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Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

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Gillinggold · 01/10/2025 17:28

I had a shit week last week and DP knew I was browsing beauty calendar’s. He asked which one I liked and I told him the name of the one I was going to buy.

He told me not to buy it and that he’d treat me to it as one of his Christmas presents to me. I was really grateful and said it sells out quick so to be aware of that.

Lo and behold, he’s gone to buy it and it’s sold out and not coming back in stock. I was annoyed, said I really had my eye on it and would have happily brought it myself as originally intended.

He says I’m being ungrateful and that it’s not his fault. Well, I told him he’d need to get a move on at the time and feel really annoyed now….

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zeebra · 01/10/2025 17:33

I seem to be the only one but give him a break- it is the 1st October! It is still a long way from Christmas so I can understand his lack of urgency.

ContraversialDo · 01/10/2025 17:33

I’d have bought it anyway and if he wanted to give it to me he could send me the money. Not helpful to you sadly but you know for next time.

YANBU

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 01/10/2025 17:32

Tell him to buy it from Ebay

Purplecatshopaholic · 01/10/2025 17:31

I’d be annoyed too. I wouldn’t have trusted him to buy it in the first place though, he’d be happily not listening to you by the time you said it sells out quickly.. (or is that just my bf)..

AnneLovesGilbert · 01/10/2025 17:31

You’re not being ungrateful and it is his fault. It’s incompetence or sabotage. You literally said you’d get it and he told you not to! What could you possibly have to be grateful for? Have you asked him that? An empty gesture and no calendar?

Blueuggboots · 01/10/2025 17:31

This sort of thing fucks me off especially if you warned him he needed to be quick.
my EXH used to do things like this. Notice EX.

NutButterOnToast · 01/10/2025 17:29

Yeah I'd be annoyed too

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