, then he had them pinned and some of the other pupils at school were horrendous to him, but I guess at an adult he didn't have to be around those people, didn't make his school life easier though.

But that can look cute!!

Does the circumcision argument not apply here?
It's an unnecessary surgical intervention, the cultural norms are questionable, the autonomy of the individual isn't being considered.

Elf ears are lovely, next time she mentions them tell her that.

You’d be teaching her that she has to correct any perceived imperfections rather than learning to love herself as she is. Not a great start at that age. What’s next ? Nose job ?

really I think idea this is about you not her.

I knew a couple of kids at school many years ago who had their ears done, it made a huge difference to them.
i wouldn’t hesitate if it was my dc and they were becoming self conscious.

I had the same issue when I was a child (I’m 54 now), and I was bullied at school about it from day one. My mum took me to see the doctor to discuss getting my ears pinned back and the doctor told her it was a traumatic operation (she had had it done), which put my mum off. I was devastated but she refused to entertain it and I had a miserable time being bullied and teased about my ears until I left school. I did get it done in my early 20’s and can honestly say it was the best thing I ever did. It wasn’t traumatic and kids bounce back from these things so quickly. If you have any concerns about her being teased at school or that she will have body image issues, please consider having it done.

You can always tell when someone's had their ears done - it just immediately pinpoints a weakness. People who want to pick on your DD will do so for whatever reason, even a made up one.

I'd be more up for teaching resilience and self worth beyond aooearance and having completely normal, human flaws rather than being a lawnmower parent.

I would wait until (or if) she mentions being unhappy with it.

atm if you say anything she will assume that you have found her ears a problem, when as yet, she does not.

Then what else might be an aesthetic problem as she grows up and will she assume that everything needs 'fixing'?

I have a Dc with a significant visible difference and is very confident about it, and is not prepared to pander to people whose opinions they do not value. Which is lucky, and it's a bit different because it isn't something that can be 'fixed'.

Loyalty and support at school was strong.

Don't project.

But of course if she is distressed, think again.

I hated my ears as a child and went on a waiting list when I was 12. At 18 they said the chances of me getting them done were low so my parents paid. I'm so grateful. It was a quick day surgery. The recovery and bandages took a little while but so pleased to have had it done.

Hardly sticking out!

One of my children has just had it done. I was told it categorically isn’t available on the nhs anymore. We went private and no issues

Most of those have perfectly normal looking ears!

I remember a sibling having this done in the 70s.
But I don't think you could do it unless she's asked for it, really.

This is really frustrating. I got told that as a child and it's just not true! Imagine hating any sport purely because you had to tie your hair back and expose yourself to comments about your 'bat ears'.

I had mine done aged 7. My parents left it until I made it clear I hated them

However I'd be guided by your DD OP, it's a personal decision so don't lead her in one direction or another.

Private or NHS and how recently?

My sibling had sticky out ears as a dc but they seemed to not stick out so much as he grew up, or maybe his head grew to fit them!

My niece had it done. Quick and easy. As long as she's up for it, id do it. Why have any more comments.

Both my god-daughters had it done, on the NHS. Maybe around 5-6yrs old. Was a relatively good recovery and the girls obviously attended appointments where reason was discussed, but they never really asked many question. I’d forgotten until now they had it done, so means it worked well as I never think their ears stick out now and they were quite protruding.

14 Celebrities Who Decided Not to Hide Their Protruding Ears and Proudly Show Them to the World / Bright Side

Isn't sticky-out ears something that tends to sort itself out in later life?

The OP has already said that they protrude through her hair.

Same.

I wasn't allowed to have my ears pinned back. My Mum even took me to see the GP so that they could both tell me what a terrible idea it was.

I'm now 50 and still never tie my hair back.