Two adults cornered and scolded my 7yo

Not read the post then.

OTT means over the top.

In other words, the parents overreacted. Did you understand that's what I meant?

Yes; i know someone whose head was held in the fumes from boiling ammonia by a bully at school.

Sixty years later he still has no sense of smell.

Can I just say something here. I’m disabled. I was at school in the sixties and seventies. I was variously assaulted by being thrown down a set of stairs by another child, so that I chipped a tooth and had to be hospitalised for concussion. Was punched in the stomach by the school bully - again hospitalised. Came into school every single day to find that my desk had been broken into, stuff stolen, pen nibs broken, ink bottles opened and thrown over everything, homework ruined. Called names like cripple, spas, retard and worse. Accused of stealing, which was investigated by teachers in front of the rest of the class even though I could prove I was somewhere else at the time. Sent to Coventry for no other reason than my disability and waited for by the school bully outside the school in a quiet corner of the village and beaten up - two or three times a week.

The school did nothing, despite regular complaints and meetings from and with my parents, and when once or twice I retaliated I was the one who was sent to detention and blamed for being a ‘bully’. Eventually I was moved to another school because the authorities weren’t willing to discipline those responsible.

This is what real bullying looked like. It drove me to consider suicide and attempt to harm myself. Thankfully there are far more safeguards in place now than when I was at school. So forgive me if I don’t consider one seven year old saying to another ‘ you’re dead’. They’re words.

Nope. Pretty standard when I was at school. Problem is that in successive generations we’ve brought up our children to believe that words can hurt as much as physical assault, and now, as this OP demonstrates, we’re reaping the rewards by having children who are not in the least resilient.

No, it’s really not. It’s a standard phrase for a seven year old and really doesn’t mean anything. What kind of a world are we going to have in a few years time if kids are brought up being scared of casual words.

Read the thread !! The parents who cornered OP’s son were not the parents who were giving the party. And the extent of the ‘bullying’ was OP’s son saying ‘you’re dead’ to their son. Which is a pretty standard thing for kids of this age.

If your son was bullying their done, why would he invite him yo the party or was it not those parents?

Yes, I believe that if parents were unhappy with a school policy, they should follow the school's grievance policy and make their case to the school, governors, or EFSA

You are lucky you have had good responses from other parents. Ours was mixed. 2 dad's stepped in to protect ds, for which i am eternally grateful. A number of other parents expressed sympathy after. A surprising number attempted to remain neutral. I found that mind blowing and have been unable to havr any sort of relationship with those parents subsequently

If a school's policy is to kick up a rumpus because one seven year old says something quite ordinary to another seven year old, not in the least "in anger" but as a comment on a situation, and nobody at the time thinks anything wrong about it, that school's staff are going to be going mad, before resigning in droves and looking for somewhere less given to making mountains out of molehills and traumatising all the pupils until they don't dare to speak to each other at all.

And if such silliness is normal school policy, I think it is indeed time all parents read up on it and then raised complaints about it.

I don't have a dog in this fight. I invite you to read up on school policies yourself. You may be in for a surprise.

Yes, there are not enough facts here op.

Definitely it sounds like a strong reaction from them, but its hard to say without hearing what they think happened. ETA sorry op, I hadn't seen your updates - hadn't realised there were any. Yes, it's way ott for saying you're dead.

Indeed. A death threat… ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

Only if the school is run by a complete idiot.

Obviously not. It would be a quick chat "that's a silly thing to say.even as a joke," in any school I've taught.

Fair play for the admission - I just get so annoyed when I see all the messages on here calling a 7 year old names or jus presuming he’s a bull based on virtually nothing.

OP has already talked to the teacher. There have been no incidents of bullying or any indication of the two boys not getting on.

At least read the OP's updates before posting.

I’d make a report tp the police about what happened at the party. What they did was abosolutely not ok.

It was not the child that was cornered party. He was there as a guest

Not sure how this would apply only to the OP's child and not the other, given that you yourself say "well both tbh". The bullies made a mistake in believing what their child said, fer sher. The OP seems not to have done, but checked her child's story just to make certain.

Turns out the bullied child was the OP's (bullied by the nasty adults at the party) and the other is a silly little boy, or possibly a little boy who, bullied by the parents who have revealed themselves to all as being bullies, told a porky to turn away their wrath from himself and onto someone else.

well both tbh
But the PP had intimated that the mother should 'always believe what her child says'. Absolutely not true. Children are renowned for leaving details out to paint themselves in a better light. It's part of their charm!

You really make yourself look like a tit if you respond to the op without bothering to even read any of their updates.

Oh love. Read the fucking thread.