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To be offended that no one wants my sofa

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Chocolatemoosecups · 01/10/2025 15:54

We have an old leather sofa that we are trying to get rid of as we need the space.
It’s been a great sofa-still comfy to sit or lie on, clean, no major scratches etc. It does look quite wrinkly now but I don’t think it’s that bad-I thought at least someone would want it for their dogs or something.

I advertised it on market place for a tenner for weeks then dropped the price to free a few weeks ago.

One charity shop came to collect it but wouldn’t take it (luckily they took some other furniture so it wasn’t a wasted trip)
I’ve just shown a photo to another charity shop who have also said no thank you because the leather is quite wrinkly.

I felt quite offended on behalf of my faithful sofa especially as there were definitely some worse specimens on display in the shop!

Now the only option is to chop it up and take it to the tip which seems a real shame.

it’s got the relevant fire labels so it’s not that.
Maybe I’m just blind to how it looks!

OP posts:
Anononony · 01/10/2025 18:57

We were looking for a cheap sofa on FB for a while, but I must admit I wrote off leather/faux leather as an option, we had one before and it was horrible, freezing cold in winter and sticky in summer

We got a gorgeous, solid 3 seater that literally looks new for £50 last week, there's so many good options for under £200 on FB that anything clearly well used might as well be dumped

Chocolatemoosecups · 01/10/2025 18:56

SepticPegsSepticLeg · 01/10/2025 18:53

This chancer originally wanted £100 for these 😂

https://www.facebook.com/share/1BY9LX3BQf/

Edited

It’s not as bad as them 😂

OP posts:
SepticPegsSepticLeg · 01/10/2025 18:53

This chancer originally wanted £100 for these 😂

https://www.facebook.com/share/1BY9LX3BQf/

statetrooperstacey · 01/10/2025 18:52

Do you not just drag it out the front and put a sign on saying free , or do you not live in that kind of street?

butterpuffed · 01/10/2025 18:51

I will try emmaus and if they reject it I’ll phone the council (I didn’t know you could do that!)

@Chocolatemoosecups I needed to get rid of a 32" tv a couple of weeks ago, and the council wanted £55 to collect it . I'd imagine different councils charge different prices but not sure if they'd do it for free.

Mimilamore · 01/10/2025 18:45

I’d have it but yes as people say it’s the collecting that is the problem… I quite like a wrinkly leather, comfy, sofa!!!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/10/2025 18:43

I’d try Gumtree - dd has off.oaded some big items there.

SepticPegsSepticLeg · 01/10/2025 18:41

I'm surprised at some of the comments. I only ever buy second hand. Why spend all that money for the family to just wreck it?

Maybe some day when I don't have children around I will feel like I can safely spunk a grand on a sofa!

Some people do try to give away some really grotty ones though. Basically people just want a free crap disposal.

Hollietree · 01/10/2025 18:34

Most people don’t have a van, it will cost them a fair amount to transport it, so the free sofa isn’t really free. Just not worth it for an old wrinkly sofa. Sorry!

Does your local council offer a collection service for unwanted furniture and appliances? Ours does for a small fee.

GasPanic · 01/10/2025 18:31

Peoplemakemesigh · 01/10/2025 18:27

It's the wrinkles. It means the leather is stretched out. Which means it's been sat on or laid on a lot. Which means the foam padding won't be as fresh as it could be and it won't be anywhere near as comfortable as anyone would want it to be. It might be comfortable to you, it's your own arse-groove you're sitting in, that doesn't mean someone else will find it comfortable. Any sign of excessive use, such as wrinkling, staining or sagging and it's basically knackered and nobody will want it. If someone wants one "for a dog" they'll use their own knackered sofa when its time to buy a new one.

To sell, it needs to be like new, local enough and cheap enough that the ball ache of collecting it is worth it, versus the convenience of having a new one of your chosen design delivered into your living room.

Sofas are possibly even more important for poor people than rich people, they'll be staying home a lot more sitting on it because they can't afford to go out and won't have the budget for other home décor, so a worn out looking sofa that looks like it will be probably dented with someone else's arse-groove and is realistically coming to the end of its life, isn't what they'll choose, especially if they've no means of collecting it - they'll put a nice shiny new one of their choosing on a credit card instead and have the joy of sitting on something brand new that brightens up their living room (and, briefly, their life).

When young and starting out I was gifted some items by various people. I already had my (good quality, solid wood) bedroom furniture and my (perfectly fine) double bed with mattress, plus a small colour TV with integrated DVD player. I could have totally managed with just that while I saved up for everything else.

Of the stuff that I was given "to help me out", with kindness I naively believed, the small stuff like lamps, food bowls etc was fine. Although that's the stuff you can buy very cheaply in the supermarket, so not really necessary for someone to donate to me. The large stuff was complete and utter shite.
A sofa that was fine except the back cushions were squashed flat on one side and the armrest was totally caved in where someone had sat on it and broken the frame.
A single bed (I was an adult, living a one bedroom flat and already had a bed!) with a mattress that had been "cleaned" with some kind of hand held water using device, then wrapped up in cling film "to keep it clean until brought over", which whilst looked fine absolutely stank of mould when unwrapped.
Bedside cabinets I didn't need that were cheaply shoddily made and stained with mould spores on the inside of the drawers.
A mid size TV with a screen that was permanently slightly green, so it wasn't any better than watching black and white.
A washing machine with an internal mould problem that couldn't be cleaned out meaning all my clothes came out smelling of mould and after one month the pump broke and it no longer drained.

All these things I had to pay £10/item for the council to come remove. I could have put that money towards a cheap new sofa and been over halfway there. These people hadn't helped me in any way, they'd just dumped their unwanted and difficult to dispose of items onto me to save themselves the cost of getting them removed. Nobody wants your shite, people. If you don't want it, neither will anyone else, unless perhaps you're just getting rid because you don't like the colour or are moving in with a partner and have duplicate but still good stuff.

Edited

This.

It's basically, how can I get rid of this crap I don't want ?

Dump it on someone else and then it's their problem.

Armychef30 · 01/10/2025 18:30

Are your initial AL lol x

Peoplemakemesigh · 01/10/2025 18:27

It's the wrinkles. It means the leather is stretched out. Which means it's been sat on or laid on a lot. Which means the foam padding won't be as fresh as it could be and it won't be anywhere near as comfortable as anyone would want it to be. It might be comfortable to you, it's your own arse-groove you're sitting in, that doesn't mean someone else will find it comfortable. Any sign of excessive use, such as wrinkling, staining or sagging and it's basically knackered and nobody will want it. If someone wants one "for a dog" they'll use their own knackered sofa when its time to buy a new one.

To sell, it needs to be like new, local enough and cheap enough that the ball ache of collecting it is worth it, versus the convenience of having a new one of your chosen design delivered into your living room.

Sofas are possibly even more important for poor people than rich people, they'll be staying home a lot more sitting on it because they can't afford to go out and won't have the budget for other home décor, so a worn out looking sofa that looks like it will be probably dented with someone else's arse-groove and is realistically coming to the end of its life, isn't what they'll choose, especially if they've no means of collecting it - they'll put a nice shiny new one of their choosing on a credit card instead and have the joy of sitting on something brand new that brightens up their living room (and, briefly, their life).

When young and starting out I was gifted some items by various people. I already had my (good quality, solid wood) bedroom furniture and my (perfectly fine) double bed with mattress, plus a small colour TV with integrated DVD player. I could have totally managed with just that while I saved up for everything else.

Of the stuff that I was given "to help me out", with kindness I naively believed, the small stuff like lamps, food bowls etc was fine. Although that's the stuff you can buy very cheaply in the supermarket, so not really necessary for someone to donate to me. The large stuff was complete and utter shite.
A sofa that was fine except the back cushions were squashed flat on one side and the armrest was totally caved in where someone had sat on it and broken the frame.
A single bed (I was an adult, living a one bedroom flat and already had a bed!) with a mattress that had been "cleaned" with some kind of hand held water using device, then wrapped up in cling film "to keep it clean until brought over", which whilst looked fine absolutely stank of mould when unwrapped.
Bedside cabinets I didn't need that were cheaply shoddily made and stained with mould spores on the inside of the drawers.
A mid size TV with a screen that was permanently slightly green, so it wasn't any better than watching black and white.
A washing machine with an internal mould problem that couldn't be cleaned out meaning all my clothes came out smelling of mould and after one month the pump broke and it no longer drained.

All these things I had to pay £10/item for the council to come remove. I could have put that money towards a cheap new sofa and been over halfway there. These people hadn't helped me in any way, they'd just dumped their unwanted and difficult to dispose of items onto me to save themselves the cost of getting them removed. Nobody wants your shite, people. If you don't want it, neither will anyone else, unless perhaps you're just getting rid because you don't like the colour or are moving in with a partner and have duplicate but still good stuff.

SeriaMau · 01/10/2025 18:24

I bought a leather sofa on Facebook a few years back. £25 plus £80 van hire to collect it. The home wax really dirty, as was the sofa (although it cleaned up OK). And it was plastic not leather. I learned my lesson there.

Moveoverdarlin · 01/10/2025 18:22

I had a lovely sofa that I couldn’t get rid of. Ended up paying £30 to the council to take it.

MsJinks · 01/10/2025 18:20

Try looking at Re-Use online - they redistribute furniture to those struggling to afford it.
Not saying they will have a place near you, but may be worth a shot rather than tipping it?
It is hard to get furniture into charity shops or given away now - people expect far too much for free, and charities have learned what doesn’t sell I guess. Plus side is there must be many people donating so most stuff is reused?

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/10/2025 18:18

Well if you are demolishing it anyway. Show us

Beachtastic · 01/10/2025 18:14

Mayflower282 · 01/10/2025 15:59

Put a post that says “can arrange delivery for a small fee” and then use anyvan.com to give them a quote.

I've had terrible experiences with anyvan!

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Shellyash · 01/10/2025 18:11

EnchantedToMeetYou2 · 01/10/2025 16:15

Am I the only one that needs to see the sofa? 🫠😂

No.. we all do.

AutumnWreath · 01/10/2025 18:09

Chocolatemoosecups · 01/10/2025 17:34

Ok this has been cathartic!

Just looked and it’s £45 for the council to collect it so I will attack it with a sledgehammer at the weekend and take it to the tip in the car.

We are keeping the 2 seater from the same set so its legacy will live on.

Check your council's website re furniture . Ours will not accept broken up sofas \ chairs unless they are completely wrapped up .

TulipCat · 01/10/2025 18:07

PersephoneSmith · 01/10/2025 17:13

You are suffering from waster's guilt, you don't want it, but you want someone else to want it because you know that it has life left in it and you don't really need a new sofa.

Get over yourself. Keep the sofa because it is still good enough to use, or throw it away.

This is so true. I often see posts on my local Nextdoor trying to guilt-trip people by saying something like "Seems a shame to waste it. Collection today otherwise I'll have to take it to the tip on Tuesday". Well no, if you don't want it to go to waste you could just keep it and use it!

Bundleflower · 01/10/2025 17:59

OP, please don’t be a spoilt sport. Under the Freedom of Information Act, we NEED to see the sofa to be able to judge. 😄

pizzaHeart · 01/10/2025 17:54

Pinkmagic1 · 01/10/2025 16:13

I think it's definitely a logistical thing. Not many people have the means to collect one.

This ^
we chopped our old one up 😢

NotTheMrMenAgain · 01/10/2025 17:54

Chocolatemoosecups · 01/10/2025 17:34

Ok this has been cathartic!

Just looked and it’s £45 for the council to collect it so I will attack it with a sledgehammer at the weekend and take it to the tip in the car.

We are keeping the 2 seater from the same set so its legacy will live on.

From recent experience, if it’s a solid, sturdy sofa then you’ll probably have better luck with a chainsaw.

3luckystars · 01/10/2025 17:54

But you don’t want it either??

Ponderingwindow · 01/10/2025 17:52

Soft furniture second hand scares me from a bedbug perspective. It’s just not worth the risk.