Am I ungrateful because DP didn’t buy the calendar I wanted before it sold out?

Cherrytree86 · 20/10/2025 18:30

StarCurator · 18/10/2025 20:46

I think that it was important to make the point. The idea that commenting on the environmental impact of certain practices and products is "sanctimonious" is incredible to me - aren't you concerned about the fact that we have almost reached the point of no return with our despoilation of the environment. If you have children, it will impact considerably on them.

@StarCurator

shush, no one cares

PinkArt · 18/10/2025 21:02

StarCurator · 18/10/2025 20:46

I think that it was important to make the point. The idea that commenting on the environmental impact of certain practices and products is "sanctimonious" is incredible to me - aren't you concerned about the fact that we have almost reached the point of no return with our despoilation of the environment. If you have children, it will impact considerably on them.

Advent calendar boxes are usually card, so reusable for storage or recyclable. The items inside, once the contents have been used, can all be recycled via the Boots scheme if council collecting doesn't take them. There is no more environmental damage then using 25 other random products throughout the year.

StarCurator · 18/10/2025 20:47

Your meaning is unclear to me.

StarCurator · 18/10/2025 20:46

I think that it was important to make the point. The idea that commenting on the environmental impact of certain practices and products is "sanctimonious" is incredible to me - aren't you concerned about the fact that we have almost reached the point of no return with our despoilation of the environment. If you have children, it will impact considerably on them.

GoodOldTrayBake · 11/10/2025 11:39

Oh my god it’s happened to me!!! But worse because I sent him the link to this ACTUAL post as a joke on 1 October via WhatsApp with a jokey message saying “haha I hope you’ve bought mine”. Plus I sent him the original link to the calendar I wanted on 18 September WITH a 15% discount code. (I’ve just scrolled back on WhatsApp to check the timings)

So I basically did ALL the work for him, gave him loads of notice and send him a real life example of popular calendars selling out.

I just went on the website and saw the calendar has indeed now sold out and just said to him I hope you’ve got mine! And he looked at me and angrily said “No… sorry but I don’t have time I’ve got too much to do”. He’s not even mortified or apologetic! He’s annoyed!!! At me!!!

I am gutted! I know it’s just a calendar but it would have taking him 5 minutes to order.

theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · 10/10/2025 18:50

I have no idea that you have to buy a beauty advent calendar for 1st December in October!!!

But then I'm the person who tried to book a Tesco Christmas delivery slot on 15th December (and thought I was quite advanced...)

I know now from the 101 MN threads about delivery slots that this is quite ridiculous 😄

Puppydogie18 · 10/10/2025 18:39

Gillinggold · 01/10/2025 17:28

I had a shit week last week and DP knew I was browsing beauty calendar’s. He asked which one I liked and I told him the name of the one I was going to buy.

He told me not to buy it and that he’d treat me to it as one of his Christmas presents to me. I was really grateful and said it sells out quick so to be aware of that.

Lo and behold, he’s gone to buy it and it’s sold out and not coming back in stock. I was annoyed, said I really had my eye on it and would have happily brought it myself as originally intended.

He says I’m being ungrateful and that it’s not his fault. Well, I told him he’d need to get a move on at the time and feel really annoyed now….

I'm sure they will restock them I don't think it's his fault as he tried to get you one and they had sold out

N12n · 09/10/2025 20:48

Cherrytree86 · 09/10/2025 18:58

@N12n

she has got validation from many, many posters though…

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Giving just one side of the story - some people struggle to perceive the whole picture.This should not be surprising, Trump is president after all.

Cherrytree86 · 09/10/2025 18:58

N12n · 09/10/2025 12:54

People don't post asking if they did something wrong or not when they know they didn't. The post is made because she responded in a tit for tat manner and she wants validation for behaving in a manner she knows was lacking.

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@N12n

she has got validation from many, many posters though…

N12n · 09/10/2025 12:54

Cherrytree86 · 09/10/2025 12:41

@N12n

so you know I’m right then!

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People don't post asking if they did something wrong or not when they know they didn't. The post is made because she responded in a tit for tat manner and she wants validation for behaving in a manner she knows was lacking.

Cherrytree86 · 09/10/2025 12:41

N12n · 09/10/2025 10:30

lol

@N12n

so you know I’m right then!

G5000 · 09/10/2025 11:36

Maybe some people cannot imagine expressing their feelings in other ways except by throwing a tantrum

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 09/10/2025 11:13

Why are some people assuming the OP had a go/went off in a huff/insert generic term that best belittles OP?
she said she told him she was annoyed - women CAN vocalise their feelings, hurt or otherwise, without ‘having a go’

N12n · 09/10/2025 10:30

lol

Cherrytree86 · 09/10/2025 08:29

N12n · 08/10/2025 21:26

If you try to do something nice for someone and don't manage to do it - and they have a go at you - you would probably say something similar for having tried to do something nice for them.

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@N12n

hes doesn’t deserve OP’s gratitude. He could have done something nice for her he didn’t - he couldn’t be arsed. She was happy to buy it for herself. Now she’s missed out. He doesn’t deserve any gratitude.

N12n · 08/10/2025 21:26

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 08/10/2025 18:00

The OP. The OP gives a toss.

the fact that it’s a ‘bloody calendar’ is irrelevant really. It’s the fact he messed up, but expects gratitude.

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If you try to do something nice for someone and don't manage to do it - and they have a go at you - you would probably say something similar for having tried to do something nice for them.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 08/10/2025 18:00

DH001 · 08/10/2025 17:53

She should just go for a walk... its a bloody calendar... who gives a toss

The OP. The OP gives a toss.

the fact that it’s a ‘bloody calendar’ is irrelevant really. It’s the fact he messed up, but expects gratitude.

DH001 · 08/10/2025 17:53

She should just go for a walk... its a bloody calendar... who gives a toss

Cherrytree86 · 08/10/2025 10:04

laundryhamper · 08/10/2025 09:42

I can’t believe this ridiculous debate is still going. It’s a beauty advent calendar, for God’s sake!

@laundryhamper

noone forced you to comment! If you think it’s beneath you, you can always just leave the thread alone.

laundryhamper · 08/10/2025 09:42

I can’t believe this ridiculous debate is still going. It’s a beauty advent calendar, for God’s sake!

Doubleraspberry · 08/10/2025 09:26

G5000 · 08/10/2025 08:43

I guess the poster repeatedly insisting OP must have thrown a tantrum is behaving like that herself. I've been married a long time and the only people throwing tantrums in our household were DC when they were toddlers. OP maybe you can clarify, did you tantrum or did you simply express that you were disappointed?

Or writing from a man’s perspective maybe?

G5000 · 08/10/2025 09:24

DH001 · 08/10/2025 08:31

First World Problems

And? It's mumsnet, I would guess most of the posters are in the first world and therefore posting their first world problems.

G5000 · 08/10/2025 08:43

I guess the poster repeatedly insisting OP must have thrown a tantrum is behaving like that herself. I've been married a long time and the only people throwing tantrums in our household were DC when they were toddlers. OP maybe you can clarify, did you tantrum or did you simply express that you were disappointed?

DH001 · 08/10/2025 08:31

First World Problems

Doubleraspberry · 08/10/2025 07:51

Why are you using the word tantrum repeatedly to belittle the OP?

And are women not allowed to vocalise when they feel let down or disappointed?