Would you hit someone else’s child?

I’m a lover not a fighter, I wouldn’t hit anyone.

Why are so many ppl having a go at @Wtfneighbour?
She is absolutely not the only person who would wonder do other ppl behave like that, she clearly grew up seeing it. If you all never, fair dos.
I grew up with it. Also had a parent want to challenge me over my child.
Then also had my child attacked by another with a weapon, friends strongly suggested I should deal with the mum. I never wanted to lay hands, I did talk to her that kid was horrid told her he’s either going to end up in jail or dead. He was locked up last I heard. My opinion is I’d rather not, however it would depend I’d watch nobody attack my child regardless

Not unless someone hits me first or I witness something that requires physicality to stop (well not now, its much harder to thump someone from a wheelchair).

Eg - someone beating up a child or an animal.

I did once have a reputation for being a 'hard cow' - but it wasn't really warranted. I broke a girls wrist -but not intentionally. She'd leaned over a (relatively low) toilet cubicle, grabbed my hair as I'd stood up - I put both hands up over her wrist to stop her ripping out a chunk and slipped on the wet floor and went down like a stone. Her wrist took the brunt of the force over the edge of the cubicle.

Obviously I didn't tell anyone that I hadn't done it on purpose - it meant my attacker dropped her spurious 'you shagged a bloke I once shagged' accusation (I shagged a bloke with the same name, that I had met in a pub her ex used to frequent. Somehow in the chinese whispers local gossip, a mix up occurred!) and left me well alone.

I don't think hitting folk is generally the way to resolve issues and its certainly not the method I'd pick first. However I have met some people who will only let something drop if they are genuinely terrified that the other person is more violent than they are!

I might physically restart someone about to struck or was shouting at a child. I have a pretty loud voice so me shouting at them to stop and getting between them might be enough- certainly wouldn’t hit someone.

No but my child has witnessed a fight between two women over a man on the playground the teachers dropped the blinds in the classroom and did a spontaneous music time while sending out the male teachers and SLT to deal with it all

I missed all of it because I was working but my child minder gave me a good gossip run down

WTF you'll get arrested. Just tell your kid to punch back. My DS gave a bully a black eye in year 9 after months of bullying. We didn't know about the bullying until school called to say DS has been in a fight (which he thoroughly won).

I definitely wouldn't have hit the child (as I'd get arrested) or hit the child's parents (I'd also get arrested). Bully's DMum actually apologised to me.

I wouldn't hit anyone because I wouldn't want a criminal record. If it weren't illegal I would have hit many people already.
I wouldn't hit anyone I loved.

Name changed for this. My mum once picked up a child who had been bullying me and threw him into a hedge. Sounds bad, but she’d happened to be walking past the bust stop when we were dropped off and seen him push me into the road into oncoming traffic, so I think it was a reaction.
His parents came round to complain, she told them what had happened and funnily enough he got bollocked, no repercussions on her.
So, absolutely not and your grandparent sounds like they glory in the violence and aren’t a nice person, but sometimes it does happen and isn’t bad per se.

Sounds like a rough old family. I've never known it to happen, not in my sons days at school, nor mine.

What you describe was never normal and I went to school in the 70s early 80s when things could be a bit rough but never that rough.
A dinner lady by the throat is he insane?
If any of the above really happened.

Your family's proper scummy.

I think with bullies you have to verbally go for the jugular (peer to peer), and be prepared to physically take them on- why martial arts are good for kids.

With teachers you need to be polite but very firm. I haven’t engaged a child in the playground, but know people who have, and think they all are glad they did.

No of course not because apart from the morals of it i don't want to be charged with assault
I'm 52 in a few weeks it was more socially acceptable to hit/ smack children in the past by parents and teachers ,I for example remember getting smacked across the legs by a teacher at primary school for dropping a crisp packet in the playground, that doesn't make it right ,but it certainly happened ime.

Over the years I've come across families like this..they exist even now.
The only incident I had was being bullied by a much older girl..around 1976, I was around 10 and she must have been 14ish from a rough local family. She started on me not realising my DGF was in our garden and could see her hitting and pushing me egged on by her 'gang', he picked up a big stick and walked very purposefully towards her. Once she realised he was there she ran so he turned round, walked straight to her house and 'had words' with her father. He also 'had words' at work...more visits from the local plod was the result. Bullying stopped. He never raised a hand to anyone in his life so I'm sure she wouldn't have got a wallop..but she will never know.

You grab them by the clothes, sometimes hair and shake/push them about. It's a shake combined with a grab.
Re dinner ladies, a parent would usually confront them outside school, people tended to be local. Back in the 70/80s I've known a few nasty ones to get threatened. If things continued, it would get physical. If you watch really old, coronation street, there were physical fights and a lot of shouting matches, that how things were. There was an abuse of power by our teachers. It was only the threat of an irate parent waiting for them, that kept them in check. Middle class people had absolute power.

What does scragged mean? How do you Scragg someone?

Your grandparent is a violent scumbag.

I work with someone like this who thinks it's justified to attack the parents for the actions of the children. She is unhinged and often makes comments that she doesn't have any mum friends. It's not a flex civilized people don't act this way.

Your family sound rough as toast. And not normal at all.

What do you expect everyone to say ??? Course it’s wrong to hit anyone unless you want to be arrested jeez ! Pointless thread

No, I'd never hit anyone, unless I or someone I love was being physically attacked by someone violent and needed to defend myself or them to survive in the moment.

Parents physically attacking teachers and dinner ladies absolutely was not the norm when my children were going to school in the 1990s.

It would have been classed as assault and the police would have been called and the parents arrested.

No. Never.

Definetly not

I was attacked by two school mums who claimed my 5 year old was bullying there's. He had fell into one of their children at PE time snd both children had banged heads ( saw by teacher who told them it was an accident ) they harassed me and intimidated me for 18 months after before they finally got bored. I was anorexic at the time, I'm 5'1 and both of these women were double the size of me.

He's just recently been diagnosed with dyspraxia 🤦‍♀️

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I have a friend whose child is always complaining about being bullied.... he isn't being bullied..... kids annoy each other and he gets really angry about it and flips. His mum is in school every other day complaining that he's being picked on.... same child has just had a 2 day in school exclusion for being violent but according to his mum he's reacting to the bullying....

I'm a primary school teacher and in the early days of my career I was threatened, cornered, grabbed and yelled at by parents a handful of times. It was over issues like lost, unlabelled items of uniform, child not being given X part in nativity, sports day teams, an end of week certificate and missing dinner money respectively. Some parents at that school felt that getting physical with a meek 22-year old was absolutely fair game.