Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

You are being VERY unreasonable. Its the beginning of October, why on earth would you be expecting him to be buying your Christmas presents now? And you only mentioned it to him "last week"?
Beauty calendars are a marketing con. If they sell-out that quickly, then they are deliberately under-supplying the demand to get you to rush to buy.
And anyway, if you've had a "shit week", how is something that you're not going to get until Christmas going to help?
Why not get him to take you out for a slap-up meal NOW?

Thats so typical of a lot of men they dont see the need or urgancy, procastinate, miss the boat, yes you have every right to be annoyed.

Come on let's have it right. She told him at the end of September about an advent calendar. It seems he acted pretty quick as she posted with her complaint on 1st October. He had already tried by then.. Thats not so bad to be fair when he's thinking its an advent calendar, even if its been mentioned they do sell out

Even me as a 60 year old female would think I had a bit of time on my side to purchase one, if I wanted to buy into this.

A bit of name calling too….havent we had brat and spoilt princess?

So far we’ve had

• OP being told she should should have got a cat instead
• A man lecturing us on beauty advent calendars
• Gaza
• Autistic children suffering and not asking to be born (mine)
• 736 people telling the OP to grow up
• An OP that gave up days ago and hasn’t been back.

Am I missing anything?

This thread is wild. An advent calendar isn't going to cure cancer or being peace to Ukraine, but someone wanted to treat herself and that was scuppered, followed by the suggestion she should be grateful it was scuppered.
Obviously worse things happen, everywhere, everyday. For all we know much worse things are happening to the OP and she's held onto this because it's a fairly small action that could have brought a nice dollop of happiness.
It's ok for women to want to treat themselves.

@alfonzi
It was 20 years ago and he was gone a lot so we missed many gift-giving opportunities.
I recall my mum asking me:
”What were you thinking???”
I guess I wasn’t. I remember I was sick of work and marrying him would afford me lots of travel and living in different places - that appealed to me.
I f**ked up. lol

That’s probably a good thing!!

This is the most stupid comment I have ever seen. You must have a very tiny life. And heart

Oh boo hoo!

You're. It being ungrateful. It's annoying. You could have got it yourself but you didn't because he said he would and now you've missed out.

If I'm being nasty then no more so than you were. I merely repeated your own words - 'growing up also involves knowing that the world does not revolve around you'. You felt these were appropriate words in relation to the OP and her scenario that you seem to keen to dismiss. Either it's a shitty thing to say about someone or it isn't.

Let me get this right…
Yu have a severely disabled dc but you’re travelling a lot for work - so you aren’t here to support your wife
Ypur wofe managed to still get her PhD. I’m assuming she is now working but ‘you’re getting her what you can afford to get her’ sounding really nice on the surface but there’s no acknowledgement of the fact your wife works and has an income. Just yours.
And then you think it’s ok to berate the OP because your wife wouod think about moaning about such frivolous things. Well no, she won’t. Seeing your attitude, she knows very well Theres no point. Basically she is either buying what she wants wo you or making herself smaller to appease you.
Because there no way a strong educated woman would accept some of the comments you’ve made.

I can say what I want , when I want , you don’t have to read. You are being nasty about my son yet I have said nothing nasty to you. I am reporting this post.

Some people just like trying to look superior.

If you’re not interested in beauty advent calendars, perhaps this isn’t the thread for you.

OP there is a SpaceNK fragrance advent due to be released soon.

Clear the distinction between those who value relationships and those who are leaping on an opportunity for validation of mysandry.

Why are you wasting your precious time on frivolities like a mumsnet thread then? You've told us how important you and your time are, job done, no need to keep pissing on the OP's chips.
You can leave all the trivial little people alone and go and tell your wife and your severely autistic child that the world doesn't revolve around them.

This is what I call losing an argument…you don’t know me at all , stick to the topic

Attack the individual… you don’t know me … and you are already swearing at me. I haven’t commented about you but you are attacking me. I am allowed to say my point of view whether you like it or not , you do not control the world. My wife and I support each other and have done so through tough times and good times. By frivolities , I mean complaining about trivial things….entitlement… and my point is directed to the OP not to you with all due respect

No, in her position finding a nicer husband would be higher up my agenda.

I haven’t commented anything about you but you are attacking me. I commented to the OP …I don’t know anything about you and you know nothing about me … let’s stick to the topic , not these ad hominem comments… it’s beneath us

My wife gets everything she wants that I can afford. All I am saying is moaning about a calendar would not be high up her agenda.

Yes , but I also can.

I daresay whether you are a catch or not has a big impact on her life though. Poor woman.

She's spent years at the coal face when you've been working away.

She deserves the kind of husband who would be saying, "That's really poor of your husband, OP, if my wife asked for something she really wanted for her birthday and was really specific about wanting the latest model, I would get her what she wanted, because she means the world to me."

My wife is a grown up … been together for 25 years , we have a disabled son , we have great careers , we have suffered and enjoyed together … but if she does something childish I will point out just as she will do when I do something childish…whether I am catch or not is really not important…I think …

you know you don't have to respond to threads you consider too frivolous for your taste?