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Changing nappies on airport seats

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 12:57

I don’t have any DCs yet and not planning on ttc for a few years.

I was at a mallorca airport last and the plane was about to board abd a lady changed her around 4/5mth old baby’s dirty nappy on the passenger seats. I told her that was disgusting and people have to sit there to use the bathroom opposite as there was a changing table in there. admittedly there was a big queue but not the point imo.

When I have DCs, I’d never dream of doing that, I’d always use the facilities provided in the vicinity as respect and courteousness to others. I personally believe it’s lazy parenting not to use adequate facilities available!!!

AIBU, that some parents with babies these days think they’re so entitled just like the one I’ve described above ? And AIBU for berating her actions the way I did ?

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CoreyTaylorsbiggestfan · 30/09/2025 22:13

It’s also the fact she’s changed a dirty nappy in a public place and not washed her hands! It’s disgusting!

CheeseWisely · 30/09/2025 22:13

CoreyTaylorsbiggestfan · 30/09/2025 22:03

I agree with you OP, it’s disgusting and more people should say something. I judge people who do this.

Yes I am a parent and never in a million years would it enter my brain to change a nappy on an airport seat.
Ive encountered my fair share of poo explosions etc with my child and sometimes had to result in changing her in the back seat of the car.

I never understood changing a nappy in the middle of your livingroom either, people said when I’m a parent I would change my mind.Nope, I’ll go upstairs where away from the living area and easy access to the bathroom to wash my hands!

Don’t you have a kitchen to wash your hands in? Confused

CheeseWisely · 30/09/2025 22:12

@KittyCoo Well a more similar analogy would be if you did get caught short in a stressful situation and a random stranger popped up and berated you publicly for being disgusting, rather than asking if you were ok or needed any help.

AgentPidge · 30/09/2025 22:11

FanofLeaves · 30/09/2025 13:18

Don’t be silly. By the time you found a staff member to dob her into it would have been done and dusted. What are they going to do, put her on a No Fly list?

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I read that as the mother finding a member of staff to say "I need to go and change the baby's nappy. Please don't let the plane go without me!"

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 22:10

CoreyTaylorsbiggestfan · 30/09/2025 22:03

I agree with you OP, it’s disgusting and more people should say something. I judge people who do this.

Yes I am a parent and never in a million years would it enter my brain to change a nappy on an airport seat.
Ive encountered my fair share of poo explosions etc with my child and sometimes had to result in changing her in the back seat of the car.

I never understood changing a nappy in the middle of your livingroom either, people said when I’m a parent I would change my mind.Nope, I’ll go upstairs where away from the living area and easy access to the bathroom to wash my hands!

Finally another parent who is sensible and considerate!!! And well done for sticking to your gut feelings pre parenting, takes some willpower for sure

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 22:09

@DrowningInSyrup @CheeseWisely i was just interested in other people’s opinions and wanted to vent. I was prepared to be told AIBU bit in a softer way rather than saying you’re not a parent you don’t understand, which is making me feel like crap because what others have suggested that me using a bathroom to change a nappy is wrong. If you read my PPs aboot my Crohn’s, I never berate my friends for saying to me when I decline an invite for a hike in the woods when come on you’ll be ok but in reality I worry aboot getting caught short!! What others have said about me on this forum is like me saying to my friends in that situation, you don’t have Crohn’s so you don’t understand!!!!

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BeLilacSloth · 30/09/2025 22:05

I really wonder what the poor mother said back to OP, I bet it was really embarrassing (for you) to have a go at a struggling mother with a baby and everyone around you was probably thinking wtf is her problem

caringcarer · 30/09/2025 22:05

If the Mum had a mat she could have found a corner and put the baby on the floor on the mat, if she thinks matbis so clean and not covered in bacteria, not used a seat someone will sit on.

CoreyTaylorsbiggestfan · 30/09/2025 22:03

I agree with you OP, it’s disgusting and more people should say something. I judge people who do this.

Yes I am a parent and never in a million years would it enter my brain to change a nappy on an airport seat.
Ive encountered my fair share of poo explosions etc with my child and sometimes had to result in changing her in the back seat of the car.

I never understood changing a nappy in the middle of your livingroom either, people said when I’m a parent I would change my mind.Nope, I’ll go upstairs where away from the living area and easy access to the bathroom to wash my hands!

DrowningInSyrup · 30/09/2025 22:02

@KittyCoo why bother posting then, if you aren't flexible in your thinking. Why didn't you start your post with I AM BEING REASONABLE THERE IS NO POINT IN DISAGREEING WITH ME.

caringcarer · 30/09/2025 22:00

No it's disgusting and absolutely no excuse for it. Babies need to be changed in toilets when out of their own homes.

CheeseWisely · 30/09/2025 21:58

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:53

@YaWeeFurryBastard people are entitled to their opinions, you and me included. I’ll stick by my own and by all means you’re welcome to do so too

And yet you’re unsure enough about yours to ask strangers on the internet to validate you. Another yes-but AIBU.

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:53

@YaWeeFurryBastard people are entitled to their opinions, you and me included. I’ll stick by my own and by all means you’re welcome to do so too

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YaWeeFurryBastard · 30/09/2025 21:28

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:22

@YaWeeFurryBastard since when have I shown no manners, I did say in my OP there were adequate facilities in the toilets in the vicinity

@PropertyD that’s revolting 🤢

It’s quite clearly very poor manners to berate a stranger in public. Utterly classless behaviour.

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:22

@YaWeeFurryBastard since when have I shown no manners, I did say in my OP there were adequate facilities in the toilets in the vicinity

@PropertyD that’s revolting 🤢

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AutumnCosy2025 · 30/09/2025 21:17

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 13:07

It was dirty yes abd she used a changing ma abd was quick!! I’m not blaming the child for one moment, it was her attitude to think airport seats were the bathroom!! Yes I understand with young children you have to act quickly but it’s about being considerate to everyone else in the vicinity

She used a changing mat, so what exactly was the problem??

IF you're ever a parent do get back to us with your perfect parenting.

she probably thought she didn't have time to go to the 'facilities' before boarding the flight but wanted to change the nappy so as not to inflict it on the passenger(s) sitting next to her.

its a tiny baby being changed - get a grip.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 30/09/2025 21:17

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:13

@Mumtobabyhavoc i wouldn’t leave my future child in a soiled nappy to appease others no but i respect that strangers wouldn’t want to witness a nappy change whilst having a coffee, or reading the paper!! The world doesn’t revolve round me or this woman quote frankly!!!

@YaWeeFurryBastard im not calling people offensive, im just reminding them of what it’s like to have manners!!!

@tellmesomethingtrue what if it’s a two dad family??????

A bit rich of you to remind people to have manners when you yourself have shown you have none.

Good manners would be offering to help the lady to go somewhere suitable (especially given you have a radar key) or at worst saying “excuse me would you mind using the changing facilities”, not kicking off and calling her disgusting.

PropertyD · 30/09/2025 21:13

Last year in the seat row behind me a women waited until the complete stranger went to join the queue for the toilet and proceeded to change her baby on HIS seat.

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:13

@Mumtobabyhavoc i wouldn’t leave my future child in a soiled nappy to appease others no but i respect that strangers wouldn’t want to witness a nappy change whilst having a coffee, or reading the paper!! The world doesn’t revolve round me or this woman quote frankly!!!

@YaWeeFurryBastard im not calling people offensive, im just reminding them of what it’s like to have manners!!!

@tellmesomethingtrue what if it’s a two dad family??????

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Crissy83 · 30/09/2025 21:12

themerchentofvenus · 30/09/2025 13:06

One day when/if you have kids, you will regret criticising that woman.

Disagree, it’s just gross - you find a proper way

pteromum · 30/09/2025 21:12

I’m going to go on a personal wording rant.

to use the expression WHEN I have DC whilst calling someone else entitled, is all that stands out for me.

thank you

Goldfoxwife · 30/09/2025 21:08

I mean that is pretty gross to do it their

YaWeeFurryBastard · 30/09/2025 21:07

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:03

@YaWeeFurryBastard ive changed my niece and nephews and o used to work in a nursery so changed more than my fair share and other people’s DCs

If that’s how you want to treat me fine, and if people are horrible to me, I soon stand my ground as you can see here 😉I don’t go down without a good fight. All in all two wrongs don’t make a right

I can’t see that here, I just see you having a strop and calling people offensive because they are calling you out for being nasty to a mum of a young baby 🤷🏻‍♀️. You need to grow a thicker skin if you actually are going to say things like this to people in public.

tellmesomethingtrue · 30/09/2025 21:06

KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 13:34

@CrocodileJen she was sitting in the row behind me and I looked up and saw her doing it

@Athreedoorwardrobe @Awobabobob yes babies go at the most unpredictable times and not once in my post am I blaming the child!! What me and OH said between us, if that had been us in a few years, I would’ve asked him to have changed the nappy (never a queue for men’s loos) and I would’ve explained to the staff at the gate what’s happened! Surely that’s just common sense right ?

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Hahaha you have no idea what it’s like. Wait until you become a parent and then you’ll realise that sometimes you just have to crack on with things like this.
I would never allow my baby to be changed in the men’s - they are disgusting. I also would not miss my flight due to waiting in a queue for the facilities. Get off your high horse and mind your own business. Didn’t affect you.

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KittyCoo · 30/09/2025 21:03

@YaWeeFurryBastard ive changed my niece and nephews and o used to work in a nursery so changed more than my fair share and other people’s DCs

If that’s how you want to treat me fine, and if people are horrible to me, I soon stand my ground as you can see here 😉I don’t go down without a good fight. All in all two wrongs don’t make a right

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