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To think this is bad neighbour etiquette?

118 replies

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:15

So when it’s bin day obviously the bins once emptied are just dumped wherever. Next doors (semi detached) has two bins and both were left blocking my driveway on the pavement.

This was yesterday morning and they still haven’t come and moved them.

They really are petty people.

OP posts:
IdaGlossop · 01/10/2025 16:10

Gracious me. Love thy neighbour is alive and kicking on your street.

muddyford · 01/10/2025 16:09

I replace three or four of my neighbours' bins each week.

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 01/10/2025 16:06

Love a neighbour thread! Always click on them 😂

OP didn't ask if it was a big deal. She didn't make out she's at home, siting at the windows, angrily staring at the bins, and that it's consuming her every waking thought and haunting her dreams.

She wrote a very short post asking if it's bad neighbour etiquette.

Of course it is. It's inconsiderate. It's low level, sure, but the answer to the OP's question is still yes.

LochKatrine · 01/10/2025 16:04

Whoevenarethey · 01/10/2025 16:03

Just move the bins when you moved your own. Presumably you went out to take yours in, so you could have just moved their bins over to their side of the driveway at the same time. You would still be washing your hands after doing your own bin so makes sense to move the neighbours off the driveway at the same time.

Don't come on here with all this common sense!
I think she should log it with 101.

Maddy70 · 01/10/2025 16:04

The bin men leave them there. You move them if they're yours

MrsArcher23 · 01/10/2025 16:04

(Runs out to bring in the bins that were collected yesterday morning at 5am…)

Whoevenarethey · 01/10/2025 16:03

Just move the bins when you moved your own. Presumably you went out to take yours in, so you could have just moved their bins over to their side of the driveway at the same time. You would still be washing your hands after doing your own bin so makes sense to move the neighbours off the driveway at the same time.

LochKatrine · 01/10/2025 16:03

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 12:29

Because I don’t want to touch someone else’s bin?

Why is it different from touching your own bin?
Or can't you touch that either?

MrsArcher23 · 01/10/2025 16:02

Are you helpless?

FartyAnimal · 01/10/2025 16:02

I assume.ypu manage to move your own in without vomiting? So just shift theirs at the same time. It's really pathetic to say it makes you feel sick (which is the sort of thing a teenager says to get out of doing something helpful).

LochKatrine · 01/10/2025 16:01

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:56

You leave your empty bin out for over a day and don’t collect it?

The horror! The horror! 😱

Lollipopsicle · 01/10/2025 15:59

Good grief! On the scale of things to get worked up about, this is really low down on the list. Just pathetic.

JustMyView13 · 01/10/2025 15:57

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:56

You leave your empty bin out for over a day and don’t collect it?

Yes. I do.
CBA sometimes after a long day at work. It’s not really petty, it’s more a bottom rung priority.
If they were blocking a neighbours drive, when I notice, I’d sort that. I may not bring them in though.
Anyway, and I’ll get scalded for this no doubt - it’s a blue job in our house.

Dutchhouse14 · 01/10/2025 15:49

Just move them over

Livpool · 01/10/2025 15:48

You sound petty! We put the bins away between us and NDN - I have never given it much thought

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/10/2025 15:47

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 15:08

They are home.

But yes I think it’s gross and lazy to not move your own bin when it was collected at 8am yesterday morning.

Oh dear, you really DO need to get out more! 😬

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/10/2025 15:47

BlueSeagull · 01/10/2025 15:32

Out of interest @cherryexplos do you work? Only ask as my retired mum spends time obsessing over things that really aren’t an issue put it down to having too much time on her hands

Edited

Yeah this. My mum (when she stopped work and was at home all the time) used to obsess over daft things that were very trivial - and make a massive issue out of small things.

She would start ranting about how Maureen and Beryl over the road are talking about her, and how evil they were, standing there, chatting across the garden fence, and they were definitely talking about her!

She would also rant about Louise (3 doors down) parking her car on the road, even though it didn't affect her remotely (mum had no car/didn't drive.) Louise wasn't in anyone's way, and she didn't have a driveway, so the road was the only place to park!!!

She also banged on about 'that Carol' at No 9 who had a different man every week, and knew how long each man was there. A sure sign of having too much time on your hands!

I think the OP @cherryexplos needs to get out more!

MissMoneyFairy · 01/10/2025 15:46

Can you ask them to move their bins as its causing you to be blocked in

LorrieTosh · 01/10/2025 15:45

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

If a bin was blocking my drive, it was bothering me, and it was particularly disgusting for some reason, I’d pop some gloves on or stick a bag over my hand before pulling it out of the way. What kind of person leaves it until they’re annoyed enough to post on MN, when the solution is so simple? I’m imagining the net curtains twitching as you angrily sip your tea, glaring at the bins while muttering about “those slatterns at 32” under your breath.

You’re being petty - just move the bin, wash your hands afterwards, and stop looking for reasons to take issue with your neighbours.

LittleMG · 01/10/2025 15:42

I leave my bins as I’ve always got my hands full with something, my neighbours shove them in my garden for me. My neighbour is really nice I’m so glad they don’t judge me like you would. Sometimes strangers just chuck my bins in for me.

DiscoBob · 01/10/2025 15:40

That's not being petty. They clearly didn't notice.

You say you are sickened by touching bins, well no-one enjoys it. But it sounds like a bit of an overreaction.

ohtowinthelottery · 01/10/2025 15:38

If our neighbour's bins are mistakenly left at the end of our drive, we move it to their driveway when we go out to put our bin away. We even put each other's bins out and back up the driveway if either of us is away on holiday.
And guess what I do when I get back in the house after touching the bin? Wash my hands! It's really not that hard.
Maybe your neighbour just forgot the bins have been emptied. Lots of our neighbours leave their bins out all day even though they're emptied by 10.00am and the neighbour's are in the house.

BlueSeagull · 01/10/2025 15:32

Out of interest @cherryexplos do you work? Only ask as my retired mum spends time obsessing over things that really aren’t an issue put it down to having too much time on her hands

Upinthetreetops · 01/10/2025 15:28

I have a young baby and have surprised myself at the number of times I've totally forgotten to pull my bin in until the next day if we're having a bit of a bad day and not leaving the house😂 So it definitely can just slip someone's mind! As neighbours, we all pull each other's bins in if they're in the way or seems like someone isn't home. It's normal enough IMO.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 01/10/2025 15:24

@cherryexplos YABU!

The bin men left the bins there on your driveway! Not your neighbours.

Just move them. I would - and I do if it happens... I even GASP move my neighbours bins off the pavement, onto the side on their driveways, to be neighbourly. (Quite often.) I do it for 3 neighbours sometimes! As well as my own!!!!!!!!!!

I know crazy right?! 😱 I mean they rarely do it for me, so..... hang on, I don't CARE, I still do it for them! 😎

@cherryexplos

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

How dramatic! 🙄