Been made to feel like a outcast at work :(

Oh was that what it was! I re-read the OP three times trying to find what it was she was ETA ing.

"Giving opinions on patients" in a meeting seems like a rather odd expectation.

At what point is it bullying? About now I'd say

I’m so sorry you are having that experience. I had the same and I believe it’s not unusual in the NHS. I was in an admin role and I don’t know if it’s the nature of the work, poor management, or the very hierarchical culture, but the office dynamics were harsh and hostile. I stayed far too long and retired early, it having made me ill. Please don’t make my mistake there are better places to work.

Sounds like lots of the wards my friends have worked on, see if you can get moved to something more suitable.

If someone rolls their eyes when you speak, ask why. Does he/she have a different opinion? What is it? Does he/she think making facial grimaces at another member of staff is professional behaviour, and in the interests of a patient? Embarrass him/her in front of others. Then speak to your manager and tell her how you feel and why. Sorry if I sound blunt, but you don’t need to be treated like that by so called colleagues.

Hrft but that's is bullying.

Have you got a ftsu team ?

Sounds like an awful culture on that ward. Are you able to have an honest and open conversation with your line manager?

That's so crap and unfair. I'm sorry.

Same here. I got a job as a trainee nursing associate a few years ago. I was really excited but the experience on the ward was so awful that I quit after 3 months. I’ve never known anything like it. And the senior staff just seem to accept it as the norm.

Exactly, if they're bullying a colleague they're probably also not treating their ND patients well either.

I hate bullies, time to get reporting 👩‍💻

I’m sorry you’re having a tough time at work @Thelily. It sounds quite toxic and as such it isn’t an environment you can (single handedly) change.

TBH I think it says more about them than you! I know it won’t be any consolation but research suggests that bullying is quite prevalent amongst nursing staff.

Autism and Adhd are both recognised as long term condition that can be classed as disabilities for that purpose absolutely.

Depressing that this seems so prevalent in what is supposed to be a caring environment. I used to work as a TA and that was similarly toxic - 2 or 3 older TAs who'd been there forever took an instant dislike to any new staff, ridiculous really. They're still working there 15 years on and still moaning!

People can be so mean. 🙁There were mean girls at one of my previous jobs and it was horrible. I have no advice except either to try to ignore them or find another job.

It’s awful to dread going to work and be so upset about it. I’ve been there. Wish I’d got out sooner, however if you are reliant on your income it’s really hard.

move wards. tell your manager you are really unhappy and why. ask to be placed elsewhere. its just replying to her 'are you all right' with the truth

I'm just about to leave a workplace like this. I lasted 4 years and it's massively affected my physical and mental health. I felt I couldn't leave because I'm a single parent. If I could go back in time, I'd leave straight away. I'm so sorry you're going through this and look into working somewhere else, if you can.

Definitely look for another job, but also keep records and report them to the NMC on the way out. They sound extremely unpleasant and deserve the stress of potentially being suspended 😈

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I’m sure there are Equality and Dignity at Work policies which state this kind of behaviour is discriminatory / bullying. That said, employers can’t make colleagues be friendly towards you and treat you like everyone else.

Prehaps if you have the confidence to, next time you say good morning to someone and they don’t reply, repeat it louder. You could ask them if they’re ok as you’re ‘worried’ they’re not their usual chatty selves….the chatty self you’ve probably witnessed them being towards others.

I have worked with two people in my career who were like this towards me yet chatted to colleagues they’d known for ages. It was horrible because I was polite and friendly and it was would destroying trying to second guess why they didn’t like me / what I’d done wrong etc etc eventually I plucked up the courage to ask someone else how they got on with them, and discovered it wasn’t me - it was them and that they would only chat to certain people.

This is sad for the OP but sad for the service provided being less than it could be. If a team member does not have psychological safety they do not speak up, question things, learn lessons and so on.
This is management at its worst.

No, it's not normal. Not replying when you say good morning, rolling their eyes when you ask them something, staring at you..... I think you need your manager's support with this situation.

This is bullying! Go to your manager and say what you’ve said in your post. It’s absolutely not acceptable to treat you this way. So much for the caring profession.

What do you mean when I get lunch!!!! You should be entitled to get one every day

Sorry to read this. My advice, I was recently in The spire for 5 days, what a lovely ward, all the nurses were fab, such a lovely vibe, over staffed, no one was stressed or under pressure, just a lovely environment. They spent time with patients, proper nursing at its best. A few I spoke to in depth had left the NHS due to similar situations, crying at work, under pressure. It’s time to look for something else Lily and don’t rule out the private sector. They all said that being happy at work now was worth more than the NHS pension a long way down the line.

auADHD can be recognised as a disability. It might be worth reminding your supervisor / manager that disability is a protected characteristic under the Equality Act 2010