Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

@Allthatshines1992

wow, no wonder so many women are choosing to be childfree when attitudes like yours exist! Who wants to redundant in their own life and exist to facilitate solely to facilitate others??
in real life of course most women manage to balance being a good parent with also looking after themselves and treating themselves too from time to time, not just the kids. Otherwise there lives would be pretty servile and miserable, don’t you think?

You asked a question but I'm not sure you wish to engage in more dialogue (there is a lot which could be said on this topic but don't want to derail the thread). You are correct that no-one asked to be born. But if someone voluntarily creates and births a new human being the new human being has to come first at all times. The lives of their parents are not as valuable (imo). The parents are no longer the main characters in their story and become redundant human beings whose purpose is to elevate the next generation they have created.

@Allthatshines1992

ok. Glad you can concede it a mother can treat herself as well as her kids. I mean that poster didn’t ask to be born any more than her kids, did she?

No it's not. Gillinggold is the OP. The NessShaness poster asked me some questions and I answered them honestly.

What's a beauty calendar??

Yes, that is not unreasonable

That is the Op. and she doesn’t give a shit that you think she cannot spend a penny of her hard earned money on herself 😀 she deserves to treat herself.

Yep! This

We weren't talking about the OP. We were talking about the NessShaness poster.

Someone asked a question so I answered it, it's not deliberately mean. It's just what I believe, which is what she asked me.

@LunaShadow

How patronising

He offered to buy something, he didn't
To be fair to him, its not like he offered and had no intention of doing so. He just wasnt quick enough of the mark and didnt realise they would sell out so quick is my take on the situation.

If I had been asked to do the same I would have it in my mind to do it in the week thinking I'll have to get it soon but there's loads of time until Christmas.
I think if you are in the know about these beauty boxes you would understand the urgency but if not you would wonder what all the fuss is about,( especially for 350 quids worth if stuff)

Imgurssing the ungrateful comment is him just getting defensive and used the word inappropriately and out of context.

OP, that is massively frustrating, and you are 100% not being ungrateful.

i know it’s not the one you wanted, but in recent years I’ve had the Harrods and Selfridges ones - and they were really good. The Harrods one felt especially indulgent. Stay clear of the benefit one, that one was awful.

i have no idea why people come on to sneer at other people’s interests. I absolutely love the little bit of excitement when opening it each morning. My children open theirs, and we oooh and ahhh at whatever chocolate shape they have that day, and then we do the same with whatever product I get. It’s our little morning routine.
Like most mothers, I spend the run up to Christmas making sure that everyone else is looked after and that my children are enjoying the magic of Christmas, if someone wants to begrudge my partner treating me to something that’s going to make the festive season equally as nice for me then they can piss all the way off!

You are being unreasonable - I’ve had to google what a beauty calendar is, it’s not the end of the world. If it was that important you should have told him you’d buy it yourself or got it yourself anyway and had double or ebay’d it!
There’s no way the average person would expect a Christmas gift to sell out in September.
Maybe look at an alternative (more expensive one 🤣) or count the good things you do have in life?

The thing is, she was going to buy it for herself and he told her not to… she would have had it had it.

Why is her ire misplaced?
He offered to buy something, he didn't.
And yet according to many on this thread, she is in the wrong.

I honestly can't fathom the kind of people who post here any more.

Probably more like deluxe sample size.

He should win an Earthshot prize. What a prince. We’re so lucky to have men!

@Franjipanl8r

oh well, that’s ok then. The man deserves a medal, fuck Op.

🙄

@Allthatshines1992

and what about OP’s suffering?? Did you not read about the awful year she has had? Or does she not matter in your view?

Annoying, but let it go. It's small potatoes

On the plus side, it’s less pointless tat you’ll throw away and pollute the world with so he’s done the environment a favour!

Thank you.

My daughter is doing much better with regards to her anxiety, this poster knows nothing about them other than a couple of sentences that I’ve posted, and their opinion really is meaningless to me.

They don’t bother me. Their posts tell me exactly what sort of person they are and I pity them. I hope they heal.

Absolutely this! You’re lucky to even be in a position to be able to buy one of these. Lucky you but YABU!

What the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you going after this stranger who has already made it clear that she's had a rough year??
Absolutely nothing she has posted has suggested that she isn't already doing everything she can for her kid. Women don't need to set themselves on fire to keep everyone else warm.