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If your child is not Catholic

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Tiredallthetimeneedsleep · 30/09/2025 13:08

And attends a Catholic school, do you go to Holy Mass? I'm not Catholic and have received an email invite to attend Holy Mass. I'm not sure I can go as an agency worker so not sure if I'll be working anyway. Wwyd

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Hoolahoophop · 30/09/2025 13:22

I have non-Catholic children at a Catholic school. We do not attend mass. If they have special services (Christmas, Easter) that are child led then we will go to watch. But not regular services, though my youngest has started to show an interest. The whole school is invited to various feast day Masses during the year but there is no pressure to attend, so long as you do not go against the values being taught by the school its welcoming to all faiths, and they are learning about all faiths. We are CofE but there was not a CofE school nearby and the local non-faith school is crap.

APTPT · 30/09/2025 13:21

I'd rather shit in my hands and clap then let my kids go to any sort of faith school.

You are teaching them insincerity by sending them.

MissAmbrosia · 30/09/2025 13:19

No services were held during the school day.

MissAmbrosia · 30/09/2025 13:18

My dd went to a catholic secondary and a catholic uni - but then I am in Belgium where the church seems to be overly involved in education. That being said - the school was run on a "christian" ethos with compulsory RE, but those lessons tended to be more ethics based than bible related. Plenty of kids from different religions too. I am nominatively C of E, but dd was never christened - we are not a religious household.

Dudgeon · 30/09/2025 13:15

Indianajet · 30/09/2025 13:10

As a non believer I wouldn't go - but neither would I send my child to a faith school.

There is precisely one non-faith secondary in my city, right at the opposite side. DS would need to walk for a three quarters of a mile and then take a lengthy bus journey to get there. His class has six or so Muslims, a few Hindus, and quite a few non-Catholic Christian kids. DS claims he ‘looks out the window’during orayers.

PinkyFlamingo · 30/09/2025 13:12

I wouldnt send my child to any kind of faith school in the first place if I wasn't following that religion to be honest.

Dudgeon · 30/09/2025 13:11

God, no. DS has been at a C of E and a secular primary, and he’s now at a Catholic secondary — bar a couple of nativities in the early years of primary, I’ve never been to any services associated with either religious school. I grew up Catholic but have chosen not to baptise DS.

Indianajet · 30/09/2025 13:10

As a non believer I wouldn't go - but neither would I send my child to a faith school.

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