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My 16 yo has taken a job that has turned out to voluntary!

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Lemurlady · 30/09/2025 10:52

My 16 yo DS has taken what he thought was a paid job at our local swimming club as a poolside helper with a view to doing his coaching qualifications. He had to do his DBS and a 3 hour safeguarding course in his own time. He has done his first month (2.5hours/week) and asked when he was getting paid. He has been told it’s voluntary for 6 months and after that they will decide whether to take him on at £8/hour. It was never mentioned in any of the email correspondence that it was unpaid. He did not sign a contract and got the gig because he used to swim at the club and reached out to them. AIBU to expect him to be paid for the hours he has done and in thinking this is very exploitative as it would seem the only way into coaching is to work for free for 6 months. Is it even legal?

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fiorentina · 01/10/2025 19:56

It sounds like a mid communication rather than fraud. A lot of youth positions at sports clubs like this are unpaid as the business isn’t profit making, whether football coaching, helping at athletics etc. Young people use for experience or DofE as you suggest. Perhaps his enquiry wasn’t clear he wanted a paid position which is frustrating but a life lesson. Hope he can find a paid role.

TappyGilmore · 01/10/2025 19:33

I wouldn’t get into the legalities of it. He can just quit if he was not aware that it would be voluntary and doesn’t want to do it on that basis.

WeeGeeBored · 01/10/2025 19:33

Modern day slavery. It seems the fitness industry is a bit dodgy when it comes to getting free labour. A lot of the budget gyms are the same. They have the downright cheek to boast about their profits which they only achieve by not paying their staff.

Binglebong · 01/10/2025 19:31

I do DBSs for volunteers - there is a question asking if it can/will lead you a paid role. If you answer yes you get charged, if no then it's free.

So if they got the DBS for free they either intend to not empty him or lied on the application.

BlueMum16 · 01/10/2025 19:30

Lemurlady · 30/09/2025 12:32

Oh no in swimming clubs, coaches get paid. According to swim England head coaches get paid about £30k. All the adult age coaches get paid- this is variable due to level of coaching. It is only the committee that are unpaid

Our swimming club is run completely by volunteers - committee, coaches, teachers, everyone. As are the majority in the leagues we compete in.

What I would suggest though is to see if the local authority employee lifeguards. Cours is about 300-400 quid. Some offer for free if you promise to work for them.

DD just qualified as a lifeguard and an Assistant Coach. Can't do Coach qualification until she's 18 so not looking at a swim teacher qualification instead.

David Lloyd and places pay really well for lifeguards and teachers.

Iamgettingolderandgrumpier · 01/10/2025 19:28

Lemurlady · 30/09/2025 13:37

They paid for his DBS

I wouldn’t get excited. Only costs about £18 for volunteer DBS. Enhanced DBS for staff cost about £50.

Fatchilli99 · 01/10/2025 19:28

Bet any "training" isn't formal or leading to any qualification either.

AntiBullshit · 01/10/2025 19:12

Steep learning curve for him. He should have asked the salary when he was offered. Did the advert state it was unpaid? Poor thing

Linenpickle · 01/10/2025 19:11

Have you got anything in writing to say it was paid?

llizzie · 01/10/2025 19:11

Lemurlady · 30/09/2025 13:02

Thanks for your reply. Some of the helpers have been there for a while and get paid. He wants to go to university but would like to get a coaching qualification done alongside his A levels so he can coach alongside his degree. He’s only in year 12 but if he has to volunteer for 6 months I’m not sure he’ll have time to finish before A levels start. With regards to volunteering, I agree it has value but he already volunteers for an animal charity and has done for 2+ years. I think, being 16, he was excited thinking he had his first job and was naive to the process.

Is DS in full time education as well as this?

GiveDogBone · 01/10/2025 18:31

Tricky. I mean there’s plenty of people who “work” for clubs that are basically volunteers. Think of netball coaches, football coaches, etc. And some that aren’t, e.g. people taking lessons. So really not so much exploitation, it’s the model. Most the fees go on premises hire.

Whatinthedoopla · 01/10/2025 18:09

This almost happened to me when I was about 18. The interview took place, and it was more like him trying to convince me to do the job than him asking questions.

I asked me what the pay was going to be, and he said to check with the job centre.

The cheek of people wanting to use people for free and not tell them!

If your son needs to do these hours for the qualification, I would say to carry on. If not, to leave. There is no guarantee he will get a job. I hope he got free swimming sessions out of it at least!

Meep2024 · 01/10/2025 17:53

Six weeks voluntary? Sure. Six months voluntary? Complete exploitation IMO. I'd bet my last ten pounds they decide to not keep many on as the Six months comes up.

Did you say there was no contract too? DC1 had to sign a plethora of documents for their volunteer job. Major red flags with that one OP. Seems like they're taking advantage of young ones who wouldn't always be the ways of work etc.

justkeepwalking · 01/10/2025 02:28

Lemurlady · 30/09/2025 12:32

Oh no in swimming clubs, coaches get paid. According to swim England head coaches get paid about £30k. All the adult age coaches get paid- this is variable due to level of coaching. It is only the committee that are unpaid

In my club, only the head coach receives pay, and that’s minimum wage. The coaches receive a small discount if their kids swim and the poolside helpers are volunteers for which the club will pay for the coaching course fees (as they do with all coaches, along with DBS). Not all clubs are the same and the Swim England salary you mentioned likely only applies to a few large clubs.

Eccle80 · 30/09/2025 22:52

I’m a member of a swimming club committee, and have a 16 year old DS who has been a poolside helper for a couple of years. We pay our qualified coaches, but not those with an assistant coach qualification or poolside helpers who are unqualified (but need DBS and safeguarding once they are 16). We do support those who are long term poolside helpers if they want to gain a coaching qualification, and the club has just paid for the majority of my DS’s assistant coach course. I’m surprised a club would pay their poolside helpers. Will they pay for his assistant coach course if he is planning to do that soon?

Wednesdayonline · 30/09/2025 20:53

I have been involved with swimming clubs my whole life. I have never known poolside helpers to be paid, they are usually teenagers getting volunteer experience or parents helping out. Did they actually offer him a job? Or did they just say he could help out on poolside with a view to doing his qualification.

Bellavida99 · 30/09/2025 20:45

My daughter had similar at gymnastics except they said it was unpaid, paid for her to do her gym coach exams , and gave her free gymnastics saving us £85 a month so we gave her the £85 we were saving. They also loved and appreciated her and were always turning up with cake / treats/ silly bits to show their appreciation. Yours is taking the piss. Even if unpaid they should be up front and give something to show their appreciation.

Iloveeverycat · 30/09/2025 19:15

Did they ask for a national insurance number. If they didn't they couldn't of paid him anyway.

Cyclingforcake · 30/09/2025 18:46

I’m a Welfare Officer with a grassroots swimming club. Poolside helper is definitely a volunteer role in our swimming club. Usually it’s either parents of swimmers or kids wanting either a bit of experience in coaching or as part of their service element for D of E. We pay for their DBS checks and safeguarding courses if we need them. We only pay our Level 2 coaches and we need one poolside at all club sessions. Level 1 coaches are all volunteers.

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caringcarer · 30/09/2025 18:39

Who paid for him to do the qualification to coach swimming? I was a volunteer at a local swim club many years ago. I did it for 8 years. Th club paid for me to do swim coaching qualifications and First Aid Certificate. I got paid after 6 months. I think if I'd paid for my own courses I'd have got paid after 3 months.

Jamesblonde2 · 30/09/2025 18:21

Cheeky gits. Tell him to throw
in the towel - literally.

Satisfiedwithanapple · 30/09/2025 18:03

Poolside helpers would never be paid at a swimming club. You’d need to be a qualified coach. Some clubs don’t even pay them.

Bumblebee72 · 30/09/2025 18:01

It's odd that the pay wouldn't come up before. But it is pretty normal for clubs to be reliant on volunteers. When we get teens coming to our scout group as Young Leaders it wouldn't cross my mind to tell them it isn't paid.

postitnot · 30/09/2025 17:57

Now he's 16 he could do his lifeguarding qualification and get a paid job doing that? The month he spent volunteering would be good on his CV

oldclock · 30/09/2025 17:52

It's a lesson for your DS. How much did he think he was going to be paid, and on what basis, as a salary/hourly rate was clearly never written down.