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To cancel my gym class I’m booked into tonight?

190 replies

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:08

I’ve woken up full of cold and I feel like shit. All I want is to crawl into bed, but needs must and I need to go to work. My gym asks that you avoid cancelling on the day of a class, but you have to do it more than 4 hours before the class if you’re going to. I’ll see if I can still go to the gym at all, because I know I’m being lazy if I don’t, but AIBU to break their policy and cancel?

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autienotnaughty · 30/09/2025 07:52

My gym we can cancel anytime, it triggers an automatic email to those on the wait list so they can book on.

SagittariusDwarf · 30/09/2025 07:52

Good lord, why is thi even a question? I don't know how some people get through the day.

Enjoy spreading your germs to unsuspecting people at the gym 🙄

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 30/09/2025 07:51

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:49

I feel like crap. But I’m still able to get out of bed. That is a minor reason.

Don’t go if you feel like crap it is selfish. Go for a walk or do a home work out if you can’t miss a day. You could be putting people who are at the gym recovering after illness at risk and ruining the hard work of others. Just do something at home. It won’t hurt you for a few days.

dementedpixie · 30/09/2025 07:51

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:49

I feel like crap. But I’m still able to get out of bed. That is a minor reason.

You got out of bed because you need to go to work

moresoup · 30/09/2025 07:50

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

You can't out run a bad diet.
To lose weight it's your diet you need to focus on.

You want to build healthy and sustainable habits so that means resting when ill. Take it from me . I kept exercising through illness and now have chronic fatigue

dementedpixie · 30/09/2025 07:50

Im obese too. I will still miss classes if I'm unwell. Obesity is related more to what you eat than the exercise you do. Go for a walk if you feel you still need to do something

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:49

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:47

Well reread your op

one minute you sound as being almost bed bound

and now you’re thinking it’s a minor reason

I feel like crap. But I’m still able to get out of bed. That is a minor reason.

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moresoup · 30/09/2025 07:48

When you are ill, your body needs to rest. The most you should do is a gentle walk or a bit of stretching at home.
That's not giving up, it's taking care of yourself.

Plus you want to build sustainable habits not crash and burn

TheCurious0range · 30/09/2025 07:47

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

I go to the gym for cardiac rehab, getting ill makes my heart condition worse. Go for a walk/jog outside and spare the other gym goers

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:47

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

Well reread your op

one minute you sound as being almost bed bound

and now you’re thinking it’s a minor reason

DDivaStar · 30/09/2025 07:47

You literally wrote 'I've woken up full of cold' thats contagious!

You were run down and the cold probably feels worse because of this. Give your body a break, take a walk or gentle jog if you don't want to be sitting around.

No one will thank you for spreading your germs.

Allschoolsareartschools · 30/09/2025 07:46

This reads like you need everyone to tell you its ok to not do a gym class when feeling ill to ease some sort of guilt?

Honestly please stop trying to force yourself.
Good habits are great but this sounds borderline unhealthy & obsession like.

Rest days are so important & you can start again when you feel better.

YouTube workout at home or a walk for the next couple of days. Or nothing!! You probably feel crap because you're forcing yourself to exercise when you need to rest. This sort of regime can't last.

Try to find a healthy balance.

XiCi · 30/09/2025 07:45

Just go then. It will compromise your immune system more, take longer for you to recover from your cold and potentially infect many others at the gym but you seem to have justified this to yourself already so crack on. No idea why you posted.

sittingonabeach · 30/09/2025 07:45

Go for a walk outside instead. No-one is going to thank you turning up ill

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

BitOutOfPractice · 30/09/2025 07:37

Speaking as someone who goes to the gym a lot, (most days for one thing or another) I think this is a bit of a worrying mindset op.

One missed session - that will be severely sub optimal anyway - will not negate all your hard work.

My PT would be telling you not to go. And so am I. And that’s without the issue of spreading germs.

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

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Harrysmummy246 · 30/09/2025 07:41

If you're too ill for the class, don't go to the gym and leave your germs everywhere please. YANBU to cancel but YABU to then go to the gym anyway.

If you feel like you need to move (not that you should because skipping would become a habit blah blah), go for a walk and stretch at home.

BitOutOfPractice · 30/09/2025 07:37

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:17

I can’t justify skipping entirely - I feel like I’m just falling into old habits where I use any old excuse to not go. I can handle some gentle cardio and muscle training, but not a high intensity class. Just feel like a failure!

Speaking as someone who goes to the gym a lot, (most days for one thing or another) I think this is a bit of a worrying mindset op.

One missed session - that will be severely sub optimal anyway - will not negate all your hard work.

My PT would be telling you not to go. And so am I. And that’s without the issue of spreading germs.

EmpressaurusKitty · 30/09/2025 07:37

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:29

For what it’s worth I’m pretty sure it’s not contagious. I’ve felt run down for a week now and nobody around me has picked it up.

Which is great, but you still shouldn’t be going on machines which other people will then be touching. Exercise at home or go for a brisk walk.

AnotherCrazyCatLady · 30/09/2025 07:37

Reading this makes me really frustrated!

You have said you feel like you have a "cold", in which case, it is contagious. It is selfish to turn up to the gym with a cold and participate in activities that will likely spread your illness to others.

Second, if you have been worn out, then your body will not benefit from exercising tonight – it needs rest. If you can't see this and think you must keep going to prove some kind of point with yourself, then you probably need a bit of self-analysis / support / counselling, because this is not a healthy or sustainable approach.

londongirl12 · 30/09/2025 07:35

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:17

I can’t justify skipping entirely - I feel like I’m just falling into old habits where I use any old excuse to not go. I can handle some gentle cardio and muscle training, but not a high intensity class. Just feel like a failure!

Then go for a power walk outside. You said you’ve woken up full of cold, so don’t be giving your germs to others!!!! I’d be pissed off if you turned up to my class with a runny nose/ sneezing etc.

Gizlotsmum · 30/09/2025 07:34

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:29

For what it’s worth I’m pretty sure it’s not contagious. I’ve felt run down for a week now and nobody around me has picked it up.

If you really must go to the gym please be aware of others, just because you don’t think it is contagious doesn’t mean it isn’t, also if you have felt off for a week maybe you just need to rest? I am having to miss classes as I have a broken foot, I hate it and really want to go back but I am taking drs advice and not going back early… a cold shouldn’t be any different. Recover then go back. I am going to do stuff at home but upper body only

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:33

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:29

For what it’s worth I’m pretty sure it’s not contagious. I’ve felt run down for a week now and nobody around me has picked it up.

Gotta love a back pedal! 😆

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:33

Baffling

just baffling

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 30/09/2025 07:31

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:17

I can’t justify skipping entirely - I feel like I’m just falling into old habits where I use any old excuse to not go. I can handle some gentle cardio and muscle training, but not a high intensity class. Just feel like a failure!

Please don’t go if you’re ill. There may be people there who are immunocompromised. Not as serious but still annoying, is that there will probably also be people there who have trained hard for things that are coming up shortly and all their hard work would be wasted if they caught your illness and couldn’t compete. I have a marathon and in two weeks and would be quite annoyed if all my training went to waste because someone knowingly came to the gym and spread their germs. Some places you have to go no matter what, some places you can avoid. This is one of them.

InMyOpenOnion · 30/09/2025 07:29

Part of being fit and healthy is knowing when not to exercise, and having the confidence to know it won't all go to hell in a handbasket if you miss a session. Let your body recover.