Changing nappies on airport seats

She could quite easily 'look after her baby' in the baby changing facilities which would have been provided in the airport. And then washed her hands afterwards. Like all of us non skanky and hygienic parents do.

You realise a really significant proportion of people literally never wash their hands after going to the loo, right? And OP realises most seats in public places are covered in faecal bacteria from people's shoes, etc? I'm a massive germophobe and I would never consider berating a stranger for something like this.

This whole thread is nuts; I hope I never cross paths with lots of the women here.

disgusting, saw someone do it on a restaurant chair outside toilets in tenerife airport , then left dirty nappy on the floor ,,staff shouted at them but were ignored

But then she wouldn't have washed her hands surely if she wasn't near the toilets? Then touching everything in sight 🤢
Hand sanitiser isn't as good as washing with good soap and water.

In a WC/cloakroom! No one is suggesting it's wrong to change a baby on a changing table in the facilities provided.

I feel the same and I'm, apparently (?), NT! 😁

FWIW, no women/mother/parent should feel vulnerable to harassment or abuse when attending to their children. We deal with enough anxiety about their needs as it is. iykyk. You do what you need to do for them.
Hopefully, with luck, you'll get to experience all of this including the many joys. 💕

I was trying to be clear and direct, which in my experience with ND people works. You defending your position has angered some people, but explaining you are ND helps me to see why you felt that way beyond a thought of, Gross! to the next huge step of admonishing someone. You don't have to correct everyone's behaviour. (However much we want to!). 🫶

So you think it’s fine to berate and humiliate the mother of a young baby in public but a few comments on the internet towards you are a step too far 🙄.

Tbh I agree with a PP that had I been there I would have intervened on the poor woman’s behalf.

@KittyCoo This thread is crazy! @Mumtobabyhavoc was being sympathetic to your undiagnosed SEN issues, but you chose not to read or absorb that bit.

I think you were wrong to call this women disgusting, you shamed and humiliated her in public. That to me is the greater of 2 evils....however other people think what you did was right. That's their opinion and I'm glad you got some support here. But this is no longer doing you any good, it's just argument after argument about what is essentially a very small incident.

I've seen people change nappies on picnic tables. 🤮

Ok. First, I'm sorry about your challenges. You likely think in a more linear fashion and find comfort in set rules, yes?
The world works differently.
The scenario you described initially is more complex that a simple act of changing a baby in a location you might not have liked. You did not have the right to berate that woman, or speak to her about it at all. Your behaviour was horrible.
You saw something that you didn't like or agree with, but it had zero effect on your life. Your reaction, however, did affect someone because you broke the invisible barrier between all of us to let each other be.

Your act was entitled, rigid and cruel.
You are lucky she didn't challenge you back.
If you had done that to me you would've faced a barrage of expletives and I'd have reported you for harassment to the airport authorities. Honestly.
The fact that you have various challenges does not give you any authority over others. It is up to you to adjust yourself, not impose rules on others.

You are not the victim, but you did victimize that women rightly attending to her baby's immediate needs.

Ok. First, I'm sorry about your challenges. You likely think in a more linear fashion and find comfort in set rules, yes?
The world works differently.
The scenario you described initially is more complex that a simple act of changing a baby in a location you might not have liked. You did not have the right to berate that woman. Your behaviour was horrible.
You saw something that you didn't like or agree with, but it had zero effect on your life. Your reaction, however, did affect someone because you broke the invisible barrier between all of us to let each other be.

Your act was entitled, rigid and cruel.
You are lucky she didn't challenge you back.
if you had done that to me you would've faced a barrage of expletives and I'd have repirted you for harassment to the airport authotriries. You l

Yes, it is right to publicly shame strangers. All the good people should unite. Maybe create some sort of club?

She was using a changing pad.

Fertility issues have absolutely nothing to do with this. You brought that up.
The facts are, you have zero clue what that woman went through that day or what it is like to be a parent? Your medical history doesn’t entitle you to be down right nasty to someone you don’t know. But now because you’re being called out on it, you don’t like it and now you’re the victim.

Your OP stated you will ttc in a few years. I hope when you have children you are shown grace and patience and total strangers don’t berate you in a public place for giving your baby the basic care they deserve.

I have been in a very vulnerable place with a 4 month old and somebody like you that doesn’t know how to keep their horrid comments to themselves would have absolutely floored me and my self esteem.

kindness and patience cost us nothing OP.

For the next time you use a bus, a plane or a train, maybe carry some hand sanitiser ☺️

take care out there kitty!

Im.not a fsn of this either. However I've been to that airport and facilities in departure are terrible.

Having travelled with small children id just let thus go.

Hmm generally I’d say YANBU, however if there was a queue for the baby change and the plane was about to board, then presumably time is of the essence here. It would have been unfair to the baby and the passengers sitting nearby to leave the baby in a pooey nappy, so changing it in a very public place is the lesser of two evils here really. However, changing it on the floor would have been a better option for the sake of the people who need to use the seats afterwards, but maybe the mother had mobility issues 🤷‍♀️

Yes, all the good people should shame all the bad ones.