Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

Some people just open it all at once

Why do you hate cats?

It seems people aren't using it as an actual advent calendar. The OP mentioned it would count as one as of her Christmas presents and someone else mentioned using the contents for the next year. Sounds like more of a gift hamper than a calendar.

Whether or not its blind consumerism, it was an item you wanted. He makes his grand gesture of saying he will get it for you and didn't listen or respect your knowledge about it selling out really quickly. It's the insensitivity and casual lack of respect that's maddening, he's messed up your whole plan! However now that he has, you need to look for the win win situation. Dont waste a minute feeling upset, find a better thing that you want and make him get that for you. Remain friends and have a great weekend!

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And ignore the rampant incels...here to disagree with women for the thrills...

You are very rude. I bet you’re not getting any presents as you’ll be on the naughty list.

Who wants to get an Advent Calendar on Christmas Day!?

And not everyone like cats either @Allthatshines1992

i hate them. Would much rather have a beauty calander any day. And pyjamas are boring.

Why oh why did they take away the laughing emoticons??????

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As pp said. Tell him to get one off ebay and pay the mark up price. So annoying the 'be grateful for something that didn't happen' bolleaux. It is entirely his fault you are now without the item you wanted.

Sounds like the type that thinks just the thought of him offering or intending to do so should make the receiver grateful.

Really good point...what exactly should you be grateful for?!?

Not even sure if it's misogyny or misandry, to think that all men are basically bumbling idiots who don't understand time and deadlines..

@GiveDogBone

why do you have so much internalised misogyny?

It’s totally a man thing. Anything organised by a man is last minute and made up as they go along; everything organised by a woman is planned meticulously months in advance.

Dear. God.

It’s totally a man thing. Anything organised by a man is last minute and made up as they go along; everything organised by a woman is planned meticulously months in advance. He basically couldn’t comprehend a Christmas present would be sold out in September, thought he had loads of time and got caught out.

I mean if you really wanted it, you should have just got it yourself.

What a wanker. No offence but he stopped you buying it, then didn't give enough of a shit to actually listen to your advice about it selling out.

It's very high handed.

I mean I can't motivate myself to give a toss about these calendars, but it was important to you. Your money, your choice.

I'm not surprised you're annoyed. As for "ungrateful", wtf. Very belittling behaviour.

@Gillinggold they have it on sale on ebay

How are you being ungrateful?? He hasn't done anything to make you grateful or otherwise!

Except OP told him “… it sells out quick so to be aware of that”!

I wouldn’t be giving my husband a break, particularly if I said was going to buy it myself.

Some commenters seem to be (willfully?) ignoring that, while it's totally reasonable to be a bit sad upon realising you're not going to get something you wanted and had planned to get, OP would have probably shrugged that off and moved on by now. She's doesn't think the world is coming to an end because she didn't get a calendar. It'd be all good IF her DH hadn't taken offense to her being a bit upset in the moment and started telling her she should be "grateful" to him. Grateful for what exactly? He hasn't done anything to be grateful for! If he'd simply said "honey I'm sorry, I didn't realise when you said "it sold out by end of September last year" that it would go so quickly again and I missed it. Next time I'll just let you buy it and get you something else" then OP wouldn't still be peeved about it. It's his insistence that she should be grateful for him basically telling her not to buy something, thinking about buying it, and then ultimately not doing it that she's still narked about. He could've bought it immediately upon being sent the link but he chose not to, and now he's annoyed that she's "ungrateful" when there's nothing to be grateful about.

Each to their own of course, but I also don't totally understand some of the "YABU for being an adult who gets presents" comments. Do you really not buy any Xmas/birthday presents for your partners, sibling, parents? You've never gone into a shop and thought "oh DP/friend would love that, I'll pick it up and give it to them as a surprise"? Or would that count under things they can't get for themselves because they aren't in the shop?

This thread is absolutely insane. She was going to buy it herself and then he told her not to. At no point did she treat him like a servant.

@Buzyizzy217

he offered. She didn’t instruct him to buy it for her. Can’t you read?

Blimey, we all have shit weeks. Yes you definitely are being unreasonable. It’s a calendar, not life or death.🙄 He’s not your servant.