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Hen party - was this comment a bit shitty?

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Hulling91 · 30/09/2025 19:02

I’m in a WhatsApp group for my friends hen - I’m not organising it but I’m close friends with the girl who is.

She put a perfectly polite message in the chat on Saturday to ask for people’s instagram user names, as she’d tag any photos etc.

One of the attendees didn’t reply, so she chased her earlier. The reply back was ‘Sorry, but given I’m 33 with two kids and a full time job, I don’t use Instagram and prefer to update those close to me personally about things’.

Just feels a bit…awkward? She only knows the hen and not the rest of the group going.

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ColinOfficeTrolley · 30/09/2025 19:29

Her answer was unnecessarily rude, but I would definitely not want people I don't know tagging me in SM pics that I'd not had a chance to veto!

stichguru · 30/09/2025 19:26

I think the response "given I'm 33 with two kids and a full time job" was rude and unnecessary. However expecting to use a certain platform is also rude. If you are organising a group event, you should find out how people wish to communicate.

Wedonttalkaboutboris · 30/09/2025 19:09

Is it true, necessary, kind? No.
She could have just get her passive aggressive comments to herself and said ‘no I don’t use Instagram’.

BlouseyBrowne · 30/09/2025 19:09

She could’ve just said ‘I’m not on Instagram’.

I’d guess she’s eye rolling from afar at potential OTT hen-do nonsense.

LimeBasilandManderin · 30/09/2025 19:08

She could’ve just said I don’t use Instagram and left it at that rather than being over dramatic

ThejoyofNC · 30/09/2025 19:08

It was unnecessarily bitchy.

TurnTheGodforsakenVolumedown · 30/09/2025 19:08

Other girl shouldn't have made the dig but friend shouldn't have chased for a response. I have never heard of this being pre-arranged. Organised fun and gives the friend free reign to upload whatever photos she wants, which I'm sure will favour her in terms of angle/lighting while others look awful and understandably don't want to be tagged

PattySpringsteensHorse · 30/09/2025 19:06

I don’t think it was shitty tbh. I don’t use FB/Insta either, all she was doing was giving a reason for not using it, I wouldn’t want photos of me put on other peoples social media.