To want my child to have cosmetic surgery?

I'd get it done OP, I see no difference between this and getting teeth straightened, which is completely normalised - and funded by the NHS in many, many cases.

Growing up with sticky out ears I was very conscious of them & was slightly bullied at school. I wanted them pinned back from the age of about 7 years old but my parents wouldn't entertain the idea. I had them pinned back aged 19 & while they look ok I'm still conscious of them not looking perfect. My Son has sticky out ears too & has never been bothered or bullied about them & has in fact grown into them.
I'd wait until your Daughter comes to you & if she's bothered by her ears chat to her about it & go from there. Don't mention surgery to her as it may not bother her at all & it's no good making her self conscious unnecessarily

There’s clearly ‘enough’ money otherwise operations wouldn’t be going ahead. It’s not taking priority over other procedures. But where do you then draw the line in your thinking? Life threatening illnesses .. what if they’re caused by the patients life and health decisions - lung cancer in a smoker, liver disease in an alcoholic, organ failure in a drug user .. 🤔🤷‍♀️

My stepson had it done when he was about 5-he's 33 now. NHS. His Mum was very 'no nonsense' and essentially said she got it done 'as he looked like the FA Cup' and she didn't want him being bullied. He doesn't remember anything about the procedure or recovery now, other than he got custard pudding regularly as a treat afterwards.

I'd get it done OP. Or at least look into it, as it seems she's already aware of it if she's commented (if I've read correctly).

Editng to add. It's a much easier and more likely successful op as a child than as an adult-and an adult can definitely not get it on the NHS as far as I am aware-it can be up to £6K as an adult. If it is going to be done I'd do it now.

Well as I said, I'm surprised and somewhat disappointed by that. I mean if they have enough money to help people with life threatening illnesses and then there's some left over, great. But otherwise it shouldn't take priority. Yes, it is my opinion but I can't be alone in my thinking.

Non essential in your view. Not everyone else shares that view - professionals, funding bodies etc.

Thank you. No wonder the NHS is on its knees if it's funding non essential things like this.

Shows you don’t know very much 🤷‍♀️

Hi
i was in the same boat with my DD but I didn’t want to make a thing of it and give her any sort of complex about it and to me she is/was perfect.
So we waited but high school was a problem as some kids are basically little shits.
There was name calling and bullying and of course teenagers become more self conscious about their appearance and don’t like to be different to the others
For us it was a case of going to GP and getting a referral
A word of warning, do some research and choose a specialist surgeon as DD had 2 failures of this simple procedure until someone did it correctly
Positive end is that it worked out fine and she has beautiful ears ( even though I always thought they were beautiful as they were) and is a confident 20 something young woman

Get them pinned. Its a handy ENT procedure. She's already insecure.

It costs around 5k to get it done as an adult and most of the time it doesn't work. They need to be young.

Eh? My son had an adenotonsillectory just 2 years ago..?

Honestly a friend of mine had similar ears and was absolutley tortured during her teen years about them. As soon as she started working she took out a loan and got them done at 19. She is quite resentful towards her parents for her teenage years. Another friends son had them done this summer at 13. He was off sport for 4 weeks but that was the worst lt it . I'd view it the same way I would with braces etc and would get it done in a heart beat.

Well that's not true is it? Some forms of cosmetic surgery, including ear pinning, are available on the NHS.
www.nhs.uk/tests-and-treatments/cosmetic-procedures/advice/cosmetic-procedures-on-the-nhs/

Cosmetic surgery is never available on the NHS to any age group, and rightly so.

Just imagine wasting public money on cosmetic enhancements for children that were not medically necessary?

Absolutely ridiculous.

I had my ears pinned back aged 9 because (after I changed schools) I was relentlessly teased about my ears. Unfortunately, it was very painful, didn't stop the teasing, and my ears still look uneven and one is a bit weird, whereas at least they matched before. I wish I hadn't had it done. I'd say don't do it!

I've got bat ears, as has my mum, and a cousin on that side.

I was oblivious to them as a child, hated them as a teen, then was neutral towards them as a young adult onwards.

I'd say leave it alone if your DD hasn't mentioned them.

A boy at my secondary school got his pinned back in about Yr8. He looked better for it, but he was still forever "the kid who got his ears pinned back."

I once commented on someone's cauliflower ear and they had it done several months later. Felt really bad about saying it in front of people, don't know why, I was trying to be funny.

Asked your daughter, she's 8 years old. She will tell you if it bothers her or not

Tricky one...The nhs will do this surgery if the ears are severely deformed, and sometimes children whose ears need pinning back if the child shows severs psychological upset. It also depends on the individual health authority.....

I have three teenagers (13, 16 and 17). I know exactly how mean some teenagers can be. But my kids know that says more about the person attempting to bully them than it does about them. If it crosses a line I have let school know but in most situations they can deal with it.

This is what the NHS says about the possible side effects of this totally unnecessary cosmetic surgery.:

What could go wrong
Ear correction surgery can occasionally cause:

• inflammation of the ear cartilage
• a blood clot in the skin of the ear
• stiff ears – it can take several months for them to become flexible again
• the ears no longer being symmetrical
• the surgery not being successful and the ears starting to protrude again

• excessive bleeding
• infection where the cut was made
• an allergic reaction to the anaesthetic

Your daughter talked to you about her elf ears. It sounds like it bothers her. I would talk to her instead of waiting until she talks to you. She wouldn't know that something can be done about it.

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I had my ears pinned back when I was 11. It was actually suggested by my doctor at the time and was completely covered by the NHS.

I have never regretted having it done. My ears were really sticking out.

The ONLY downside is the scarring at the back of the ear can get painful if you need to wear glasses or in my case a hearing aid.

Speak to you doctor and see what the options are, It can’t hurt. Then decide what’s best for her.

DH had them pinned back on the NHS when he was about 8.
I've seen his "before" pics, full marks to DMIL for getting it done.