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Why is everyone such a wet lettuce?

185 replies

gorlomi · 01/10/2025 15:12

Hand-wringing over badges. Upset over name origins. The list goes on and on.

Are people just bored and want some attention online or something?

It's my own fault for reading threads on here, and having other social media I guess!

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Upstartled · 01/10/2025 18:40

MrsPinkSky · 01/10/2025 18:32

YANBU OP, it's embarrassing.

And really not something you see much of on predominantly male websites.

@User37482, I love the Christmas fridge threads purely for the outrage and fun sponging! 🤣🤣

Oh, you want to have a look at singletrackworld, it's where all wet lettuce menfolk go to dissolve in a puddle of their own self-pity.

JHound · 01/10/2025 18:37

Who is upset over badges and name origins?!

MrsPinkSky · 01/10/2025 18:32

YANBU OP, it's embarrassing.

And really not something you see much of on predominantly male websites.

@User37482, I love the Christmas fridge threads purely for the outrage and fun sponging! 🤣🤣

Upstartled · 01/10/2025 18:23

User37482 · 01/10/2025 18:17

My favourites are the xmas fridge threads which degenerate into accusations of insensitivity and thoughtlessness.

Oh, this. How to take a benign thread about people playing fridge Tetris and elevate it to puppy kicking outrage.

NormasArse · 01/10/2025 18:23

LizTruss · 01/10/2025 15:42

I AM NOT A LETTUCE - wet or dry! 😡

Indeed you’re not- you don’t last as long as a lettuce.

VimtoIcePop · 01/10/2025 18:20

Preparing for winter? 😂 Try working outside for hours a day.

User37482 · 01/10/2025 18:17

My favourites are the xmas fridge threads which degenerate into accusations of insensitivity and thoughtlessness.

menopausalfart · 01/10/2025 18:14

I've come close to ending it all on several occasions. This wet lettuce is still hanging in there though.

menopausalfart · 01/10/2025 18:13

I get hugely depressed at the start of Winter. Maybe I need to just pull my socks up and get on with it like I've done for the last 40-odd years.

Shellyash · 01/10/2025 18:09

Agreed. Although a bit back when someone was whining because she wanted a baked potato and her friend picked it first so she had to get something else, I commented on the ops "real life issues" and was crucified on here

JoanOgden · 01/10/2025 18:06

It's the total pushovers that get me. I keep seeing threads like:

"My best friend has borrowed my life savings and not repaid anything, run off with my husband and is using my car every day as she says hers has a fault, meaning I have to walk 9 miles to work. Now she's messaged to ask if I can send over my first-born son to sweep her chimney. AIBU to say he's not free until the weekend as he has football and homework to do in the week?"

Didimum · 01/10/2025 18:00

ainsleysanob · 01/10/2025 17:56

Because when the seasonal affective disorder affects you in the opposite seasons, as it does for me, you have the piss taken out of you on Mumsnet!

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A friend of mine at work has this!

Swiftie1878 · 01/10/2025 17:59

Just wanted to thank the OO for starting this thread. It gave a me a lovely giggle and a warm feeling inside.

ainsleysanob · 01/10/2025 17:56

Didimum · 01/10/2025 17:46

Seasonal Affective Disorder has been recognised for over 40 years. What exactly is the issue with tactics to support people in that?

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Because when the seasonal affective disorder affects you in the opposite seasons, as it does for me, you have the piss taken out of you on Mumsnet!

LindorDoubleChoc · 01/10/2025 17:53

I did have this thought when I read today about someone "panicking" about Christmas dinner.

Didimum · 01/10/2025 17:48

ZoeCM · 01/10/2025 17:05

I agree. It's one thing to get upset when you have a bad day - talking things over can help. You can understand that something is relatively minor and still be upset about it, without needing to be reminded that other people are worse off.

But a lot of the "problems" people post about on here aren't even problems in the first place. "My bridesmaid has agreed to be a bridesmaid for another friend a few months after my wedding." "My cousin is having a baby a year after me." "My brother's sister-in-law has given her baby as the same name as one of my children." "I'm heartbroken that one of my daughters has green eyes and the other has brown." I'm not making this up - I've actually seen these exact threads posted on MN.

People likely always had these thoughts, it’s just more online now.

Didimum · 01/10/2025 17:46

Notdanishsusan · 01/10/2025 15:24

I saw a video yesterday about how to get mentally prepared for winter. Splitting out the weeks into zones and what needs to be done in those to get through mentally.

Or you could….go about your life as usual with a coat and hat and turn the lights on earlier.

Seasonal Affective Disorder has been recognised for over 40 years. What exactly is the issue with tactics to support people in that?

tuvamoodyson · 01/10/2025 17:39

LadyMary50 · 01/10/2025 16:02

Having just read the post about rainbow badges versus red badges,my anxiety is through the roof😂

Is your head all the over the place as well?

Linenpickle · 01/10/2025 17:26

Common sense, resilience and logical thinking are lost…..

ainsleysanob · 01/10/2025 17:26

They’re not called ‘wet lettuces’ in our family - they’re ’Pappy Folk’.

Gatehouse77 · 01/10/2025 17:22

Rainydayinlondon · 01/10/2025 16:09

Or posters who said they loved listening to the rain and were told to spare a thought for homeless people

You can do BOTH

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I absolutely agree with this. It’s as if people can only have binary opinions or if they have an opinion that makes them against the opposite when it can be a preference 🙄

For example, if someone doesn’t like animals it means they must hate them. Which is not true.

drspouse · 01/10/2025 17:16

YABVU to post about a bin thread, a rainbow badge thread, and a curtains thread WITHOUT LINKS.
I hope I can get an appointment with the GP because I'm definitely going to need one. My anxiety, don't you know.

BogRollBOGOF · 01/10/2025 17:12

TeaAndTattoos · 01/10/2025 16:50

Oh god I know what you mean people today wouldn’t have survived the 90’s I don’t know what is wrong with people nowhere days drives me insane the way people act over nothing. People seem incapable of doing anything these days without an instructional how to video on social media.

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Apparently young people would have dehydrated to a husk within 30 mins of arriving in the 90s without the constant clutching of at least half a litre of water in a bottle. No lasting through a school day on a swig from a fountain and a small cup of water in the canteen.
Not so much wet lettuces as dry, limp, dehydrated ones Grin

(Young people are great but do have the need to drink out of proportion)

ZoeCM · 01/10/2025 17:05

I agree. It's one thing to get upset when you have a bad day - talking things over can help. You can understand that something is relatively minor and still be upset about it, without needing to be reminded that other people are worse off.

But a lot of the "problems" people post about on here aren't even problems in the first place. "My bridesmaid has agreed to be a bridesmaid for another friend a few months after my wedding." "My cousin is having a baby a year after me." "My brother's sister-in-law has given her baby as the same name as one of my children." "I'm heartbroken that one of my daughters has green eyes and the other has brown." I'm not making this up - I've actually seen these exact threads posted on MN.

JoshLymanSwagger · 01/10/2025 17:00

How the hell do you open or close curtains incorrectly?

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