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How would you split the cost of this trip?

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GetBendyWithWendy · 01/10/2025 09:44

Surprise birthday trip for the parent of adult children.

Attending:
The other parent.
One adult child with a spouse and teen.
One single childless adult child.

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meganorks · 08/10/2025 09:41

I would say for accommodation, by rooms taken. So if it's 3 bed and family of teen are sharing with them, 200 each ter room. If teen gets their own room then family pay for 2 - £300 for them and £150 for single adult and couple

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 09:36

It’s my thread. If you’ve got a problem, YOU step away and stop spreading your poison.

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dontmalbeconme · 08/10/2025 09:25

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 09:18

You've been rude, snippy and confrontational throughout the whole thread, but your poor behaviour appears to have escalated overnight, with this bizarre unwarraranted attack on another poster.

Unwarranted? She’s attacked me all through the thread! And she has a history of unpleasant posts.

I think you're the only person seeing it like that, she wasn't attacking you at all. And the posts you (inappropriately) screenshotted from multiple threads were standard replies/comments, not anything showing the poster you were attacking as posting unpleasantly. Holding a different opinion to the OP is not an attack.

It is your behaviour that is unkind/inappropriate. Please step away from this thread and seek some mental health support.

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 09:18

Tiswa · 08/10/2025 08:54

For reporting bullying behaviour that is completely against the guidelines and spirit. No I just wanted it gone as it was a hughly inappropriate escalation

and thankfully it has been quickly removed

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 09:18

You've been rude, snippy and confrontational throughout the whole thread, but your poor behaviour appears to have escalated overnight, with this bizarre unwarraranted attack on another poster.

Unwarranted? She’s attacked me all through the thread! And she has a history of unpleasant posts.

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BuckChuckets · 08/10/2025 09:16

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:19

Ooh, maybe teacher will give you a gold star.

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Do you still see your responses as chilled and reasonable?

Tiswa · 08/10/2025 08:54

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:19

Ooh, maybe teacher will give you a gold star.

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For reporting bullying behaviour that is completely against the guidelines and spirit. No I just wanted it gone as it was a hughly inappropriate escalation

and thankfully it has been quickly removed

dontmalbeconme · 08/10/2025 08:37

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:26

“Inappropriate” 😆😆😆

It is, and if you can't see that, then you clearly have some issues that need addressing. Or you're deliberately goading.

Whatever you're doing, you're showing yourself up very badly indeed.

You've been rude, snippy and confrontational throughout the whole thread, but your poor behaviour appears to have escalated overnight, with this bizarre unwarraranted attack on another poster.

Respectfully, if you're not interested in other people's opinions, then it's not a good idea to ask people on the Internet what they think.

I hope you seek the help/support yourself need.

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:26

“Inappropriate” 😆😆😆

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dontmalbeconme · 08/10/2025 08:24

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:19

Ooh, maybe teacher will give you a gold star.

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Are you OK, OP? Your reaction is so disproportionate and inappropriate that it appears you're either deliberately being confrontational, or you're having some kind of mental health breakdown.

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 08:19

Tiswa · 08/10/2025 08:16

I have reported your post @GetBendyWithWendy taking screenshots from other threads isn’t on at all

Ooh, maybe teacher will give you a gold star.

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Tiswa · 08/10/2025 08:16

I have reported your post @GetBendyWithWendy taking screenshots from other threads isn’t on at all

dontmalbeconme · 08/10/2025 08:10

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Not sure exactly what you were trying achieve here OP, but the only person you've made look bad is yourself.

GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 01:20

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 00:36

This is the kind of vitriol you churn out.

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GetBendyWithWendy · 08/10/2025 00:32

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/10/2025 21:39

It should be split equally excluding the teenager.x 4.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/10/2025 21:30

50% of the cost.
We're a low income family in comparison to my 4 siblings, who are all professionals.
I always pay my fair share, even though it impacts my budget.

Change2banon · 07/10/2025 21:27

GetBendyWithWendy · 07/10/2025 18:55

You’re contradicting yourself. You say I don’t have to change my mind, but then criticise me for having my mind set. Both these things can’t be true.

Why are you so obsessed with knowing who I am in the story? You’ve never once said why you need to know. I have asked several times why it would affect your view and you’ve never answered. And if, as you say, “it’s very evident” (complete with patronising little shrug emoji), surely you don’t need me to say?

Im not contradicting myself at all. I never said you had to change your mind, you brought that up, not me. Your mind is set so why bother getting anyone else’s opinions? All that’s happening is you’re getting hostile towards others. I keep asking who you are as I think you’ll get better, more constructive opinions. It’s the fact you won’t say who you are which is just ridiculous, like you can’t admit it because you know the pile on you’ll get 🤷‍♀️ <— this is not patronising.

IchiNiSanShiGo · 07/10/2025 20:23

GetBendyWithWendy · 07/10/2025 18:55

You’re contradicting yourself. You say I don’t have to change my mind, but then criticise me for having my mind set. Both these things can’t be true.

Why are you so obsessed with knowing who I am in the story? You’ve never once said why you need to know. I have asked several times why it would affect your view and you’ve never answered. And if, as you say, “it’s very evident” (complete with patronising little shrug emoji), surely you don’t need me to say?

I think people are just trying to figure out the family dynamics OP. I know you don’t think it makes a difference, but it does. If you ve got parents who are usually generous and offer to pay for group holidays, you’d sort of expect them to pay for this trip too. If you don’t get on that well, but feel obligated to attend this holiday, you won’t want to pay more than the bare minimum.

Have you actually spoken to your parents / siblings with regards to this now, given that it’s been almost a week since you started the thread? What do they think?

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GetBendyWithWendy · 07/10/2025 18:55

You’re contradicting yourself. You say I don’t have to change my mind, but then criticise me for having my mind set. Both these things can’t be true.

Why are you so obsessed with knowing who I am in the story? You’ve never once said why you need to know. I have asked several times why it would affect your view and you’ve never answered. And if, as you say, “it’s very evident” (complete with patronising little shrug emoji), surely you don’t need me to say?

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Change2banon · 07/10/2025 18:39

GetBendyWithWendy · 07/10/2025 13:12

What’s your point? Surely anyone posting on a Mumsnet thread knows the OP won’t change their mind. It’s advice, not a directive.

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I didn’t say you had to change your mind 😵‍💫😵‍💫

I’m not sure why you’re here really when you have your mind set and that’s that. You seem to be arguing with those who don’t agree with you or are challenging you. What’s the point? You won’t even say who you are in this set up, even though it’s very evident. 🤷‍♀️

Coconutter24 · 07/10/2025 13:39

Me and my sibling would just go 50/50. If you’re not happy to pay for other people then I’d suggest you, sibling and spouse split the cost 3 ways.

dontmalbeconme · 07/10/2025 13:30

Maddy70 · 07/10/2025 13:13

Same price per person

Its a gift for OP and her siblings parent, from OP and her sibling.