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To cancel my gym class I’m booked into tonight?

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:08

I’ve woken up full of cold and I feel like shit. All I want is to crawl into bed, but needs must and I need to go to work. My gym asks that you avoid cancelling on the day of a class, but you have to do it more than 4 hours before the class if you’re going to. I’ll see if I can still go to the gym at all, because I know I’m being lazy if I don’t, but AIBU to break their policy and cancel?

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 08:07

Spanador · 30/09/2025 08:05

What are you actually wanting from this thread? Your title was 'am I being unreasonable to cancel'. Everyone is saying that you should cancel, and yet you're arguing and saying you're not going to

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I’ve cancelled the class. I’m pushing back against the people who seem to think I should just bugger off home (which I have to do via public transport!)

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SagittariusDwarf · 30/09/2025 08:07

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 08:03

I’m aiming to go everyday. Started my new routine yesterday. I can’t just give up today.

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You started yesterday, when you'd already been feeling rough for a week? What was the point of that?

Ratafia · 30/09/2025 08:06

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:29

For what it’s worth I’m pretty sure it’s not contagious. I’ve felt run down for a week now and nobody around me has picked it up.

Don't be silly. You must have caught it from someone, it didn't just appear out of the blue.

Nina1013 · 30/09/2025 08:06

sittingonabeach · 30/09/2025 07:58

Why did you post if you are not listening to anyone?

This.

It takes a long time to reach obesity. It’ll take time to lose the weight too. One day will make not even the slightest bit of difference - if anything, resting when not 100% will actually help you go back stronger next time.

If you let yourself be obsessed and fixated, to the point you’re posting things like this and ignoring every single person’s response, you’re going to crash and burn and probably end up bigger than when you started. Weight loss and lifestyle change should be treated as a marathon, not a sprint.

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 08:05

So this new routine started… yesterday.

You have been to the gym ONCE

and here you are spending your morning having a peculiar chat with people who have no idea how ill you’re feeling about going back.

and throwing I. How you don’t think contagious is the icing on the cake

Ratafia · 30/09/2025 08:05

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:17

I can’t justify skipping entirely - I feel like I’m just falling into old habits where I use any old excuse to not go. I can handle some gentle cardio and muscle training, but not a high intensity class. Just feel like a failure!

Look, avoiding infecting other people is not being lazy. Keep your bugs to yourself. You can always do a bit of exercise at home, there are some great videos on Youtube.

Spanador · 30/09/2025 08:05

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

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What are you actually wanting from this thread? Your title was 'am I being unreasonable to cancel'. Everyone is saying that you should cancel, and yet you're arguing and saying you're not going to

notacooldad · 30/09/2025 08:03

Honestly, you are being ridiculous 🙄
You are not lazy, falling g into old habits and all that bollocks.

You need to let your body recover and not spread germs.

In all honestly, I cant see why its a mumsnet question. You know how you feel, we dont. However, she since you've asked for advice why are you not taking it instead of coming back trying to justify yourself.

This is on you, go or don't. You know how well you feel.

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 08:03

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 08:03

No? I said I feel like shit, but I’m not dying - both can be true.

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Op I don’t think anyone thought you were dying

as I say, this is silly

warmapplepies · 30/09/2025 08:03

Please don’t be selfish and infect everyone by going to the gym.

Go for a walk if you feel you have to do something.

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 08:03

SquishyGloopyBum · 30/09/2025 08:02

this is one of those odd AIBU where everyone agrees with your original question, but disagrees with you since.

Cancel the class but don’t go at all. How often do you go to the gym? Can you make up the missed session? It’s odd that you are being so inflexible about this. One missed class shouldn’t mean bad habits are creeping back in.

I’m aiming to go everyday. Started my new routine yesterday. I can’t just give up today.

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 08:03

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 08:00

so just… drama? Attention seeking?

Do you live alone?

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No? I said I feel like shit, but I’m not dying - both can be true.

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SquishyGloopyBum · 30/09/2025 08:02

this is one of those odd AIBU where everyone agrees with your original question, but disagrees with you since.

Cancel the class but don’t go at all. How often do you go to the gym? Can you make up the missed session? It’s odd that you are being so inflexible about this. One missed class shouldn’t mean bad habits are creeping back in.

XiCi · 30/09/2025 08:01

If you're desperate to do some form of exercise you don't need to go and infect everyone at the gym. You can literally step out the front door and have a brisk walk or do something more gentle online while you're feeling ill. Tai Chi or yin yoga for instance

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 08:00

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:55

It’s hyperbole. I feel like shit. But that doesn’t make it
a major thing. I feel like shit, so what? I can still get out of bed and function.

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so just… drama? Attention seeking?

Do you live alone?

MyDeftDuck · 30/09/2025 07:59

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

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For some, a cold might be a minor illness…….for anyone who is immunocompromised it can be very serious! Please do not go to the gym and spread your germs around in the environment and on the equipment. It won’t kill you to stay home and exercise but a common cold can be devastating for those vulnerable people who have underlying medical conditions.
Do the right thing and keep your germs to yourself.

itsgettingweird · 30/09/2025 07:58

Ours have a wait list for classes so although they ask you don’t cancel another patron will be glad if you do!

You cannot foresee illness with a 24 hour period in advance!

EmpressaurusKitty · 30/09/2025 07:58

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:55

Yes, but clearly I’m not dying if I can get out of bed!

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But that doesn’t mean it’s ok to risk spreading your germs at the gym, even if you don’t think you’re contagious. Go for a fast walk. Do press ups or step ups at home.

sittingonabeach · 30/09/2025 07:58

Why did you post if you are not listening to anyone?

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:55

dementedpixie · 30/09/2025 07:51

You got out of bed because you need to go to work

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Yes, but clearly I’m not dying if I can get out of bed!

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TigerRag · 30/09/2025 07:55

Why did you post if you're just going to ignore everyone? You may have a minor cold but for someone like me with asthma, that makes me unwell for 2-3 weeks

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SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:55

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:52

good grief

the drama op

this is silly

presumably you barely have an appetite? So you’ll lose weight today anyway.

One minute massive hyperbole re how you’re feeling, the next… no biggie

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It’s hyperbole. I feel like shit. But that doesn’t make it
a major thing. I feel like shit, so what? I can still get out of bed and function.

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BitOutOfPractice · 30/09/2025 07:53

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:43

It’s not worrying. I’m obese. I can’t just start skipping the gym for minor reasons.

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Being ill is not a minor reason. Skipping one session will not make you put weight on.

Signed, an overweight gym goer.

Look I know you feel that you have to be 100% focused or it’ll all go to shit. But trust me, it won’t. Your fitness and wellBeings a lifelong journey, one day will not make the impact you think.

Why not do some recovery stretching at home if you feel you must.

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:52

Just don’t scoff your face today, crack on with work and reschedule the class

Halfaday · 30/09/2025 07:52

SoftCyanWool · 30/09/2025 07:49

I feel like crap. But I’m still able to get out of bed. That is a minor reason.

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good grief

the drama op

this is silly

presumably you barely have an appetite? So you’ll lose weight today anyway.

One minute massive hyperbole re how you’re feeling, the next… no biggie